is it possible to have a happy/relaxing life in medicine?

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Yep, if I won the lottery I would probably get several degrees out of interest before actually starting into a career. Learning as a full time job is pretty rad.
Actually was talking to a couple of friends about this earlier today. I'd do the exact same thing; maybe not an MD, but I sure as heck would get a PhD in a field I care about (probably either economics or neuroscience).

We can all dream.
 
become a salaried doctor at a hmo like kaiser and it isnt too bad. a lot of docs there work 9-5
 
. You seem to be equating being a student/med student with being a doctor.

This.
If you hate learning and studying and being a student so much I will say you are in for a loooong, hard ride....

I worked with a doc last summer who is a Fam Med doc and owns her own practice and helped another doc get their own practice up and running. Up until this year she has not worked more than 3 days a week since finishing her residency.
School is school and it definitely sucks sometimes (though if you can't find the fun in it you will be awfully miserable) but the end goal is well worth it. After school it all depends on YOU - what specialty do you want to do, where do you decide to work, what schedule are you willing to have, etc. life is what you make of it. 😉
 
Maybe. I used to be SUPER ambitious when I first started as a undergrad. then i get burned out, unhappy and unsure of my career choice anymore. I'm taking 2 gap years. so I will be doing med school from 24-28. and 28-32 for residency. I'm also a girl and I would like to date and eventually find a partner, which will be super hard when I'm in med school and doing residency. (And I don't think I will like the guys in medicine. but i guess it will be really hard to find guys outside this field).Being constantly worried about school (ex: not getting A's and not getting into med school) does interfere with how happy I am. And sometimes I feel like I just can't enjoy life like my non-premed friends. Pre-med sorta make me a little bit depressed from time to time.

A few of the doctors I work with that took the "traditional" route complain about "wasting their twenties" doing nothing but studying. Maybe taking some time off to really get to know yourself (not gap years where you are still piling on the EC's) would be good. I'll be 28 when I hopefully start med school; I'll have two kids and a wife. But spending my early twenties really figuring out who I am has given me a perspective and focus I never would have had earlier on.

Figure out what you want. Live a little. It does wonders.

Edit: Not bashing the traditional route. Everyone's path is different.
 
Medical school is tough. Yes, there is a lot of memorization and tests involved. Yes, it is stressful at times and we sometimes wonder if we made the right choice to go into medicine.

We all need to keep the end goal in mind: We are pursuing medicine for a higher purpose than ourselves. We are going into medicine because it is our calling in life to use the skills and abilities we have been given to improve the health of mankind. My favorite quote that summarizes this is in my signature: "Opportunities to make someone else'e life better [are] so much more attractive to me than the though of the comforts I once knew" -Katie Davis (she has written a great autobiography that talks more about this). When you see the drastic physical and spiritual needs of people around the world who need medical care, and you realize that you have the opportunity to make a difference in their lives, that motivates me to pursue medicine despite all of the negative side effects (tests, stress, long hours...).

Happiness depends on how you see the situation. I have seen people in poverty in third world nations live happier lives than people living in wealth in the US. When you see the poverty that almost 1/2 of this world lives in, and you realize that you were gifted to be born in a rich nation like the US with wealth and opportunity, it gives you perspective on how good we have it here. Yet we are complaining about hard work and stress, when we are not struggling to survive day to day.

Happiness for a physician comes from knowing that you made a difference in someone's life that otherwise would have not have been improved if not for you. I want the feeling of satisfaction of knowing that I am using my skills and talents to improve the physical, emotional, and spiritual health of poor people living in need. This is where my happiness comes from, and what drives me to pursue medicine despite all of the disadvantages. For the OP, this is my best advice for looking at the life of a doctor and how you can live a happy career.
 
Medical school is tough. Yes, there is a lot of memorization and tests involved. Yes, it is stressful at times and we sometimes wonder if we made the right choice to go into medicine.

We all need to keep the end goal in mind: We are pursuing medicine for a higher purpose than ourselves. We are going into medicine because it is our calling in life to use the skills and abilities we have been given to improve the health of mankind. My favorite quote that summarizes this is in my signature: "Opportunities to make someone else'e life better [are] so much more attractive to me than the though of the comforts I once knew" -Katie Davis (she has written a great autobiography that talks more about this). When you see the drastic physical and spiritual needs of people around the world who need medical care, and you realize that you have the opportunity to make a difference in their lives, that motivates me to pursue medicine despite all of the negative side effects (tests, stress, long hours...).

Happiness depends on how you see the situation. I have seen people in poverty in third world nations live happier lives than people living in wealth in the US. When you see the poverty that almost 1/2 of this world lives in, and you realize that you were gifted to be born in a rich nation like the US with wealth and opportunity, it gives you perspective on how good we have it here. Yet we are complaining about hard work and stress, when we are not struggling to survive day to day.

Happiness for a physician comes from knowing that you made a difference in someone's life that otherwise would have not have been improved if not for you. I want the feeling of satisfaction of knowing that I am using my skills and talents to improve the physical, emotional, and spiritual health of poor people living in need. This is where my happiness comes from, and what drives me to pursue medicine despite all of the disadvantages. For the OP, this is my best advice for looking at the life of a doctor and how you can live a happy career.

I mean no offense, but I've seen many "save the world, this is a calling" types crash and burn when exposed to the realities of medicine/being a physician. I enjoy medical missions too, but the appreciation and experience is nothing like medicine in the U.S from a day to day perspective. I really am happy because I should be financially stable, am in a specialty with almost no call and 9-5 hours, enjoy the source material, and in some cases make a big difference in people's daily life/function. I wouldn't be happy if I derived a ton of satisfaction based on my "skills and talents to improve the physical, emotional, and spiritual health of poor people living in need." There will be patients that you will help immensely, but many will blame you for their ills and ignore your advice. Frequently what the patients need is a phenomenal social worker, education, environmental "transplant", and sometimes a personality change.
Good luck, I hope you never lose your altruism as few can sustain it. Just be aware that unless you are financially wealthy with no debt, medicine is first and foremost a job and means of providing for your family.
 
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i know that med school is hard. studying is hard. and i know that there will be "classes"/lectures in residency as well.

but is it possible to have a relaxing life as a resident/attending?

im afraid that i will be miserable because a lot of people on the internet said that doctors are miserable. and the ones that I've worked with at a hospital seem miserable too…..

I'm thinking about doing psychiatry (easier residency in term of learning/memorizing stuff/having a life?) or pediatrics, or family med.

don't tell me to just go do some shadowing because i've tried to find it but i can't.

I really hate this endless amount of studying/gunning for A's/memorizing useless details and they make me unhappy. Does this kind of insane studying still happen in residency?

Happiness is very important to me. I don't really like facing new challenges everyday (as in seeing new biochem problems that i have no clue how to answer)

Has any resident/doc been to this kind of dilemma?

Real inputs only, please.

If you equate "happiness" to a "relaxing" job where you are not "facing new challenges" then this is really a bad career fit for you. The studying and memorizing in med school is really the EASY part of this career path. The pressure and responsibility come after that and its often challenging and stressful and emotionally trying. But those of us who enjoy the larger aspects of the job find ways to tolerate the negatives. I think you need to take stock of what you really need out of a career, because if your goal is relaxation and not facing new challenges and not a career of lifelong learning, then I worry that you are seriously missing the target even with respect to the more "lifestyle" fields.
 
Literally every single doctor I have talked to said they love their job and would never do anything else. I work as a scribe in the emergency department - their shifts are three days on, three days off; there is plenty of time to have a relaxing life and enjoy time with your family.
 
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