Internet dating in medical school?

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colbgw02 said:
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Ark?
 
Anastomoses said:
I don't see anything superficial about needing a strong physical attraction before feeling motivated to get to know the rest of someone's attributes. Sure, it could happen a different way but this is not a horrible technique either.



Stop misrepresenting me. I do not think arranged marriages are tantamount to mail-order brides. In fact, I'm a big fan of arranged marriages. I just think you, in particular, are getting an extra good deal because you can't hack it anywhere else. And stop making me insult you...I get no pleasure out of it.

As for your friend, he's right. If two people were hanging off a bridge - you and a total stranger - and I could only save one...
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I give it a thumbs up. Done it myself and have had a positive experience. As a guy, you're going to have to put in some actual effort as the ratio is more imbalanced and so lots of girls have their inboxes flooded with crap, often guys taking the shotgun approach a little too far. To address this semi-argument here, the fact is this: people are shallow. The extent to which can vary a lot, but looks matter. That can be even more the case in an online format where it's so easy to quickly screen. The best tip anyone can give you for online dating success is to be very good-looking (and for guys, be at least 6'2). But that's life, and it's not like it's that much different in the real world. As anastomoses said, having some level of physical attraction is important - that's why I don't date any of my best friends, that are guys. So with that said, if you're not in a big city like NYC where it's super common, the average attractiveness of females on there is probably going to be lower than walking around, which can be understood as a lot of more attractive girls are probably getting asked out a lot and so may not see a reason to bother with it. There are still nice looking women on there, though, and many with the same reasons we might have - in something like med school where it's hard to branch out, looking for something specific, etc. I encountered a few female classmates' profiles. There will also be some amusing things to read through, and people with absurdly high standards and don't seem to really be in position to make such demands. Lulz to be had. Just don't be an ass. And be really really ridiculously good-looking.
 
Anastomoses said:
haha. Better than walking around? Ehh...

So, it depends on you. We don't often realize it but many times we are filtering what we do and don't want to see. I've only recently realized that I filter ugly women out of my radar so I tend to think women are just gorgeous and putting up with obscene amounts of hideous men (who won't allow me to filter them out). So when I'm asked to really look at what's around...like really...like at the grocery store or at the DMV...I get kind of a reality check.
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You better be really good looking by making this comment. LOL. 😛
 
Sephiroth said:
I give it a thumbs up. Done it myself and have had a positive experience. As a guy, you're going to have to put in some actual effort as the ratio is more imbalanced and so lots of girls have their inboxes flooded with crap, often guys taking the shotgun approach a little too far. To address this semi-argument here, the fact is this: people are shallow. The extent to which can vary a lot, but looks matter. That can be even more the case in an online format where it's so easy to quickly screen. The best tip anyone can give you for online dating success is to be very good-looking (and for guys, be at least 6'2). But that's life, and it's not like it's that much different in the real world. As anastomoses said, having some level of physical attraction is important - that's why I don't date any of my best friends, that are guys. So with that said, if you're not in a big city like NYC where it's super common, the average attractiveness of females on there is probably going to be lower than walking around, which can be understood as a lot of more attractive girls are probably getting asked out a lot and so may not see a reason to bother with it. There are still nice looking women on there, though, and many with the same reasons we might have - in something like med school where it's hard to branch out, looking for something specific, etc. I encountered a few female classmates' profiles. There will also be some amusing things to read through, and people with absurdly high standards and don't seem to really be in position to make such demands. Lulz to be had. Just don't be an ass. And be really really ridiculously good-looking.
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Thanks a lot. I will put forth my best effort to be taller and more good-looking for my future online dating endeavors. That's actually a horrible tip but a good reality check. My friend is a tall, good-looking medical student, and every time we go out, random attractive girls come up to him--that's a pretty good indicator of being really, really, ridiculously good-looking. If you've never been hit on by a person you find attractive, you know which side of the fence you're on.
 
speeddemon said:
I theorize that 70% of the women now in most US cities are undateable. The remaining 30% of women all want guys in the top 10% of all guys.

For guys, you are either in the top 10% (doing really well with dateable girls), in the next 20% (struggling like crazy to get the dateable girls and occasionally dipping into the undateable girl category) or in the bottom 70% (getting no dateable girls and struggling to get undateable girls).

Any combination of these qualities (social status, very good looks, nice body, game, mastery of a field, money) can get a guy in the top 10%.

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What do you mean when you say undateable ? In which sense are you talking about ? Explain a bit more.
 
boogaloo said:
Thanks a lot. I will put forth my best effort to be taller and more good-looking for my future online dating endeavors. That's actually a horrible tip but a good reality check. My friend is a tall, good-looking medical student, and every time we go out, random attractive girls come up to him--that's a pretty good indicator of being really, really, ridiculously good-looking. If you've never been hit on by a person you find attractive, you know which side of the fence you're on.
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At bars or other vicinities? Ark, is that you?
 
speeddemon said:
I theorize that 70% of the women now in most US cities are undateable. The remaining 30% of women all want guys in the top 10% of all guys.

For guys, you are either in the top 10% (doing really well with dateable girls), in the next 20% (struggling like crazy to get the dateable girls and occasionally dipping into the undateable girl category) or in the bottom 70% (getting no dateable girls and struggling to get undateable girls).

Any combination of these qualities (social status, very good looks, nice body, game, mastery of a field, money) can get a guy in the top 10%.

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She can be a 9 with all those qualities but if she has a ****ty personality with no sense of humor, no thanks. Passssss.

Your numbers are way off but for arguments sake lets say you're right. If you were to rate yourself average in looks with a decent personality and a little confidence, why do you think it's near impossible to find a girl to date? If you stick within a reasonable range, you'll easily find someone in your city that you are attracted to and compatible with. You say the remaining 30% of women only want the top 10% of guys but what about the women who realize they have no chance?
 
speeddemon said:
Not visually attractive, 15-20 pounds overweight (note that this does not necessarily mean medically overweight), mental illnesses, personality disorders, very masculine or difficult to deal with etc
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You should see foreign women and their beauty. You will then realize where American women fall on the scale of attractiveness and beauty.
 
speeddemon said:
I theorize that 70% of the women now in most US cities are undateable. The remaining 30% of women all want guys in the top 10% of all guys.

For guys, you are either in the top 10% (doing really well with dateable girls), in the next 20% (struggling like crazy to get the dateable girls and occasionally dipping into the undateable girl category) or in the bottom 70% (getting no dateable girls and struggling to get undateable girls).

Any combination of these qualities (social status, very good looks, nice body, game, mastery of a field, money) can get a guy in the top 10%.

Views on this theory?
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lots. haha. will address tomorrow.

speeddemon said:
It is not impossible to find a girl to date for any guy...I'm saying you would be dating an undateable girl (see above post for definition) if you aren't at minimum in the top 30% of all guys. Being in the top 10% of all guys means you can choose among dateable girls. In the past, there were more dateable girls - so the math was different.
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Are you kidding me? Could you get me the percentage of "dateable" guys out there? I have literally given up 2 dating sites because most of you look like ass. It's like 3/100 guys are...something to bother constructing a message for. Tell your fellow males to get their **** together and then we'll talk. Sorry if we don't need sex as badly. Boo hoo.

First off...I'd say 80% of women are willing to date below their league, so stop crying about it. If you are educated and not getting girls in your league it means one of 2 things...1. Look hard in the mirror because your league isn't your league. Reality check. or 2. Oh wait...that's you shooting out of your league again. Sorry.
Prince090 said:
I mean , yes.
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Wtf are you talking about, you dim-witted religious freak IMG?
 
sidefx said:
I think the Pareto principle can be applied to college dating: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pareto_principle

Top 20% of men sleep with 80% of the women
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Not a correct application of the Pareto principle, but the 80-20 "rule" works surprisingly well for pimp questions (i.e. when you get asked what the incidence of xxx disease, complication, etc, is - either answer 80 or 20)
 
Anasto pretty much said what I tried to say in a nicer way lol. If you can't find someone, even mediocre or average, then you are doing it wrong
 
speeddemon said:
I theorize that 70% of the women now in most US cities are undateable. The remaining 30% of women all want guys in the top 10% of all guys.

For guys, you are either in the top 10% (doing really well with dateable girls), in the next 20% (struggling like crazy to get the dateable girls and occasionally dipping into the undateable girl category) or in the bottom 70% (getting no dateable girls and struggling to get undateable girls).

Any combination of these qualities (social status, very good looks, nice body, game, mastery of a field, money) can get a guy in the top 10%.

Views on this theory?
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I think it makes sense. I mean, females would prefer sharing top men with other women rather than being girlfriends of average men, right? That's why people like Genghis Khan got more ass than a toilet seat.
 
Arkangeloid said:
I think it makes sense. I mean, females would prefer sharing top men with other women rather than being girlfriends of average men, right? That's why people like Genghis Khan got more ass than a toilet seat.
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Um, no. Just..no. :nono:
Rule #1 - You know nothing about females.
 
Arkangeloid said:
I think it makes sense. I mean, females would prefer sharing top men with other women rather than being girlfriends of average men, right? That's why people like Genghis Khan got more ass than a toilet seat.
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Oh Ark... Genghis Khan "got more ass than a toilet" because he plundered towns and raped hundreds of women, not because he was some irresistible lady's man, lol. Your innocence/sheltered personality shocks me sometimes. I swear you are a master troll in disguise.
 
99 % of these problems exist because of standards too high for someone's relative position on the food chain. Every dude in the world vies for the 10 % of women that are highly attractive and then wonders why it's so difficult.
 
wow, this thread has taken quite a turn. wouldn't the world be such a great place if everyone were sufficiently attractive that we could all just forget about that as a screening point and just worry about how we actually get along with someone in a relationship? Nature offers no such consolation. Get on it, science.
 
Sephiroth said:
wow, this thread has taken quite a turn. wouldn't the world be such a great place if everyone were sufficiently attractive that we could all just forget about that as a screening point and just worry about how we actually get along with someone in a relationship? Nature offers no such consolation. Get on it, science.
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I mean I don't think it's off-topic. I think medical student's have a rather high view of themselves, which is deserved of course, but for some it's like they cured cancer, just because they are an MS1. Not talking about anyone here in particular, just general trends and people I know.
 
Winged Scapula said:
No, wrong.
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Easy to say when you're a top female. 😛
PL198 said:
I mean I don't think it's off-topic. I think medical student's have a rather high view of themselves, which is deserved of course, but for some it's like they cured cancer, just because they are an MS1. Not talking about anyone here in particular, just general trends and people I know.
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Yeah, because people keep saying that a doctor is a highly sought after profession for SO's by women. While I'm not saying I don't believe it, I think a lot of people take it a little too far in how they interpret it. And then you got those like WS who have all the doctors chasing after them, so it loses its luster.
 
Sephiroth said:
Easy to say when you're a top female. 😛
Yeah, because people keep saying that a doctor is a highly sought after profession for SO's by women. While I'm not saying I don't believe it, I think a lot of people take it a little too far in how they interpret it. And then you got those like WS who have all the doctors chasing after them, so it loses its luster.
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Yes, because physicians are good providers and intelligent people. I agree it's probably overstated, but you also have to consider the time frame. Most of the people posting talking about dating in medical school are probably between 23-28. The average person that age isn't really thinking about the same things someone 30+ would think about. In my opinion, the whole provider aspect is ignored by those 23-28 year old students in med school, along with potential significant others.
 
Attn guys itt, dont talk to the fish. A man doesnt need to be good looking, one just needs to be a man.
 
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