I was ready to apply after you said 8+ and competitive. I've got those covered. Then you started talking about socializing. Although I would say I excel at socializing with other awkward people so maybe that's close enough lol. I'm easy to get along with and most people like me, but I'm pretty reserved at first. In small groups and with friends I can be outgoing; I'm pretty much a classic introvert.
I'm just curious what this even means "Boarding schools and frats help you change your socialization patterns and understand the necessity of power relations." Please explain.
http://citeseerx.ist.psu.edu/viewdoc/download?doi=10.1.1.937.185&rep=rep1&type=pdf
When I talk to people who want to work for our Foreign Service in the Department of State, I explain to them that besides the day job in the longer career conditional phase, that their night job is to be a professional partier. Most people scoff at this, but it really is not an easy job, and it isn't one that adult training can really overcome.
If you are going to move in those circles, you have to have etiquette training, power relations knowledge, and a gift for conversation and observation in a way that feels natural. Boarding schools and frats teach those concepts through humiliation, shared experience in bad behavior, and forced socialization. In a boarding school environment, how the good old boys network develops is from sending a bunch of normal people involuntarily into an institutionalized environment and forcing them to cope. In true Lord of the Flies style, the same old stuff in terms of cliques, secrets, jealousies create those informal social hierarchies between supposedly "equal" classmates as well as the overt social order that the headmaster, teachers, and docents hand down. When you send your child to a boarding school, it is not for the normal classroom education alone. It is to be around people that your child will develop that good old boy network, break ties based on blood relations (meaning you the parents as well) forcing them to create their own intimate relations, and to give them a head start in learning to use power networks (both the formal school and the informal peer networks) to get what they want.
Frats can sometimes make someone this way, but it's something that learning young makes it more natural. Usually, you can tell the difference between the two by noting how they work at seduction. If you see the person coming off as sleazy or slutty, there are not doing it right. If they always seem to get what they want, but they always seem to be able to do it without disrupting the social order, you have a winner.
PHRMA's generally satisfied with seduction, but what happens is that with that alone, once you lose that charismatic edge, you get pushed out. Higher order areas like corporate headquarters need people who can seduce with enough emotional intelligence to avoid slutty or sleazy impressions, and the very best outfits (Department of State) require those skills to be as natural as possible. The sort of person that you always want to confess to without intending to and that person being able to note the relevant conversation and non-verbal stimuli, and always being able to detect the overall flow of the gathering and react accordingly, is what is really wanted.
Sex sells, but that's not all. If you're going to do that sort of work, there has to be more to it than animal spirits. Unfortunately, companies hire cheerleaders intentionally knowing that they'll be used up in their 40s (now 50s with proper diet, exercise, and cosmetic surgery). But the people who end up making it a career either consciously or unconsciously have the ability to manipulate everyone, including their employers to give them what they want.
Far above my level to do, but comes naturally to most boarding school alumni/ae and possibly learned if in a particularly transgressive frat (the more alpha, the better). The difference is that I can only make a living by working
not by being. But when you see those Department of State professional partiers at work, being who they are IS the job, and most people never understand just how hard it is to always be that interesting person to their current target.