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Do you guys know of a better plan for me? What do I do if I don't get in to the vet school near his grad school?
I'm excited to be a vet and passionate about my dream but when people just say "you have to always put your career first," it turns me off. There is more to life. However, I now think that although I'm willing to go to a vet school that is not my top choice I don't think I'm willing to reject all vet school offers just to be close to my boyfriend and risk putting my career on hold for years.
At least I know others have done it and in four years we can be together forever and make cute babies 😍
I'm excited to be a vet and passionate about my dream but when people just say "you have to always put your career first," it turns me off. There is more to life.
We also send each other digital pictures. We carry our cameras around and 'catch' stuff of our typical day....
If you have set times you know you'll see each other, here is another suggestion: my boyfriend and I do this when I'm on away rotations. Each week (or month if we are talking very long term) we send each other very small presents. Each small present is a little piece of a puzzle, or little hints, as to some romantic or fun thing we are going to do for one another when we next see each other.
assuming he has a 4 year PhD program
I don't think there IS such a thing as a 4 year PhD program...
shortnsweet- unfortunately there is no easy answer. i was in a LDR with my now husband (who was a gen surgeon then plastic surgeon resident at the time) for 6-years. we were together for a year before we went LDR. i decided not follow him though the urge was very strong. i had to have my own career and finish school so i wouldn't have any regrets or resentment. besides, there was no ring on my finger at that time. if there was a ring, i probably would have considered following him. our LDR was tough for obvious reasons, ie stress, not being to see or speak to each other easily or whenever, and we cooled off for a month then realized we can't live without each even through LDR. in retrospect, it was a good test for our relationship. any relationship that lasts through LD is a strong one and can withstand any challenges. after 6-yrs, we are happily married. we are inseparable despite our history of LDR. good luck with your decision.