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I was accepted into my first choice program in Houston TX and couldn't be more excited about it. However, with my free time fourth year I met an amazing girl who is in a PhD program in San Antonio with 2 years left. We have been dating for about 9 months and I am completely determined to make the LDR work. She knew from the beginning that I would most likely want to leave San Antonio and has always been supportive and ready to go through a LDR.
Her program will mean that she has to spend at least 1 more year in San Antonio and for the final year she basically only has to be there one day a week and will be writing her dissertation so she says that she can move to Houston to be with me and it shouldn't be a problem since a lot of people in the program do that for their final year.
We watched an episode of Scrubs last night and she started to cry because we are going from being 10 minutes apart to me moving 3.5 hours away. We love being together and my question would be that since there is an endpoint (1 year) I'm very committed to making this work. What are some ways I can close the gap? Of course any chance I get I'll make the drive from Houston to San Antonio and she has weekends off and is willing to come see me...but I really want to make sure that shes happy and not just sitting in San Antonio upset or coming to my place with nothing to do and bored out of her mind.
I've thought about sending cards every so often so she can physically have something to touch, signing up for some frequent flyer things so if the drive becomes too much we can just split the 140 bucks to fly round trip.
Do you have any ideas or suggestions to help? Do you think its possible to do the LDR for one year? How stressful has intern year been on your relationships? Will I have the time to drive?
Thanks