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SOMBound13 said:
Some of your story isn't hanging together.

You said that you're keeping your education a secret to surprise your family, but in another post you indicate that you get grants to pay for college. That suggests that you did file FAFSA. how did you do that w/o your mom knowing?

What does your family think you're doing while you're in school??

You mention that you commute to college, but you also say that your remote area has no public transportation, so how do you get to school?

If you can get to school, then why can't you get a job either on campus or somewhere between campus and home?

Your low income would certainly qualify for work study, but either you weren't awarded it because the school ran out, or you indicated on your FAFSA that you didn't want it.

I don't know what you mean by saying that you can't afford loans. You wouldn't be paying them back now. You'd pay them back after you graduate. A portion of your loans would be subsidized. At a minimum, take those.
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I notice that when I asked her about getting an on-campus job, she seemed to have dodged the question... I think you're right and that she might be a troll....
 
dreamadream said:
I don't know where to began. It is so much. Was on my way to a job interview(just a regular job for some cash) and I told my Dad to turn right back around because this is too far, I don't have a car, and I don't have money for transportation. I have applied to every job in my area(I cant go out of this area because I can't afford to). My family points out that I'm almost 19 so why don't I have a job. "OK thanks for pointing out the obvious an also thanks for making my life worse". I am trying to get my bachelors degree in silence because I want my family to be surprised. And guess what I think I'm done trying to please them. I am on the verge of giving up undergrad and my goals of going into med school. Why because I was doomed from the start, I'm poor, I cant afford to get through school, I can't afford to get back and forth to work, I can't afford training classes so I can get direct patient contact(clinical experience), and my life is just at a dead end. I really don't even think about myself when I'm studying and working my ass off...I'm thinking about the kids that I might have in the future. I wouldn't want their life to be like mines. I was born in poverty and I still live in poverty. I want to make it out but I can't afford to. People are so lucky to have two parents, a job, decent school for undergrad, and money.
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hey buddy, don't worry. Plenty of people are there with you. Every semester is like chipping paint. You complain about those problems to friends/teachers they can only offer sympathy. Your parents may get mad at you because you make their life a misery too. But I can tell you that if you just believe in the greater purpose of what you are doing, you are right on the path you should be on. Just know that one day, you're going to graduate, maybe get a job to get yourself acclimated to the world for a while and then perhaps study for the mcat and get out of that place and onto a bigger and brighter future. It's tough, it's really tough and I'm not going to make it seem easy because it isn't. Just remember that your hardships are yours only (not anyone you are linked with, not even your future unborn kids lol). So focus on the now and by the time you're done, you won't even know how fast the time went. Cheers and happy post-thanksgiving.
 
partlytejano said:
I notice that when I asked her about getting an on-campus job, she seemed to have dodged the question... I think you're right and that she might be a troll....
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I didn't dodge the question I answered the same question in the beginning of this thread....ugh you must be new.
 
SOMBound13 said:
Some of your story isn't hanging together.

You said that you're keeping your education a secret to surprise your family, but in another post you indicate that you get grants to pay for college. That suggests that you did file FAFSA. how did you do that w/o your mom knowing?

What does your family think you're doing while you're in school??

You mention that you commute to college, but you also say that your remote area has no public transportation, so how do you get to school?

If you can get to school, then why can't you get a job either on campus or somewhere between campus and home?

Your low income would certainly qualify for work study, but either you weren't awarded it because the school ran out, or you indicated on your FAFSA that you didn't want it.

I don't know what you mean by saying that you can't afford loans. You wouldn't be paying them back now. You'd pay them back after you graduate. A portion of your loans would be subsidized. At a minimum, take those.
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My mother doesn't know if I want to be a PA, a nurse , a doctor, or a farmer. All I told her was I am a biology major. I get to school with my mothers checks and I feel so bad about it. I have taken advice that says avoid all loans at all costs and my tuition is only $2500 a semester so that's covered. Its not so much of my academic life that's the problem, its my personal life.
 
txplcoord said:
Are you still in Baltimore? You can volunteer at the University of Maryland Medical Center with no certifications/classes.
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UMD medical center is about 15 miles away...lengthy ride with high fees
 
Dr.Smexy said:
The more you post the less intelligent you appear to be...I hope it is just because you're not very good at reading online posts and actually is a bright person in real life. If you can't see why I said what I said due to the response of the OP to my posts then yeah you have my pity. You first said that my post wasn't an opinion and now trying to put words in my mouth and say my now "opinions" are indisputable truths. Just don't quote me anymore, you not really doing yourself any favor. Post your so "helpful" comments for the OP instead, I'm sure that what you want.
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You were negative from the start. I would like to think that I'm becoming more intelligent through my posts because I am receiving advice from others.
 
dreamadream said:
My mother doesn't know if I want to be a PA, a nurse , a doctor, or a farmer. All I told her was I am a biology major. I get to school with my mothers checks and I feel so bad about it. I have taken advice that says avoid all loans at all costs and my tuition is only $2500 a semester so that's covered. Its not so much of my academic life that's the problem, its my personal life.
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Take the subsidized loan, and bank it. The money is from a loan, so be sure to report it correctly on FAFSA so that it doesn't count as savings (money from FA needs to be listed correctly so as not to raise your EFC). You're probably going to need the money for next year. Once you transfer to a univ, what's your financial situation going to be?


I get to school with my mothers checks
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What does that mean? Are you using your mom's income to pay for public transportation? If so, then find a job along the route between school and home.
 
dreamadream said:
You were negative from the start. I would like to think that I'm becoming more intelligent through my posts because I am receiving advice from others.
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stop wasting your time arguing with people giving negative feedback. Clearly, it's just making you more negative. Start taking the helpful advices and get out of sdn to do some real thinking. This place is not where you can get a job. I would highly recommend setting up an indeed profile and contacting employers from there. I actually had a company call me the day after I submitted my application which took me by surprise. It works.
 
I would ignore all of the rude comments and focus on the considerable amount of helpful advice given. The first thing I would recommend doing as proposed above would be finding a way to treat your severe anxiety so that you could get your thoughts together and plan a good course of action to improve your life.
 
dreamadream said:
1) I have a mother who was diagnosed with epilepsy back in 2008 and she could not work anymore. I was sad because it was things I could not do with my mom anymore.
2) All of the programs I have looked for requires payment even if its through a payment plan. Mostly those CNA programs.
3) I would never turn down SNAP for as long as I'm making around the minimum wage.
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1) You are claiming disabilities to the wrong person. As most of this forum knows by now, I was diagnosed with epilepsy and had 100 seizures a week, hence why I could not work a standard job and was on a driving restriction for literally 5+ years. Epilepsy is really no excuse to not live. Do you think there are things I cannot do with my 12 year old daughter? No. Last year we even went out to an amusement park and went on all the rides including the coasters. I was doing better than the non-epileptics. I just have to be careful when around triggering situations. I also was diagnosed with severe anxiety/PTSD (being raped/robbed multiple times in your life will do that) as well as Aspergers and ADHD and had dyslexia as a child. My best friend has such severe anxiety as well as a heart condition where she cannot leave her house. Standing up will get her HR to 150+. She is taking care of her 13 year old who has behavioural issues. Seriously, the disabilities are no excuse. You are not your disability, you just have to learn to live with it. There was a quote about epilepsy which said "I might have epilepsy, but epilepsy doesn't have me." Swap epilepsy for anxiety and that should be your new motto.

2) Transporter positions require nothing. Three of four times when I was getting certified for CPR, they were free. Once it was $40. My EMT-B was free. Volunteering at the hospital is free and they give you training and TB tests. Several nursing homes will also train you to do things and allow you to get certified eventually as a CNA. Over 5 years and multiple hospitals some of which I was working at the same time, my grand total of how much money I put into getting clinical experience was about $100 not including gas.

3) I wasn't even making minimum wage, some states will cancel you if you enroll in school.


ZedsDed said:
No one cares because no one likes a martyr. I'm sorry, but there is nothing extraordinary about the circumstances you have described. Tough? Sure. But it sounds like what you need more than anything else is a counselor who can help you work through this.
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Definitely this right here as well. I cannot even tell you what my history was like... like having been homeless more than a few times and eventually getting disowned by my family. Not a dime was contributed to my education by my family. No one cared that I was going to college. If your anxiety is keeping you from doing something, you need to have it managed by someone. Possible therapist, maybe doctor, or self help books.

I agree with the poster who said you need to manage your anxiety.

I also agree with the one who said you are missing out on Pell grants. I didn't get any either because my parents were not helpful enough to give me their tax return. Seriously, you really need to think about these things and what you can do.
 
familyaerospace said:
1) You are claiming disabilities to the wrong person. As most of this forum knows by now, I was diagnosed with epilepsy and had 100 seizures a week, hence why I could not work a standard job and was on a driving restriction for literally 5+ years. Epilepsy is really no excuse to not live. Do you think there are things I cannot do with my 12 year old daughter? No. Last year we even went out to an amusement park and went on all the rides including the coasters. I was doing better than the non-epileptics. I just have to be careful when around triggering situations. I also was diagnosed with severe anxiety/PTSD (being raped/robbed multiple times in your life will do that) as well as Aspergers and ADHD and had dyslexia as a child. My best friend has such severe anxiety as well as a heart condition where she cannot leave her house. Standing up will get her HR to 150+. She is taking care of her 13 year old who has behavioural issues. Seriously, the disabilities are no excuse. You are not your disability, you just have to learn to live with it. There was a quote about epilepsy which said "I might have epilepsy, but epilepsy doesn't have me." Swap epilepsy for anxiety and that should be your new motto.

2) Transporter positions require nothing. Three of four times when I was getting certified for CPR, they were free. Once it was $40. My EMT-B was free. Volunteering at the hospital is free and they give you training and TB tests. Several nursing homes will also train you to do things and allow you to get certified eventually as a CNA. Over 5 years and multiple hospitals some of which I was working at the same time, my grand total of how much money I put into getting clinical experience was about $100 not including gas.

3) I wasn't even making minimum wage, some states will cancel you if you enroll in school.




Definitely this right here as well. I cannot even tell you what my history was like... like having been homeless more than a few times and eventually getting disowned by my family. Not a dime was contributed to my education by my family. No one cared that I was going to college. If your anxiety is keeping you from doing something, you need to have it managed by someone. Possible therapist, maybe doctor, or self help books.

I agree with the poster who said you need to manage your anxiety.

I also agree with the one who said you are missing out on Pell grants. I didn't get any either because my parents were not helpful enough to give me their tax return. Seriously, you really need to think about these things and what you can do.
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My mother has been diagnosed with severe depression, she doesnt know how talk to people at one point this year my mother also had DVT, the clot traveled to her lungs. What a stressful situation. I have to balance my own anxiety and something else, her illnesses, and my school work.
 
vandelayindustries786 said:
I would ignore all of the rude comments and focus on the considerable amount of helpful advice given. The first thing I would recommend doing as proposed above would be finding a way to treat your severe anxiety so that you could get your thoughts together and plan a good course of action to improve your life.
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Can't afford a therapist, ok I can afford a therapists but it no way for me to get there and I'm really nervous about seeing one.
 
Petrichor1 said:
stop wasting your time arguing with people giving negative feedback. Clearly, it's just making you more negative. Start taking the helpful advices and get out of sdn to do some real thinking. This place is not where you can get a job. I would highly recommend setting up an indeed profile and contacting employers from there. I actually had a company call me the day after I submitted my application which took me by surprise. It works.
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I'm on indeed everyday
 
SOMBound13 said:
Take the subsidized loan, and bank it. The money is from a loan, so be sure to report it correctly on FAFSA so that it doesn't count as savings (money from FA needs to be listed correctly so as not to raise your EFC). You're probably going to need the money for next year. Once you transfer to a univ, what's your financial situation going to be?




What does that mean? Are you using your mom's income to pay for public transportation? If so, then find a job along the route between school and home.
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I AM TRYING
 
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SOMBound13 said:
Take the subsidized loan, and bank it. The money is from a loan, so be sure to report it correctly on FAFSA so that it doesn't count as savings (money from FA needs to be listed correctly so as not to raise your EFC). You're probably going to need the money for next year. Once you transfer to a univ, what's your financial situation going to be?




What does that mean? Are you using your mom's income to pay for public transportation? If so, then find a job along the route between school and home.
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When I go to Uni in state I'll need about $2000-$3000 extra. My grant covers $5500 for two semesters. Tuition at uni here is between $8000-$10000 and did I forget to mention room and board that's about $4000-$8000 alone. If I go out of state I would solely have to rely on the money that the uni gives me plus loans(I would have no choice). Even though I dread it, I will eventually have to take out some sort of loan.
 
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When I go to Uni in state I'll need about $2000-$3000 extra. My grant covers $5500 for two semesters. Tuition at uni here is between $8000-$10000 and did I forget to mention room and board that's about $4000-$8000 alone. If I go out of state I would solely have to rely on the money that the uni gives me plus loans(I would have no choice). Even though I dread it, I will eventually have to take out some sort of loan.
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Yes, that is why you need to take offered loans THIS YEAR, and BANK what you don't yet need for next year.

Unless you have stellar stats and can get into a rare OOS school that gives great aid to transfer students, your options are likely going to be your instate schools.

If you do have stellar stats, then apply to schools like Cornell, UVA, UNC and a few others that give great aid to OOS transfers. However, if you plan on transferring for spring, don't expect much aid; at that point, schools have run out of much of their aid. You'd be better waiting to transfer in the fall.
 
Honestly, you need to stop focusing on things that are keeping you down and focus more on what you can do.

I find it hard to believe that you live less than 15 miles from Baltimore, but there is no public transportation near you. I live 5 times that distance from a different city and I get myself to work there every day. It takes 3hrs each direction and involves different transportation means, including 2 miles of walking each way. Be creative. Even an $80 Walmart bike could let you travel 15miles. And I also had anxiety problems, with years of eating disorders that made it hard to function during the day.

Once my best friend graduated high school, she was 100% on her own in terms of housing, food, everything. It was tough for her, but she succeeded using student loans and minimum wage jobs.

Listen to the advice of people who dealt with similar situations and rather than think of all the reasons you can't succeed, focus on thinking outside the box. Even consider switching to a nursing program, so you can get a well-paying job and then go from nursing to med school.
 
SOMBound13 said:
Yes, that is why you need to take offered loans THIS YEAR, and BANK what you don't yet need for next year.

Unless you have stellar stats and can get into a rare OOS school that gives great aid to transfer students, your options are likely going to be your instate schools.

If you do have stellar stats, then apply to schools like Cornell, UVA, UNC and a few others that give great aid to OOS transfers. However, if you plan on transferring for spring, don't expect much aid; at that point, schools have run out of much of their aid. You'd be better waiting to transfer in the fall.
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I'm applying to Temple, Drexel, Albright, Frostburg, Towson, University of Maryland, Northwestern, Dartmouth, Syracuse, American, Hofstra, and Stony Brook. I am applying for Fall 2016.
 
Krupke said:
Honestly, you need to stop focusing on things that are keeping you down and focus more on what you can do.

I find it hard to believe that you live less than 15 miles from Baltimore, but there is no public transportation near you. I live 5 times that distance from a different city and I get myself to work there every day. It takes 3hrs each direction and involves different transportation means, including 2 miles of walking each way. Be creative. Even an $80 Walmart bike could let you travel 15miles. And I also had anxiety problems, with years of eating disorders that made it hard to function during the day.

Once my best friend graduated high school, she was 100% on her own in terms of housing, food, everything. It was tough for her, but she succeeded using student loans and minimum wage jobs.

Listen to the advice of people who dealt with similar situations and rather than think of all the reasons you can't succeed, focus on thinking outside the box. Even consider switching to a nursing program, so you can get a well-paying job and then go from nursing to med school.
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I live in the COUNTY, their is no public transportation being through I live in a SUBURB. I will not take a job that is 10+ miles away. Public transportation is not in walking distance. I'm definitely going to do student loans, I got offered about $6,000 for loans but I didn't accept it because my tuition was already paid but I should have took it.
 
dreamadream said:
I live in the COUNTY, their is no public transportation being through I live in a SUBURB. I will not take a job that is 10+ miles away. Public transportation is not in walking distance. I'm definitely going to do student loans, I got offered about $6,000 for loans but I didn't accept it because my tuition was already paid but I should have took it.
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I live in a suburb too. I live 3 or 4 counties away from the city where I work. Tbh, if you arent willing to work over 10miles away, then you dont want this enough. You dont seem willing to make any sort of sacrifices.
 
psychtx said:
It doesn't seem as if you need advice. You have your mind made up about everything...
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I don't have money to pay for those college applications btw, I still have $500 to pay in tuition so I can't register for classes for next semester(spring 16) until it's paid, The classes that I'm taking is being filled up rapidly. I am in poverty(this house has 4 people and income is less than $15,000) all I just wanted was some inspiration but instead most people are negative or think I'm trolling. Money is the only thing holding me back, but yes I do have a plan of my whole life. I even planned out my classes for each institution if I get accepted. I have done extensive research on all colleges I mention above. I am serious about this.
 
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Krupke said:
I live in a suburb too. I live 3 or 4 counties away from the city where I work. Tbh, if you arent willing to work over 10miles away, then you dont want this enough. You dont seem willing to make any sort of sacrifices.
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For the 50th TIME, I CANNOT AFFORD TO GET MYSELF BACK AND FORTH TO THE JOB, EVEN WITH MY MOTHER"S MONEY! CAB ARE EXPENSIVE AND CAN RUN UP TO $250-$300 due to the fact that I'm already catching it to school, just imagine if I had to pay to get back and forth to school and to work, just to go all the way back home. Now do you understand? I would literally be working just to get myself back and forth to work.
 
Maybe I need to put my life story up(again!!!!!)and update everyone because people come on this post thinking that they know everything when they have not extensively read through this thread. I am answering the the same questions and comments that everyone has asked or told me since the beginning of this thread. I have talked about my mother, father, siblings, school, work situation, financial situation, and I have also gave personal things out their like how much is my tuition, how much money I don't have, and this household's income. I will update this thread with a post from me stating everything clearly so everyone can understand my whole entire situation, but I have to simmer down until I can become a little more rational.
 
dreamadream said:
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For the 50th TIME, I CANNOT AFFORD TO GET MYSELF BACK AND FORTH TO THE JOB, EVEN WITH MY MOTHER"S MONEY! CAB ARE EXPENSIVE AND CAN RUN UP TO $250-$300 due to the fact that I'm already catching it to school, just imagine if I had to pay to get back and forth to school and to work, just to go all the way back home. Now do you understand? I would literally be working just to get myself back and forth to work.
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My commute costs $450/month. A bike costs $80. You could bike 15miles in less than an hour. I understand that your situation is sucky, but there are ways to make things work within your situation.

Edit: I've read every post in this thread, and I still conclude that you are not willing to make things work
 
Krupke said:
My commute costs $450/month. A bike costs $80. You could bike 15miles in less than an hour. I understand that your situation is sucky, but there are ways to make things work within your situation.

Edit: I've read every post in this thread, and I still conclude that you are not willing to make things work
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$250-$300 a/week and I don't have a job, living in poverty(less than $15000 a/year with 2 other siblings in a single parent household) and mother has epilepsy so yes we are living off the wonderful government. I have stated this numerous times.
 
dreamadream said:
$250-$300 a/week and I don't have a job, living in poverty(less than $15000 a/year with 2 other siblings in a single parent household) and mother has epilepsy so yes we are living off the wonderful government. I have stated this numerous times.
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I'm not confused about your situation. You still have options that you are shutting down for one reason or another. So you can't ride a bike because your mother has epilepsy?

I'm sorry that your situation is what it is and I sincerely hope you get out of it. Good luck
 
dreamadream said:
$250-$300 a/week and I don't have a job, living in poverty(less than $15000 a/year with 2 other siblings in a single parent household) and mother has epilepsy so yes we are living off the wonderful government. I have stated this numerous times.
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Op what the heck are your brothers doing? Why aren't they out there looking for work as well or relieving the burden of care taking? Do you get any support from dad?

I also agree on the bike suggestion OP. Reliable cheap transportation and 20 miles of exercise a day will help with your anxiety.
 
order66.exe said:
Op what the heck are your brothers doing? Why aren't they out there looking for work as well or relieving the burden of care taking? Do you get any support from dad?
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My brother are 14 and 12, the 12 year old has a learning disability(he was born premature). There dad has always been there but he has a girlfriend now and he works 5 days a week, but he's coming over today cause it's my birthday. He's the coolest old man I know lol. He was the ride to my interview yesterday(don't know if you heard that situation, but I posted in it)
 
dreamadream said:
I live in the COUNTY, their is no public transportation being through I live in a SUBURB.

I will not take a job that is 10+ miles away.

Public transportation is not in walking distance.

I'm definitely going to do student loans, I got offered about $6,000 for loans but I didn't accept it because my tuition was already paid but I should have took it.
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It is NOT too late to get those offered loans for the current school year. Email, call, or visit the FA office and ask for those loans. You'll get them. Bank those dollars for any shortfalls next year in an acct that only you have access. Since those dollars are from FA, when you file FAFSA, there is a way to indicate that so that those dollars will not hurt your EFC.

This may be beating a dead horse, but what method of transportation are you currently using to get to college? It sounds like you're using public trans and using your mom's money to pay the fares. Is that correct? If so, why can't you find a job somewhere along that route and go to work from school?
 
dreamadream said:
I can't afford to take a gap year, I'll be a old hag by time I go into med school.
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Wait. You are not yet 19 and you will be too old or do not have time to take a gap year? Confused.
 
dreamadream said:
My brother are 14 and 12, the 12 year old has a learning disability(he was born premature). There dad has always been there but he has a girlfriend now and he works 5 days a week, but he's coming over today cause it's my birthday. He's the coolest old man I know lol. He was the ride to my interview yesterday(don't know if you heard that situation, but I posted in it)
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At the risk of speaking for the other poster, I assume that by "support," he meant financial support, not support in terms of showing up at birthday parties. The father should be paying child support, right?
 
I completely understand where you are coming from but it can be done. You have to change your attitude and be willing to sacrifice. The journey will be tough but worth it. I know it doesn't seem fair that others take for granted the things that you dream about, but that's just how life is sometimes.

In your immediate future you should talk to the financial aid office at your school and see if you can go back and accept your loans, ask about emergency loans, or any help to point you in the right direction. I know you don't wanna take loans, but it will help out. They can also help with work study. You may have to be on campus all day but between class and your shifts, you can study. No extra transportation. (If you can't get the financial aid until next semester it will be tough until then but it can still work)

Next, when you get your financial aid/scholarships/loans, use it to live off. Living on campus is expensive. If your family is living off 15,000 now, you should be able to stay home for next to nothing and use the cash for books, getting to school, etc. It could even help your family. I know it helped mine. (I was able to budget mine so that I can keep working to 20 hours/week and not at all for almost a whole semester!). Look into UROP as well. You can do research while getting paid. It is a great resume builder.

The most important thing is to do well in your classes so when you apply to these schools, you can get a great aid package. Also, if you are a good enough student, they may waive the fee if you talk to someone.

I know it's hard, but you can't give up. I grew up in poverty. Single parent home with 3 other siblings and <20000 per year. I was accepted at the first medical school I applied to that actually is one of my first choice schools (I have a two first choices... Lol). I have an interview at my second first choice school that happened to be one of the best med schools in the country. I have actually declined invitations to medical school interviews! Me! Please don't give up. You are your biggest obstacle. I know it's easier said than done, but it can be done.

Ps I wrote this on my phone. If there are any mistakes, I apologize ahead of time. I did not proofread. Lol.
 
Dr.Smexy said:
Nope, I'm stating my opinion whether you agree with it or not. I also have indeed provided suggestions and advice to the OP. You can ignore my comment if you dislike it.
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NO one is saying what you are getting at is wrong. It's about delivery. There is a saying that is immensely helpful when applied well, and it is this: "Speak the truth in love," that is, in a loving way. It doesn't mean baby-talk or enabling. It means respect and understanding. She appears to be very young and has had little guidance. If she can get some help for depression/anxiety, etc, find a way to meet her basic needs--nutrition and such, and even in time begin with a PT job, that is a start. She needs direction as to first things first.

This tough love talk needs moderation and balance. Putting people down, even if you question trollishness or whatever, isn't giving them the benefit of doubt, and the other poster is right. It doesn't help them. It only adds insult to injury.
 
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dreamadream said:
I definitely need a mentor/adviser or something that can help me just a little. I am trying to find work I have been doing that since my summer job. Even two jobs called me back after 4 months of me putting in my application. I'm in my sophomore year and I haven't did anything. I apply to 3-4 scholarships about every week. I live in an area with a lot of work, its just that I have applied to everything in this area or either I'm not qualified due to certifications, education, or experience. I don't have a bike and cant afford one, their is no public transportation close so I have to rely on using paychecks to get myself back and forth to work which is worthless.
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you could always go back to wal-mart..like me 🙂
 
Your school must have a counseling center. they're free. Make use of them, stat.

Also, you can bike to a bus stop, if the busses allow for bike transport.

You've been given a lot of good advice in this thread. I hope you will make use of it.


dreamadream said:
Can't afford a therapist, ok I can afford a therapists but it no way for me to get there and I'm really nervous about seeing one.
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dreamadream said:
I don't have money to pay for those college applications btw, I still have $500 to pay in tuition so I can't register for classes for next semester(spring 16) until it's paid, The classes that I'm taking is being filled up rapidly. I am in poverty(this house has 4 people and income is less than $15,000) all I just wanted was some inspiration but instead most people are negative or think I'm trolling. Money is the only thing holding me back, but yes I do have a plan of my whole life. I even planned out my classes for each institution if I get accepted. I have done extensive research on all colleges I mention above. I am serious about this.
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I did think you were trolling, but I do understand everything you are going through.
You can try to get an application fee waiver for some colleges. My income growing up was less than $15,000 ( way less than that) and I was eligible for fee waivers.
Someone else mentioned this, but you can still accept the loans you denied. It shouldn't be a difficult process, you should be able to do it from your student account. Or you can call your school's financial aid office. I had a similar experience, when I denied offered loans. I can help you figure it out, if you pm me.
 
Goro said:
Your school must have a counseling center. they're free. Make use of them, stat.

Also, you can bike to a bus stop, if the busses allow for bike transport.

You've been given a lot of good advice in this thread. I hope you will make use of it.
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Ohmygosh I forgot to mention they took it out of the school, I really think they did this because no one was going idk why but they stopped funding it.
 
SOMBound13 said:
It is NOT too late to get those offered loans for the current school year. Email, call, or visit the FA office and ask for those loans. You'll get them. Bank those dollars for any shortfalls next year in an acct that only you have access. Since those dollars are from FA, when you file FAFSA, there is a way to indicate that so that those dollars will not hurt your EFC.

This may be beating a dead horse, but what method of transportation are you currently using to get to college? It sounds like you're using public trans and using your mom's money to pay the fares. Is that correct? If so, why can't you find a job somewhere along that route and go to work from school?
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Wow this is the same question being asked or and over, I use my moms money for cabs($18 total to go back d forth to school 3 days a week) or my stepdad takes me in the morning or whenever he gets a vacation from work he works from from afternoon to early morning.
 
psychtx said:
I did think you were trolling, but I do understand everything you are going through.
You can try to get an application fee waiver for some colleges. My income growing up was less than $15,000 ( way less than that) and I was eligible for fee waivers.
Someone else mentioned this, but you can still accept the loans you denied. It shouldn't be a difficult process, you should be able to do it from your student account. Or you can call your school's financial aid office. I had a similar experience, when I denied offered loans. I can help you figure it out, if you pm me.
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Our income is $11,000 a year to round to the exact
 
Goro said:
Your school must have a counseling center. they're free. Make use of them, stat.

Also, you can bike to a bus stop, if the busses allow for bike transport.

You've been given a lot of good advice in this thread. I hope you will make use of it.
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Hard for the person to make use of advice when they are almost certainly trolling. The more that the OP posts, the more I am convinced of it. It's just one excuse after the other.

There is online work.

There is online school.

Using a disability as an excuse is just so upsetting especially when some parts of the story keep changing. And of course the mom has depression, epilepsy and depression are co-morbidities! Plus some of those meds actually cause depression. My mother's MSBP and bipolar did not stop me from going to college, just like none of my disabilities did. My estranged father has a number of issues.

Don't have a counselling center? Google: online free counselling

Can't afford CPR course? Google: online free cpr

If your state has Medicaid that you are qualified for, they will give you counseling and will transport you to and from. I have more than a few friends who had to get it that route and in red states too.

If you are as anxious as you say and have a piece of paper with a diagnosis on it, try for Voc Rehab. They will take you for assessment, for counselling, and help you get a job and in some states even pay for you to go to school. I know because I used some of their services.
 
I have to hijack the thread for a moment, Aero, because your earlier post about all the travails you've been through reminded me of the Book of Job!

familyaerospace said:
Hard for the person to make use of advice when they are almost certainly trolling. The more that the OP posts, the more I am convinced of it. It's just one excuse after the other.

There is online work.

There is online school.

Using a disability as an excuse is just so upsetting especially when some parts of the story keep changing. And of course the mom has depression, epilepsy and depression are co-morbidities! Plus some of those meds actually cause depression. My mother's MSBP and bipolar did not stop me from going to college, just like none of my disabilities did. My estranged father has a number of issues.

Don't have a counselling center? Google: online free counselling

Can't afford CPR course? Google: online free cpr

If your state has Medicaid that you are qualified for, they will give you counseling and will transport you to and from. I have more than a few friends who had to get it that route and in red states too.

If you are as anxious as you say and have a piece of paper with a diagnosis on it, try for Voc Rehab. They will take you for assessment, for counselling, and help you get a job and in some states even pay for you to go to school. I know because I used some of their services.
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