Long Distance Relationships

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So, I was just wondering if any of you guys have any input on being in dental school while maintaining a long distance relationship. I am a senior this year and have been accepted to a few dental schools for the 2011 academic year. I just got married this past year and had hoped that I would get into the school that my husband is currently attending...didn't happen. In any case, I am thrilled to have even gotten into dental school and there is no way in the world that I would pass up my dream to be a dentist (my husband would never let me do that anyways). However, I was wondering if any of you who are currently in long-distance relationships or will soon be in one have any advice on how to cope despite the distance.
 
Lotsa trust and lotsa webcam time.

You got the trust thing down being married and all.
 
How long will you be apart before your husband is finished with his schooling? Will you have to spend 1st year apart or will it be longer?
 
Frankly, if you're already married, distance should be a non-issue. You said you have a husband who wants the best for you (not letting you 'not go' to dental school) and you care about him. For richer or poorer, sickness or in health, same dental school or opposite dental schools. I realize marriage isn't easy, but think in the mindset of when your parents parents were married. It didn't matter if the husband went off to serve in the service for a few years, the wife loved him, the thought of him, held on to the joy of his eventual return. I understand you are disappointed you wont be around your man in dental school, but to question the outcome of a long distance relationship once you are married is ludicrous. Be serious here, do you even need a webcam like one poster said, not at all (sure it would be nice). This is now your husband, and being in different dental schools is nothing! Focus on the love behind the marriage, fixate on the love that is there. Dont even question how much 'more fun/easier' it would be if he was at your dental school. He's not, dont even question it further. He's not, thats interesting, and thats all it is. He is your man wherever you are, his soul is the one you choose to share your whole life, and if you really open up, you will feel his soul next to yours wherever he is. You two each got into professional school, you have your whole lives ahead of you, allow his soul to be forever next to yours, and you will feel the warm love literally 24/7 as if he was there. My advice....go isolate yourself from everyone for a few hours, and think about this whole soul tie thing, it will click (not that it hasn't) and you will be fine in dental school 😍. Forgive me if my post comes off as strong, im just an adamant believer in the true strength of love, and the power of true love, its more important than any of this dental school ****, stronger than any distance barrier, open up your heart deeper and deeper and deeper.... until death do you part.
 
Frankly, if you're already married, distance should be a non-issue. You said you have a husband who wants the best for you (not letting you 'not go' to dental school) and you care about him. For richer or poorer, sickness or in health, same dental school or opposite dental schools. I realize marriage isn't easy, but think in the mindset of when your parents parents were married. It didn't matter if the husband went off to serve in the service for a few years, the wife loved him, the thought of him, held on to the joy of his eventual return. I understand you are disappointed you wont be around your man in dental school, but to question the outcome of a long distance relationship once you are married is ludicrous. Be serious here, do you even need a webcam like one poster said, not at all (sure it would be nice). This is now your husband, and being in different dental schools is nothing! Focus on the love behind the marriage, fixate on the love that is there. Dont even question how much 'more fun/easier' it would be if he was at your dental school. He's not, dont even question it further. He's not, thats interesting, and thats all it is. He is your man wherever you are, his soul is the one you choose to share your whole life, and if you really open up, you will feel his soul next to yours wherever he is. You two each got into professional school, you have your whole lives ahead of you, allow his soul to be forever next to yours, and you will feel the warm love literally 24/7 as if he was there. My advice....go isolate yourself from everyone for a few hours, and think about this whole soul tie thing, it will click (not that it hasn't) and you will be fine in dental school 😍. Forgive me if my post comes off as strong, im just an adamant believer in the true strength of love, and the power of true love, its more important than any of this dental school ****, stronger than any distance barrier, open up your heart deeper and deeper and deeper.... until death do you part.

Well said 👍 although I still think skype would benefit A LOT!
 
So, I was just wondering if any of you guys have any input on being in dental school while maintaining a long distance relationship. I am a senior this year and have been accepted to a few dental schools for the 2011 academic year. I just got married this past year and had hoped that I would get into the school that my husband is currently attending...didn't happen. In any case, I am thrilled to have even gotten into dental school and there is no way in the world that I would pass up my dream to be a dentist (my husband would never let me do that anyways). However, I was wondering if any of you who are currently in long-distance relationships or will soon be in one have any advice on how to cope despite the distance.

I am in the exact same situation you're in. My husband is currently a D1, and I was interviewed at the school he attends, but not accepted. I do have an acceptance at another school, however, for which I am also grateful. When I applied, I purposefully chose schools relatively close to him in case this would happen. I assume you probably did the same. Even still, I would be lying if I said I wasn't disappointed. We've only been married 7 months and we'll be living apart for the next 4 years, but we will make the best out of the situation. We plan on visiting each other on most weekends and spending a lot of time skyping. It's really not a question of how it will work, we will make it work, but I think the key is to carefully allocate time to both our studies and each other. Good luck to you both!
 
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