Help-I matched where I don't want to go

[Jatpot]

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Op's gotta get some perspective here.

If you want to be a surgeon, I mean "100% can't do anything else without second guessing your career choice for the rest of you life" then go to the program and suck it up and learn how to be the best surgeon you can be.

If being close to your family (which is totally valid to be a high priority) and in the sun means more to you, sit down and think about if you could be happy in a less competitive field that would facilitate those needs...maybe a residency that will allow you time to enjoy the weather...

I'm moving to the NE, away from my family (we are super close). My husband and I will be apart for at least 6 months while he finishes up work in Chicago. And I'm sad, but excited b/c as long as I put my head down and work, in 5 years I'll be a surgeon. Surgery is the only thing I want to do with my degree. There's people out there who feel the same way and didn't match; if you don't want to be where you are, give one of them a chance at your program.

Best of luck; it's a tough position to be in. Think about what makes you happy, in the short term and big picture.

 

[smq123]

Punch-buggy. You're Asian, aren't you?

I'm sorry, but the comment implying being "Anglo-Saxon" and not being close with one's parents or relatives is a bit of an ethnic stereotype in the Asian world, is it not? I've known plenty of Asian kids who'd sooner throw their parents into a nursing home for them to rot away than spend any more time than they had to with them.

It's also prevalent in the Hispanic world, to be fair. I've had a number of Hispanic people tell me that "I didn't understand!" how close Latino families can be.

Trust me, I do understand. I really, really do. (Of course, on their part it was probably more voluntary, whereas mine has sometimes been somewhat coerced, but, whatever.)

And if the OP is from Florida, that could make sense.

2. The cost of living shouldn't be that high. Small town is way easier to afford than big city.

My sister also did residency in a smaller city, with a lower cost of living. On a resident's salary, that makes a big difference. She could actually afford a large apartment, and have enough money left over to go shopping without too much guilt.

So, go out and enjoy the rest of fourth year! You matched, you have a job next year and it's at a good program - plenty to be happy about. 🙂

 

[DrDawg]

The distance may workout to your advantage, a three hour flight is not nearly as bad as a five hour drive. You can sleep, read, or whatever. The important thing is direct flights. Enroll in a frequent flier program early. Best of luck.