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Disgruntled first year med student here...
My partner of almost six years seemed to understand and support me before school started, and made all sorts of extravagant promises about how she'd stand by me and help me out once I was in school.
Well, school started, and what I see is me getting yelled at for not being able to come home early, take days off whenever I'd like, or have weekends free. I don't think my partner has any real idea what I do or how hard I work. She has an additional barrier in that she barely graduated from high school and didn't go to college, so she really had no idea what med school entails and apparently still doesn't.
Any ideas on how I can settle her down and help her understand WHY I have to work so hard and spend so much time studying, without turning the discussion into a string of whiny complaints or accusing her of not being supportive? (which may be true, but will probably not help anything).
ps. My school has no support for medical spouses or partners, and even if it existed, I'm not sure she'd go.
My partner of almost six years seemed to understand and support me before school started, and made all sorts of extravagant promises about how she'd stand by me and help me out once I was in school.
Well, school started, and what I see is me getting yelled at for not being able to come home early, take days off whenever I'd like, or have weekends free. I don't think my partner has any real idea what I do or how hard I work. She has an additional barrier in that she barely graduated from high school and didn't go to college, so she really had no idea what med school entails and apparently still doesn't.
Any ideas on how I can settle her down and help her understand WHY I have to work so hard and spend so much time studying, without turning the discussion into a string of whiny complaints or accusing her of not being supportive? (which may be true, but will probably not help anything).
ps. My school has no support for medical spouses or partners, and even if it existed, I'm not sure she'd go.