Basically, a girl who hurt my closest friend is starting medical school this august. she has made my friend's life in college a living nightmare - spreading malicious rumors, accusing him of htings that aren't true, etc. unfortunately, the administrators believed the girl and gave my friend many disciplinary sanctions for things he didn't do. long story short, my friend's life lies in ruin now, and it sickens me to see this c*** going to med school after all she has done.
the good news? i know which med school she's going to, and i am this close to sending that med school an anonymous email exposing what this animal did to my friend. my friend was a good student until she messed up his life - he even tried to commit suicide. as his friend, i feel that this is the least i can do. and btw, i am not a pre med student so i don't care what any of you say regarding jealous or any of that crap. my friend is a frequent visitor to this site, and that's where i found out about sdn. i just want to help me friend out and make him feel better. what do you guys think? if the medical school receives an email i send them, will they investigate and ask that girl what went on? should i send an electronic email, or a paper mail?
On the one hand, I do not think it is your call to make whether or not your friends ex is suited for the practice of medicine. There are very high academic and professional standards to meet, and medical schools undertake a mounting effort to make sure that they do not admit a student that is either incapable of achieving success in medical school or someone who would otherwise make a bad physician. Clearly your friends ex has met a certain bench made assuaging these universal concerns of the admissions committee, and her professional capacity affirmed by her letter writers' blessings.
However, I too saw similar things unfold. Perhaps not to the same magnitude as your situation, but basically, I watched a woman make my friend miserable with their relationship - it also just so happens that this woman was a great manipulator, and a VERY good actress - so while natively, she has what I consider to be poor convictions, lacking any semblance of moral fortitude, and horrendous social skills - she managed to establish some façade in her professional interactions with her professors, and probably at her interviews as well. Accepted to 17 medical schools, matriculated to a top 5. In her 3rd year now, and she cannot "wait to get into a surgical residency" so she can "crack em open like coconuts". Jesus, physician-sensitivity much? I think not.
In any-case, I diverge. While myself (and many others) felt that it would be a nightmare to work alongside her as a physician someday, she was very focused on her studies, and that in the end is what secured here admission at 17 schools. So despite the popular opinion held of this student, a select few with whom she was not genuine (ie, letter writers and interviewers), perceive her to be a spitting image of the qualities a physician should possess. Once this "objective" opinion is held, it takes a lot to convince people otherwise.
So, while I think it would be a shame for this person, after all their hard work, to be told "sorry, we changed our mind" - would be a shame, I too have seen people succeed not necessarily on genuine merit, but instead, deception, lies, abuse, and manipulation.
If you must oust this woman, the only way you would be able to do so, is if you had hard evidence of her doing something that would be considered "unsavory," and not becoming of a physician. A picture of her doing thumbs up in front of a Swastika emblem, a screenshot of her Facebook status "I really hope you have cancer, you deserve it", or a link of a video of her fist-fighting a homeless person. These examples, extreme as they may be, are really the only kinds of things that will show an admissions committee that they need to seriously reconsider their decision.
Regarding your friends suicide attempt: that is a sad thing to have happened, but an admissions committee would not be concerned with the emotional capacity of another individual when assessing the applicant.
I hope you make the right decision about your situation. If this student would make an objectively good doctor, it would be a disservice to society to take that opportunity away from them.
