Intraclass Dating

[deadwood]

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How good an idea is it to date some in your class. When I used to work in the business sector the axiom was 'not to fish in the company pond'. Do you think this holds true at Med School? Afterall if you didn't show up with a significant other when would you find the time to meet someone not in Med School?

 

[Blade28]

Our class had a lot of intra-class dating during first year. I'd say there were about 6-7 intra-class couples by the summer after first year (out of a class of around 60). Of course, only 1-2 couples remain 1 1/2 years later. 🙂

It's only natural...you tend to hang out with your classmates a lot, study with them, bitch about similar lectures/teachers/classes/tests/etc.

 

[Filter]

Intraclass dating has its pro's and its con's:

Pro's: Its easier to see each other, u both understand the "med school grind," and study breaks can be "lots of fun." If u find the right girl/guy, it can be heaven.

Cons: Everyone knows your business if u break up, u can end up spending TOO much time together, and coordinating study schedules can get irritating ( eg. 1 of u likes to go to lecture, then study, sleep at 10, while u may ike to sleep till 11, study and b.s. till 8, go to the gym, watch some TV, sleep at 2 etc. ) and if u dont study together the whole easier to see each other thing gets shot out the window. I dont recommend random hook-ups, med school is a small place, and if things go bad, everyone gossips/people may hate u, and its just not worth it, there are lots of other "random people" to randomly hook up with.

However, it all varies on a case by case bases. I'm a 3rd year whose engaged to a a girl in my class, who I dated throughout med school. I guess for me it worked. I hope u get as lucky as i did, and find the girl of your dreams at school. Good Luck.

 

[Mirror Form]

My class now has 4 or 5 couples that met 1st or 2nd year and are now ENGAGED. So, it can work out very easily. I dated one girl in my class and it ended up not going anywhere, but I don't think it was a big disaster, might as well take the chance.

 

[remedy]

The break-up (should this occur) can be challenging. Particularly if one person is over the relationship and the other is not. Small class sizes seem even smaller when this happens.

 

[Blade28]

Yup, break-ups can definitely be tough...classmates have to choose sides, rotations sometimes have to be juggled to avoid one another...very ugly.

 

[NEmed]

I am engaged to one of my classmates, so I guess it can certainly work out for the best. I think common sense is the rule here. If you are going to date classmates casually you need to be prepared to be the subject of lots of class gossip.

 

[Tiny Dancer 81]

From my experience, intraclass dating sucks, ESPECIALLY when one person is over the relationship, and the other is not. It becomes a game of avoiding eachother, when the classes are never big enough. If you really think it can work, then obviously, give it a chance.

 

[Finally M3]

It can be managed, but it gets tough, especially if you are both are on rotations where your schedules are different. For example, my girlfriend is a MS3 doing overnight OBGyn call and I'm working afternoons and evenings in the ED (and with no days off in the last 9 days). So it gets tough, but it's good to have someone to complain to who understands what work is really like...at the same time, it sucks when you can't see each other, and alone time turns into falling asleep in each other's arms at 9PM.

At the same time, I'm also talking about a girl I've dated for a year and a half and I'm still smitten by, so take my words with a grain of salt...😍

 

[Sweet Tea]

I think it depends on what you're looking for in a relationship. If you want to just date and not expect anything serious, then don't date in your class. The breakup will be bad. However if you really like someone, they like you, and you want a more serious, long-term relationship, then you can make it work.