I'm Going NUTS!

[GelMini]

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Ok so I was just talking to my girlfriend (edit)of three years, and it is apparent that she has no respect for my career choice! She said something along the lines of "people will think I shouldn't be dating you because you're just a dental student." I worked so hard to get into dental school this cycle it really upsets me that she had the nerve to say that. Here's the kicker, shes a nursing student, so she of all people should understand how difficult this past year has been for me.

I am really considering breaking up with her because I don't think I can have a girlfriend that has no respect for me. Any other guys out there feeling the same heat from their girls? And ladies, are your men treating your career path with the respect you deserve? Give me some advice please!

btw I'm not trying to troll, I made this new account to make this post.

 

[Waitlisted2009]

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[Blarelli]

Ok so I was just talking to my girlfriend and it is apparent that she has no respect for my career choice! She said something along the lines of "people will think I shouldn't be dating you because you're just a dental student." I worked so hard to get into dental school this cycle it really upsets me that she had the nerve to say that. Here's the kicker, shes a nursing student, so she of all people should understand how difficult this past year has been for me.

I am really considering breaking up with her because I don't think I can have a girlfriend that has no respect for me. Any other guys out there feeling the same heat from their girls? And ladies, are your men treating your career path with the respect you deserve? Give me some advice please!

btw I'm not trying to troll, I made this new account to make this post.

Yeah, when she says 'people will think', it really means 'I think'. Get rid of her.

 

[hilrdh2dds]

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[NyCzPeter]

lol damn man. I also felt that heat you're talking about from my gf. I once said "every doctor is gonna be making crap by the time this recession ends. I'll probably be getting five bucks a filling by the time I get out." And then she said "thats a dentist." with a very demeaning tone and the cold eyes. -_- I'm still secretly holding a grudge against her. lol I don't know if thats reason enough to break up with her but I feel you man.

 

[hellonurse]

I'm a female and I think I know what she's doing. She's trying to make you feel bad about going into dentistry so that she can maintain control over you. If she makes you feel like you can't get anyone else, then you won't leave her. The fact of the matter is, you will be earning a lot of money and she might be worried that you will leave her after dental school. IMO, she's trying to put you down and put you "in your place".

 

[GelMini]

Break up with her

Whats with the Nursing is hard to get into crap? Nursing is any other major, its easy. If she had been applying to grad school that would be one thing but nursing? come on

Thanks for the quick replies.

Nursing has also taken a toll on her and its definitely not easy, but what saddens me is that as a nursing student, she knows the role that a dentist plays in the care of a patient and the difficult journey of becoming one. So its not like she doesn't know any better. I been thinking about this alot and I'm starting to think she just doesn't have respect for me personally.

 

[hellonurse]

No she's crazy.

 

[sleepinxlionhar]

"Just a dental student"?!?!?!?!?!?!

WOw, does she not know how F-ing hard it is for us? Sure, it's not like medschool, but it's no cakewalk either. I would expect a gf to be supportive, not demeaning.

yeah, totally break up w/ her. Don't worry, you're still young, and plenty of girls will come your way. Just make sure your next one will take pride in that you're a dental student, which I'm sure most girls will.

 

[abc123destroy]

She is insane. Most girls would find dental students more desirable than medical students. Dentists make comparable livings working a fraction of the hours.

 

[caremkn]

Nursing = 4 years
Dentist = 8 years

=> You do the Math

 

[hl11]

I am sorry for you. I am a girl and my bf has been very supportive of my educational goal. I feel lucky to have him.
If she values different things from you and that makes you guys falling apart, then i would say that maybe she is not the right person for you.

 

[MaverickPreDent]

I went for nursing, it was a terrible field. You are just a lap dog for doctors and you have no respect from them. I think the reason she said that is because she is jealous that you are more successful than her. That and I have noticed that most nursing students/nurses have this strange pride that they are better than "doctors."

 

[CountinCavities]

I went for nursing, it was a terrible field. You are just a lap dog for doctors and you have no respect from them. I think the reason she said that is because she is jealous that you are more successful than her. That and I have noticed that most nursing students/nurses have this strange pride that they are better than "doctors."

YUP! 👍

 

[cyrano]

You should never date or continue to date someone who doesn't respect you. Especially when she has such poor perspective.

 

[Waitlisted2009]

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[Stephie3]

dude, just DUMP HER. she sounds like a control freak and you don't want to put up with her dumbness.


"only a dentist" pshhhhhhhhhhh. dentists are in the top 2% of ppl in the population and probably the top 1% of income earners.


go to dental school, meet a cute smart girl in dschool (like me! 😀), marry her and have two dentist incomes. then, buy yourself a castle. live happily ever after. the end.

 

[Aceofspades]

Ok so I was just talking to my girlfriend (edit)of three years, and it is apparent that she has no respect for my career choice! She said something along the lines of "people will think I shouldn't be dating you because you're just a dental student." I worked so hard to get into dental school this cycle it really upsets me that she had the nerve to say that. Here's the kicker, shes a nursing student, so she of all people should understand how difficult this past year has been for me.

I am really considering breaking up with her because I don't think I can have a girlfriend that has no respect for me. Any other guys out there feeling the same heat from their girls? And ladies, are your men treating your career path with the respect you deserve? Give me some advice please!

btw I'm not trying to troll, I made this new account to make this post.

How about having this conversation with her instead of relying on advice from internet strangers to guide your relationship?

 

[Waitlisted2009]

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[flegg]

You need to give the context of the conversation. Though at the least your girlfriend needs to see a dentist more often, or at least not ghetto cheap ones.

 

[DrEagleMike]

what do you mean by this?

Dude, who cares... just drop it and don't make an issue.

 

[eternalxdemon]

How about having this conversation with her instead of relying on advice from internet strangers to guide your relationship?

I second that... talk to her about how her comment made you feel... I think she may have said that comment out of anger b/c she was pissed about something... as a girl... i kno i say mean things to the guy when i'm pissed off about something...

 

[Northside]

Make her break up with you... then, a few years down the road, bust a Dave Chappelle on her ass... I'm rich b**ch!!! haha

 

[dr bojangles]

wow, she sounds quite arrogant/conceited/not cool. i say kick her @$$ to the curb! i guess you could try workin it out.......but drama makes for a better story, so just kick!

 

[Contach]

I'm a female and I think I know what she's doing. She's trying to make you feel bad about going into dentistry so that she can maintain control over you. If she makes you feel like you can't get anyone else, then you won't leave her. The fact of the matter is, you will be earning a lot of money and she might be worried that you will leave her after dental school. IMO, she's trying to put you down and put you "in your place".

omg.. that is sooooooooooooooo... wierd.. (for lack of a better word)
i cant believe girls think like this

 

[beastmode]

I'm a female and I think I know what she's doing. She's trying to make you feel bad about going into dentistry so that she can maintain control over you. If she makes you feel like you can't get anyone else, then you won't leave her. The fact of the matter is, you will be earning a lot of money and she might be worried that you will leave her after dental school. IMO, she's trying to put you down and put you "in your place".

Extremely insightful...you hit the nail on the head.

 

[Wei87]

I'm a female and I think I know what she's doing. She's trying to make you feel bad about going into dentistry so that she can maintain control over you. If she makes you feel like you can't get anyone else, then you won't leave her. The fact of the matter is, you will be earning a lot of money and she might be worried that you will leave her after dental school. IMO, she's trying to put you down and put you "in your place".

omg.. that is sooooooooooooooo... wierd.. (for lack of a better word)
i cant believe girls think like this

+1

That comment from hellonurse just made my night. Absolutely awesome, that "in your place" quote was extra lulz.

 

[supraman]

I'm a female and I think I know what she's doing. She's trying to make you feel bad about going into dentistry so that she can maintain control over you. If she makes you feel like you can't get anyone else, then you won't leave her. The fact of the matter is, you will be earning a lot of money and she might be worried that you will leave her after dental school. IMO, she's trying to put you down and put you "in your place".

I agree with the above, she is tryin to pull a fast one on you. I know a girl just like your girlfriend- an engineer. Arrogant for nothing, undermining and belittling the dental field. Would always highly about her engineering degree and how she wants to be get a PhD etc. Deep down, from her friend (the engineering girl doesn't know her friend said this to me), tells her how she wants to be with me in the respect of its financial stability.

IMO, your gf is probably going to be a gold digger, she wants you whipped, and when you sign the prenup, she will bounce on you. Drop her asap dude, before she drops you wondering why. I obviously don't speak on behalf of all girls, but MOST who know you are in dental school are going to try to get with you largely because of this "financial security."

 

[Sporknife]

I'm a female and I think I know what she's doing. She's trying to make you feel bad about going into dentistry so that she can maintain control over you. If she makes you feel like you can't get anyone else, then you won't leave her. The fact of the matter is, you will be earning a lot of money and she might be worried that you will leave her after dental school. IMO, she's trying to put you down and put you "in your place".

oOo good one, either she is this manipulative and insecure or just plain stupid.

 

[sleepinxlionhar]

I obviously don't speak on behalf of all girls, but MOST who know you are in dental school are going to try to get with you largely because of this "financial security."

I totally agree on this one. Like you see on TV, like the bachelor or something, and he's a doctor, I'm wondering how many women are there just for the money.

 

[USCbiograd]

The things that your girlfriend said are indeed quite offensive. But before you go ahead and throw away a three year relationship, I would consider the factors around the statement. Was she mad at you about something else, and just trying to say something that she knew would anger you. Also, maybe she was just in a bad mood and said some things that she may now regret. Either way, I would discuss this issue with her and let her know it offended you. Try and gauge how she responds to the discussion and figure out if this is the type of person you can see yourself with in the future. If she is unable to carry on a mature conversation about a problem facing the relationship, then she is probably not worth the trouble. (People don't change)

P.S. Dentistry is way more competitive than nursing. Nursing is an easy program, I know a former science major that switched to nursing due to failing grades. She is in the top of her nursing class.

 

[hellonurse]

Good to hear you guys see it the same way. Females in general just have a ton of insecurities. We are smart about how we handle them and we know how to keep a man around. All I can say is make sure she doesn't pull the "I'm pregnant" card. That's plan B for keeping you around.

 

[enfuego]

Talk to her first. And tell her to stop playing games. I'm a female, and even I don't understand the ciphers that girls speak in. Don't know why so many girls can't just say exactly what they mean. Make sure you let her know that it's okay for her to say what's really on her mind. If that really is how she feels, then dump her. Find someone who respects you, supports you, helps you achieve your goals, and understands how hard you work.

 

[supraman]

Did you make fun of her for being in nursing and label it as something "easy" so she said it back to you in her own way?

And I've had 2 girls now try to get all cute and ask me to come over or pull the "so when we marry you can get me a BMW." Please...don't fall for the **** like that.

BTW watch the movie, "The Dentist" it's on youtube, but after seeing it I seriously have to watch who I marry now lol

 

[sleepinxlionhar]

Right on, Supraman.

 

[Wei87]

Good to hear you guys see it the same way. Females in general just have a ton of insecurities. We are smart about how we handle them and we know how to keep a man around. All I can say is make sure she doesn't pull the "I'm pregnant" card. That's plan B for keeping you around.

I agree with the above, she is tryin to pull a fast one on you. I know a girl just like your girlfriend- an engineer. Arrogant for nothing, undermining and belittling the dental field. Would always highly about her engineering degree and how she wants to be get a PhD etc. Deep down, from her friend (the engineering girl doesn't know her friend said this to me), tells her how she wants to be with me in the respect of its financial stability.

IMO, your gf is probably going to be a gold digger, she wants you whipped, and when you sign the prenup, she will bounce on you. Drop her asap dude, before she drops you wondering why. I obviously don't speak on behalf of all girls, but MOST who know you are in dental school are going to try to get with you largely because of this "financial security."

This thread is way too good.

 

[PrivateJoker]

Ok so I was just talking to my girlfriend (edit)of three years, and it is apparent that she has no respect for my career choice! She said something along the lines of "people will think I shouldn't be dating you because you're just a dental student." I worked so hard to get into dental school this cycle it really upsets me that she had the nerve to say that. Here's the kicker, shes a nursing student, so she of all people should understand how difficult this past year has been for me.

I am really considering breaking up with her because I don't think I can have a girlfriend that has no respect for me. Any other guys out there feeling the same heat from their girls? And ladies, are your men treating your career path with the respect you deserve? Give me some advice please!

btw I'm not trying to troll, I made this new account to make this post.

Tell her: Nursing school = easier than putting your pants on in the morning. Then dump her a**.

 

[chund]

Dude, If she actually loved YOU then you could be a garbage man and it wouldn't matter. as long as you were working to your full potential. Shes fake

 

[eternalxdemon]

I obviously don't speak on behalf of all girls, but MOST who know you are in dental school are going to try to get with you largely because of this "financial security."

so true... my ex's ex tried getting back with my ex when she heard he got into dental school... even when she had a new bf of her own

 

[PrivateJoker]

so true... my ex's ex tried getting back with my ex when she heard he got into dental school... even when she had a new bf of her own

That's so funny.

 

[UCfan]

I'm Going NUTS!
Ok so I was just talking to my girlfriend (edit)of three years, and it is apparent that she has no respect for my career choice! She said something along the lines of "people will think I shouldn't be dating you because you're just a dental student." I worked so hard to get into dental school this cycle it really upsets me that she had the nerve to say that. Here's the kicker, shes a nursing student, so she of all people should understand how difficult this past year has been for me.

I am really considering breaking up with her because I don't think I can have a girlfriend that has no respect for me. Any other guys out there feeling the same heat from their girls? And ladies, are your men treating your career path with the respect you deserve? Give me some advice please!

btw I'm not trying to troll, I made this new account to make this post.

My gf is a nurse too, but she respects me a lot. Currently, I am doing my ms in chemical engineering and I will apply DS for this cycle. She is the most supportive person right next to me to apply. Just explain her that DS are very respectable and you will have your own business (this attracts me the most- you will be able to spend a lot time with her in future). If she does not change her mind, try to break up with her. Good luck with her!

 

[zorie]

dude, just DUMP HER. she sounds like a control freak and you don't want to put up with her dumbness.


"only a dentist" pshhhhhhhhhhh. dentists are in the top 2% of ppl in the population and probably the top 1% of income earners.


go to dental school, meet a cute smart girl in dschool (like me! 😀), marry her and have two dentist incomes. then, buy yourself a castle. live happily ever after. the end.

I almost just snorted coffee through my nose trying not to laugh at this (I'm in the silent area of the library). 👍👍

 

[CountinCavities]

My gf is a nurse too, but she respects me a lot. Currently, I am doing my ms in chemical engineering and I will apply DS for this cycle. She is the most supportive person right next to me to apply. Just explain her that DS are very respectable and you will have your own business (this attracts me the most- you will be able to spend a lot time with her in future). If she does not change her mind, try to break up with her. Good luck with her!

She isn't the same kind of person as your girlfriend and he shouldn't have to explain anything to her. She is crazy and he should find someone better. You should not have to fix people. Find someone that appreciates you for who you are. Don't explain to someone why they should appreciate you. That's a waste of energy and time.

 

[CountinCavities]

3 years is not a lot of time to throw away. If you marry this person, you will be splitting half of everything with them. Do you really want to sacrifice half of your belongings to someone that does not appreciate you? You should throw away those three years and move on! I've been in the same relationship for 6 yrs. If my bf said anything like that and meant it, it would be over and I would not regret it.

Also, she's obviously hung up on medical doctors. If she is an RN she will be around them all day. I can't imagine the constant nagging she will give you over the years. If you aren't good enough now, you won't ever be. She will constantly compare you to other kinds of doctors.

 

[ToothFaireee]

haha.. oh mannnn..
it doesn't sound like she's objecting to your career choice as much as sounding like she objecting you being a student.
someone i know was getting this flack from his girlfriend because she wanted to get her life on the way and she wanted him to start making some money so they could get the house and the car and start thinking about a family instead of putting up with 4 more years of broke-ness and complete dedication to school..
you going to dentistry is a huge accomplishment and HUGE time and monetary commitment and she might be thinking only about herself and everything that she will be giving up in having a supportive relationship with a dental student.. just a thought.
that's how i'm reading it..
you guys want different things out of life for the moment.. could be a deal breaker.. would be for me.. good luck.

 

[UFC Gladiator]

Your GF is fearing that her expiration date is getting close and that you will dump her after you graduate. Panic -> manipulation.

If you love her, work it out. If you don't, dump her. However, don't leave a girl who has 80% of what you are looking for, in search of the missing 20%. Remember, no one is perfect.

 

[AkaDr]

I'm a female and I think I know what she's doing. She's trying to make you feel bad about going into dentistry so that she can maintain control over you. If she makes you feel like you can't get anyone else, then you won't leave her. The fact of the matter is, you will be earning a lot of money and she might be worried that you will leave her after dental school. IMO, she's trying to put you down and put you "in your place".

wow i couldn't say that any better. 100% true, i have came across many girls that try that one. haha dont ever show him/her that a comment cant get u upset! act as if it didnt bother you. haha that will agitate him/her!!

 

[lhtran07]

lol...nursing student ragging on her boyfriend for being a dental student. Craziness! Like other people have said, she's either insecure or she's trying to manipulate you. Either way, that's not a person you'd want to spend the rest of your life with. If she's saying things like this now, what do you think she'll say years down the road. Dental school is tough...you need someone who will be supportive not demeaning.

My boyfriend is a med student and he's been nothing but supportive of me going to dental school. He may have been more excited than I was when I found out I was accepted. So I don't understand why your gf would belittle your going to dental school.

 

[Clubby]

The fact that you let words like this get under your skin means you have some boundary issues. From the outside looking in, her statements are so idiotic that they should not have even phased you.

 

[sleepinxlionhar]

Any updates OP?