Friend Issue

[doc444ever]

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I'll come straight to the point. I had this friend since high school who I thought was very close to me. Me and him argue sometimes but at the end, everything is behind us while we sit back and enjoy a couple of laughs together.

So today, we had plans to get some food but he apparently had other plans. I know because I wanted to surprise him in a new car but as I approached his house, I saw him pulling into his driveway. But earlier on today,I asked him if he wanted to talk for a couple of minutes but he said, no sorry, I am very sick, etc. The moral of the story is that he lied. He was enjoying his time outside while I was worried about him at home so when i paid him a visit, I found out nothing was actually wrong. So today, when I saw him perfectly fine, I just drove back home. I was really hurt by him.

Should I continue being friends with a person who can't speak up to his friend about making other plans. I know he committed to me first but I would understand if he just simply told me the truth instead of making up some random story.

P.S. I apologize in advance if I placed this topic in the wrong section.

 

[911 Turbo]

I'll come straight to the point. I had this friend since high school who I thought was very close to me. Me and him argue sometimes but at the end, everything is behind us while we sit back and enjoy a couple of laughs together.

So today, we had plans to get some food but he apparently had other plans. I know because I wanted to surprise him in a new car but as I approached his house, I saw him pulling into his driveway. But earlier on today,I asked him if he wanted to talk for a couple of minutes but he said, no sorry, I am very sick, etc. The moral of the story is that he lied. He was enjoying his time outside while I was worried about him at home so when i paid him a visit, I found out nothing was actually wrong. So today, when I saw him perfectly fine, I just drove back home. I was really hurt by him.

Should I continue being friends with a person who can't speak up to his friend about making other plans. I know he committed to me first but I would understand if he just simply told me the truth instead of making up some random story.

P.S. I apologize in advance if I placed this topic in the wrong section.

Good execution and effort, but you gave it away with "P.S. I apologize in advance if I placed this topic in the wrong section."

 

[Doctor Strange]

Sometimes people just don't want to hangout and come up with random excuses. It happens. Grow up and move on.

 

[Radon XP]

Confront him about it and then become really broody/moody for a good week or two.

 

[SunsFun]

Wrong forum. Premeds don't have friends. Try podiatry.

 

[911 Turbo]

Confront him about it and then become really broody/moody for a good week or two.

Yeah, that'll show him!

 

[doc444ever]

Good execution and effort, but you gave it away with "P.S. I apologize in advance if I placed this topic in the wrong section."

I asked for a simple opinion of what you guys on sdn thought of this. I know there is place on this forum to post questions about things other than premedical but I wasn't able to find it. This is why I included the apology. I guess no one appreciates a wise guy these days but I'll give you credit since its due.

 

[911 Turbo]

Wrong forum. Premeds don't have friends. Try podiatry.

Lol good point

 

[Radon XP]

Yeah, that'll show him!

I was trolling.

 

[911 Turbo]

I asked for a simple opinion of what you guys on sdn thought of this. I know there is place on this forum to post questions about things other than premedical but I wasn't able to find it. This is why I included the apology. I guess no one appreciates a wise guy these days but I'll give you credit since its due.

Lol if this isn't a troll thread then I don't know what to tell you. Talk to your friend and not to random people on the Internet

 

[doc444ever]

Sometimes people just don't want to hangout and come up with random excuses. It happens. Grow up and move on.

I'm pretty good about that. Many times I don't feel like hanging out with him either but atleast I'm honest about it. I just refuse. He lied straight up to me.

 

[doc444ever]

Lol if this isn't a troll thread then I don't know what to tell you. Talk to your friend and not to random people on the Internet

I tried calling him but he isn't picking up. I guess true friends don't exist anymore. Also, I know when I say this, he will just refuse and say he was sleeping or something.

 

[La Presse]

Sigh...this is why "no new friends no no new."

 

[KnuxNole]

This doesn't seem like a big deal whatsoever. Especially if you guys are close friends. De stress and deal with it later, and everything will be alright.

Maybe he IS really sick, and drove out to get medicine...and now trying to get some rest 🙂

 

[A7X]

Wrong forum.

 

[SunsFun]

Why do you need him to be friends with you so bad anyway? Unless his father or uncle is a doctor that you can shadow and get a STRONG Lor from, you shouldn't be wasting your time on him. Go volunteer or do some research instead.

 

[Doctor Strange]

This is like one of those movies where the one friend is super obsessed with the other friend and goes on a murderous rampage.

 

[doc444ever]

Why do you need him to be friends with you so bad anyway? Unless his father or uncle is a doctor that you can shadow and get a STRONG Lor from, you shouldn't be wasting your time on him. Go volunteer or do some research instead.

His mom is a physician, head of the cardiology department and lead admission specialist for Vanderbilt's Medical School. Being friends with this guy might help during acceptance time.

 

[yehhhboiii]

are you a girl

 

[Almost7Famous]

This is like one of those movies where the one friend is super obsessed with the other friend and goes on a murderous rampage.

 

[487806]

This is like one of those movies where the one friend is super obsessed with the other friend and goes on a murderous rampage.

I was about to reply to OP, but this quote right here sums it up nicely. Now I forgot what I was about to say... 👎

 

[KnuxNole]

His mom is a physician, head of the cardiology department and lead admission specialist for Vanderbilt's Medical School. Being friends with this guy might help during acceptance time.

I hope this is a joke.

If I knew my buddy wants to befriend me cause my parent is an adcom, I'd start laughing at the person's face outright.

Also, it sounds like you don't think he's a good friend, so if you are saying it's good to befriend him for benefits(and not the fun kind!), just suck up everything, don't open your mouth, and go with the flow...

...or just do whatever and not base friendships on something trivial like their parents are an adcom

 

[TheWeeIceMan]

are you a girl

+1. I was waiting for someone to ask this.

 

[TheShaker]

Between your classes, EC's, MCAT, and prestudying for MS1, I don't see how you people manage to have time for friends...

 

[SilverCat]

His mom is a physician, head of the cardiology department and lead admission specialist for Vanderbilt's Medical School. Being friends with this guy might help during acceptance time.

It won't help you in the least bit. Read what LizzyM says about how she personally begged the adcom to consider a friend of hers, and got nothing.

Being friends with him isn't going to get you into Vandy. Sorry.

 

[doc444ever]

It won't help you in the least bit. Read what LizzyM says about how she personally begged the adcom to consider a friend of hers, and got nothing.

Being friends with him isn't going to get you into Vandy. Sorry.

I understand that but my gpa is around a 3.9 and recently took a practice AAMC and scored a 35. So with some more practice, i'm hoping to get it to a 37. Stats wise I am very competitive for Vandy but I'm sure 99% of the people who apply there are also similar to me in that comparison. If I know his mom at a personal level, then she will be able to better understand that I belong at that college vs some random admission specialist who will be judging me within the 30 minute interview time frame.

 

[Doctor Strange]

I understand that but my gpa is around a 3.9 and recently took a practice AAMC and scored a 35. So with some more practice, i'm hoping to get it to a 37. Stats wise I am very competitive for Vandy but I'm sure 99% of the people who apply there are also similar to me in that comparison. If I know his mom at a personal level, then she will be able to better understand that I belong at that college vs some random admission specialist who will be judging me within the 30 minute interview time frame.

Obvious troll is obvious. If not, this is so pathetic.

 

[487806]

I understand that but my gpa is around a 3.9 and recently took a practice AAMC and scored a 35. So with some more practice, i'm hoping to get it to a 37. Stats wise I am very competitive for Vandy but I'm sure 99% of the people who apply there are also similar to me in that comparison. If I know his mom at a personal level, then she will be able to better understand that I belong at that college vs some random admission specialist who will be judging me within the 30 minute interview time frame.

Obvious troll is obvious. If not, this is so pathetic.

Agreed. OP just confirmed his trolling.

 

[Toss]

It won't help you in the least bit. Read what LizzyM says about how she personally begged the adcom to consider a friend of hers, and got nothing.

Being friends with him isn't going to get you into Vandy. Sorry.

Story time/link.

 

[KnuxNole]

I understand that but my gpa is around a 3.9 and recently took a practice AAMC and scored a 35. So with some more practice, i'm hoping to get it to a 37. Stats wise I am very competitive for Vandy but I'm sure 99% of the people who apply there are also similar to me in that comparison. If I know his mom at a personal level, then she will be able to better understand that I belong at that college vs some random admission specialist who will be judging me within the 30 minute interview time frame.

 

[Toss]

[YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ERNeIxz79VU[/YOUTUBE]

 

[KnuxNole]

[YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ERNeIxz79VU[/YOUTUBE]

👍

 

[doc444ever]

I don't know why you aren't all giving serious feedback. I am really tensed about it. I mentioned stats just to prove that I am not some random emotional premed whining about his problems. I was honest and open to you guys about my issue, the least i deserve is some respect.

 

[487806]

I don't know why you aren't all giving serious feedback. I am really tensed about it. I mentioned stats just to prove that I am not some random emotional premed whining about his problems. I was honest and open to you guys about my issue, the least i deserve is some respect.

Already given.

Sometimes people just don't want to hangout and come up with random excuses. It happens. Grow up and move on.

 

[KnuxNole]

I don't know why you aren't all giving serious feedback. I am really tensed about it. I mentioned stats just to prove that I am not some random emotional premed whining about his problems. I was honest and open to you guys about my issue, the least i deserve is some respect.

How is giving your stats meaningful in any way? The situation, regardless if you had a 2.0 GPA or a 4.0, seems like something from a Disney Channel sitcom between two middle school girls. The sentence saying "He didn't pick up his phone! I guess true friends don't exist omg" seems overdramatic...

 

[iforget2]

I understand that but my gpa is around a 3.9 and recently took a practice AAMC and scored a 35. So with some more practice, i'm hoping to get it to a 37. Stats wise I am very competitive for Vandy but I'm sure 99% of the people who apply there are also similar to me in that comparison. If I know his mom at a personal level, then she will be able to better understand that I belong at that college vs some random admission specialist who will be judging me within the 30 minute interview time frame.

Even if you get to know his mom, why do you think she'll understand you belong there? Sorry, but we don't see what the problem is here. The worst that could happen is that you apply and do an interview just like all the other applicants..

 

[TheWeeIceMan]

I don't know why you aren't all giving serious feedback. I am really tensed about it. I mentioned stats just to prove that I am not some random emotional premed whining about his problems. I was honest and open to you guys about my issue, the least i deserve is some respect.

Welcome to the internet.

Seriously though, sometimes people just don't want to hang out/talk so they make up excuses so as not to hurt the other person's feelings. If one of my friends asks me to go do something and I'd much rather just sit home in my underwear and watch t.v, I'm probably not going to straight up tell them that. It's human nature. Doesn't mean that this dude doesn't want to be friends with you.

 

[Person0715]

How is giving your stats meaningful in any way? The situation, regardless if you had a 2.0 GPA or a 4.0, seems like something from a Disney Channel sitcom between two middle school girls. The sentence saying "He didn't pick up his phone! I guess true friends don't exist omg" seems overdramatic...

Exactly, personally I don't think it's a big deal. Even the closest of people get fed up with each other and need some time apart.

 

[theBruceWayne]

Bring him food and mix laxatives in it.

 

[Aaja]

If this is not a troll bait thread, I'm seriously wondering if the OP is 13 years old, doesn't seems like the kind of thing that a 20 something would give too much of a gruff about when they are so busy getting school credits, volunteer hours, getting laid or earning money.

I have a hunch if this is a serious thread, the male best friend has a new girlfriend who doesn't want him hanging around a female special friend without benefits because the gf is worried there could be benefits in the future.

Be polite, ask him if you did something to offend him, ask him politely if he's dating a girl or something. If that's so, it's probably not you, it's the GF that thinks you will sleep with the friend and has given death threats to the male friend to stay away from you with a 9 foot pole for the time being. He's probably just keeping it cool in this case to avoid a catfight.

EDIT: I assume the OP is a female so if the OP is a male then I have no idea what is the jist.

 

[askamsky51]

I tried calling him but he isn't picking up. I guess true friends don't exist anymore. Also, I know when I say this, he will just refuse and say he was sleeping or something.

I wonder how dramatic you are with women. I hear they really like desperate, needy guys with low self esteem.

 

[amazing tekkers]

Get new friends...

 

[doc444ever]

If this is not a troll bait thread, I'm seriously wondering if the OP is 13 years old, doesn't seems like the kind of thing that a 20 something would give too much of a gruff about when they are so busy getting school credits, volunteer hours, getting laid or earning money.

I have a hunch if this is a serious thread, the male best friend has a new girlfriend who doesn't want him hanging around a female special friend without benefits because the gf is worried there could be benefits in the future.

Be polite, ask him if you did something to offend him, ask him politely if he's dating a girl or something. If that's so, it's probably not you, it's the GF that thinks you will sleep with the friend and has given death threats to the male friend to stay away from you with a 9 foot pole for the time being. He's probably just keeping it cool in this case to avoid a catfight.

EDIT: I assume the OP is a female so if the OP is a male then I have no idea what is the jist.

You are absolutely right about the girlfriend part. I guess he wants to dedicate time to her instead of me. I wasn't coming in the way of him and his girlfriend. I just wanted some personal time with him. Is that too much to ask nowadays? and all of this for some girl?? I just wish he will soon realize that the girl wouldn't think twice before leaving him behind but I wouldn't even think of such a thing, far from actually moving on. I guess the first sweethearts are the ones we learn our most valuable lessons from.

 

[SunsFun]

You are absolutely right about the girlfriend part. I guess he wants to dedicate time to her instead of me. I wasn't coming in the way of him and his girlfriend. I just wanted some personal time with him. Is that too much to ask nowadays? and all of this for some girl?? I just wish he will soon realize that the girl wouldn't think twice before leaving him behind but I wouldn't even think of such a thing, far from actually moving on. I guess the first sweethearts are the ones we learn our most valuable lessons from.

Have you tried reaching out to his girlfriend? Maybe you could work your way through her into him and his mom?

 

[StephanieZ]

Why do you need him to be friends with you so bad anyway? Unless his father or uncle is a doctor that you can shadow and get a STRONG Lor from, you shouldn't be wasting your time on him. Go volunteer or do some research instead.

Lol, spoken like a true gunner 👍

 

[Toss]

You are absolutely right about the girlfriend part. I guess he wants to dedicate time to her instead of me. I wasn't coming in the way of him and his girlfriend. I just wanted some personal time with him. Is that too much to ask nowadays? and all of this for some girl?? I just wish he will soon realize that the girl wouldn't think twice before leaving him behind but I wouldn't even think of such a thing, far from actually moving on. I guess the first sweethearts are the ones we learn our most valuable lessons from.

So you are a female in a similar situation to what vasca laid out?

If so, the bolded sentence above is contradictory.

 

[KnuxNole]

You are absolutely right about the girlfriend part. I guess he wants to dedicate time to her instead of me. I wasn't coming in the way of him and his girlfriend. I just wanted some personal time with him. Is that too much to ask nowadays? and all of this for some girl?? I just wish he will soon realize that the girl wouldn't think twice before leaving him behind but I wouldn't even think of such a thing, far from actually moving on. I guess the first sweethearts are the ones we learn our most valuable lessons from.

Based on your reason for keeping the friendship...I can see the heart-to-heart convo:

"Bro, I've never leave you like her, your friendship is valuable to me!"
"That's cool, what about me makes you feel that way?"
"Your mom can totally put a word in so I can get into Vandy! Better me than those other lame people amirite"
"Uh....my mom alone can't do ****. Try again."

 

[911 Turbo]

Based on your reason for keeping the friendship...I can see the heart-to-heart convo:

"Bro, I've never leave you like her, your friendship is valuable to me!"
"That's cool, what about me makes you feel that way?"
"Your mom can totally put a word in so I can get into Vandy! Better me than those other lame people amirite"
"Uh....my mom alone can't do ****. Try again."

lol when did you become a resident??

 

[KnuxNole]

lol when did you become a resident??

A week ago. 😀

Yet I still found myself browsing the pre-allo forums. It's where the more interesting stuff occurs...so it's hard to break away

 

[Doctor Strange]

You are absolutely right about the girlfriend part. I guess he wants to dedicate time to her instead of me. I wasn't coming in the way of him and his girlfriend. I just wanted some personal time with him. Is that too much to ask nowadays? and all of this for some girl?? I just wish he will soon realize that the girl wouldn't think twice before leaving him behind but I wouldn't even think of such a thing, far from actually moving on. I guess the first sweethearts are the ones we learn our most valuable lessons from.

Can't he see that you're the one that understand him? Been there all along. So why can't he see? He belongs with you.

Standing by there waiting at his back door. All this time how could he not know, baby? He belongs with you!