Is it better to be a prude

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CherryRedDracul said:
Do you get that title if you donate bronze?
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Priapism4tooLong said:
You look crazy in your avatar, and are those real tats?

You look like a anime character mixed with a clown with the face make up lol
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So I'm going to come clean. Besides having that color skin, the swoleness, the facial structure, a watch, a few of those kinds of shirts, and the hair, the real me and the person in the avi look nothing alike.

I have 0 tattoos and do not wear rouge. I'm gonna switch to a Leigh Bowery avi.
 
mulberry said:
I think @FutureSunnyDoc was trying to say men don't have to be 'good looking' to impress women. It's how they handle themselves
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Furthermore, I think (errrr, hope) a man can improve his prospects through fitness, money, fashion, etc. It's a lot harder for a woman to improve her prospects similarly.
 
FutureSunnyDoc said:
I used to think I could change the way other people operated. When I relinquished control to the universe and let go of my judgements, life got much easier. 🙂 People are who they are. Just find the ones who you like, and think are kinda sexy, who like you back, and think you're kinda sexy.
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Have you been accepted somewhere? Do you actually have a brain inside there? Because all I'm reading is "blah blah blah blah touchy feely blah blah, astrology moons and stars and jesus blah blah"

DermViser said:
You probably scared them off by checking their mucous membranes. Beautiful isn't worth it if it is accompanied by crazy.
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Don't be stupid. Why would I be checking the oral cavity of a "less attractive male"??
 
Anastomoses said:
I don't follow. What is your protest? That being objectively unappealing shouldn't make you more empathetic to women in your complementary situation?
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I don't know too many "unappealing" men who are insistent about only dating beautiful women, tbh. I think that's mostly an internet meme.
 
Brain Bucket said:
2. They don't land the 9s consistently for awhile, if ever, thus delaying that knowledge.
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The difference between a "7" and a "9" (assuming 7 means "cute" and 9 means "hot") is some time and makeup, IMO.
 
Arkangeloid said:
The difference between a "7" and a "9" (assuming 7 means "cute" and 9 means "hot") is some time and makeup, IMO.
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What impresses me is the number of men who either refuse to accept that they are 3's or 4's or those who merely feel like money, charm, wit can make up for it. That movie Hutch is a classically ridiculous propagation of this. Somehow it seems uncomfortable to the general male psyche that certain women might be unattainable. I'm not against a 3 falling in love with an 8. What I'm against is this prepackaged war against the female psyche that is set up to tell girls "be born pretty, it's important or nobody will love you" and boys to think "oh, it's all in my hands".

Hey, maybe if I really didn't care about looks and only cared about personality I could get on board with this. Maybe I'd be peddling the stuff ofFluffysoon2Doc or whatever her name is.
 
Anastomoses said:
Point #1: Studies actually show that men are willing to dip down very low for one night stands while women actually demand a highly attractive male for them to break their general disinterest of one night stands. And that study was done cross-culturally...finding that Swedish men, I think it was or Scandinavians were the least likely to "do anything" with Italians being the most likely of the 4 or 5 groups they studied.

To add a personal note, you already know beauty goes a long way for me.

And your point #3 actually means women can get hotter men for sex than men can for women. Without cash, of course.
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I don't think you refuted anything I said. Those 3 points interplay to create a situation where women (everything else being equal) have the final say in a one night stand and so get over looks faster.
 
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Brain Bucket said:
I don't think you refuted anything I said. Those 3 points interplay to create a situation where women (everything else being equal) have the final say in a one night stand and so get over looks faster.
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Are you positing that women care less about looks because they can get hot guys in bed easily and so "it aint a thang"?

That's got more holes than swiss cheese.
 
Anastomoses said:
What impresses me is the number of men who either refuse to accept that they are 3's or 4's or those who merely feel like money, charm, wit can make up for it. That movie Hutch is a classically ridiculous propagation of this. Somehow it seems uncomfortable to the general male psyche that certain women might be unattainable. I'm not against a 3 falling in love with an 8. What I'm against is this prepackaged war against the female psyche that is set up to tell girls "be born pretty, it's important or nobody will love you" and boys to think "oh, it's all in my hands".

Hey, maybe if I really didn't care about looks and only cared about personality I could get on board with this. Maybe I'd be peddling the stuff ofFluffysoon2Doc or whatever her name is.
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Right, but how many of those men are there? All the "3" and "4" men I know are either hopelessly alone or have female partners at their attractiveness level.
 
Are you deliberately being obtuse?

I give up.
 
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Brain Bucket said:
Who are you and where did you come from?
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I'm merely responding in meme language to either sarcastically comment on your goto forum move or/and communicate with you with pictures, as I half believe you to be an idiot.
 
Fine, I'll leave it on. I have no idea who you are and have given no thought to you whatsoever.
 
Ionian said:
I'm merely responding in meme language to either sarcastically comment on your goto forum move or/and communicate with you with pictures, as I half believe you to be an idiot.
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Anastomoses said:
Have you been accepted somewhere? Do you actually have a brain inside there? Because all I'm reading is "blah blah blah blah touchy feely blah blah, astrology moons and stars and jesus blah blah"


Don't be stupid. Why would I be checking the oral cavity of a "less attractive male"??
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DSM-5 Criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder

"
A. Significant impairments in personality functioning manifest by:
1. Impairments in self functioning (a or b):
a. Identity: Excessive reference to others for self-definition and self-esteem regulation; exaggerated self-appraisal may be inflated or deflated, or vacillate between extremes; emotional regulation mirrors fluctuations in self-esteem.
b. Self-direction: Goal-setting is based on gaining approval from others; personal standards are unreasonably high in order to see oneself as exceptional, or too low based on a sense of entitlement; often unaware of own motivations.
AND
2. Impairments in interpersonal functioning (a or b):
a. Empathy: Impaired ability to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others; excessively attuned to reactions of others, but only if perceived as relevant to self; over- or underestimate of own effect on others.
b. Intimacy: Relationships largely superficial and exist to serve self-esteem regulation; mutuality constrained by little genuine interest in others‟ experiences and predominance of a need for personal gain
B. Pathological personality traits in the following domain:
1. Antagonism, characterized by:
a. Grandiosity: Feelings of entitlement, either overt or covert;
b. Attention seeking: Excessive attempts to attract and be the focus of the attention of others; admiration seeking.
C. The impairments in personality functioning and the individual‟s personality trait expression are relatively stable across time and consistent across situations.
D. The impairments in personality functioning and the individual‟s personality trait expression are not better understood as normative for the individual‟s developmental stage or socio-cultural environment.
E. The impairments in personality functioning and the individual‟s personality trait expression are not solely due to the direct physiological effects of a substance (e.g., a drug of abuse, medication) or a general medical condition (e.g., severe head trauma).
"
 
Oh, we're posting random pics now. Sounds good
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madchemist89 said:
DSM-5 Criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder

personal standards are unreasonably high in order to see oneself as exceptional, or too low based on a sense of entitlement; often unaware of own motivations.
a. Empathy: Impaired ability to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others; excessively attuned to reactions of others, but only if perceived as relevant to self;b. Intimacy: Relationships largely superficial and exist to serve self-esteem regulation; mutuality constrained by little genuine interest in others‟ experiences and predominance of a need for personal gain

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High personal standards because you think you should be exceptional? Check.
Unempathetic? If I didn't feel empathy I wouldn't even care about all the women being duped into mass consumerism and the beauty myth (see Naomi Wolf).
I have some pretty amazing relationships with some pretty amazing people.
Try a different field of medicine next time you try to diagnose something. Nothing looks dumber than a doctor who misdiagnoses left and right. Stick to what you know.

Ionian said:
Hey buddy, if I wanted a lecture right now I'd be at my AA meeting instead of drinking at home alone.
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Ohhhh, now I get it. You're pretending to be me. Cute. I was a little slow on that one. AA meeting lol. I like.
 
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