I can emphathise with you because opportunities for spouses ranked VERY high on my list when choosing schools. KCOM is definitely spouse-friendly, with about half of our class married. KCOM has the largest chapter of SAA (Student Auxiliary Association) of any of the Osteopathic schools.
The advantage of this environment is that there are a lot of activities for spouses; so many, in fact, that my wife turns down more than she participates in because of time constraints. I watch our children several nights every week so she can participate in her various activities. The downfall of this area, though, is that there is little to do in town (ie, shopping, etc, unless you like Wal-Mart). Our nearest mall is 1.5 hours away, which isn't too bad, but we can't devote the time to drive there very often. That is kind of nice, though, because we avoid the bustle of the mall traffic and we save money!
KCOM-SAA offers activities and clubs such as scrapbooking, stamping, international cooking, game night, scavenger hunts, parents' night out, and many others. Lori Haxton, SAA's sponsor, can tell you more about the activities and even send you the current newsletter if you request it at (660)626-2121 (KCOM's switchboard). She is always more than happy to share because she is so excited about the organization--and believe me, it is not a front (like I saw at some schools). This group is for real and is dedicated to supporting the spouses!
If you have any specific questions, email me and my wife would love to talk to you!