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I'm just curious, is dating feasible in medical school? How likely am I to meet a significant other?
Once you are a doctor...things change. You will see that things even change in med school. I would find a significant other before the prestige and relative wealth. Residency is harder than med school. Make time for it.
Could you elaborate? Or have any stories to share?
I'm just curious, is dating feasible in medical school? How likely am I to meet a significant other?
I'm just curious, is dating feasible in medical school? How likely am I to meet a significant other?
I met my wife a few months before I even applied to medical school. She's a doctor already. Still don't know how I managed that. Life works in mysterious ways.
Please teach me your ways, master.I met my wife a few months before I even applied to medical school. She's a doctor already. Still don't know how I managed that. Life works in mysterious ways.
I'm just curious, is dating feasible in medical school? How likely am I to meet a significant other?
About 15 couples from my med school class got married. Hard to find someone after the fact who isn't out for your wallet.
Some started as couples. Most formed during the 4 years of med school.15 couples formed within your class? Or..?
Good point, though.
I find meeting girls at Starbucks or local coffee shops to work better for me.
At least 10 students within any given Class of mine get married to each other with the time they're in med school.
1. Download Tinder.
2. Take a pic of yourself in a white coat.
3. You know what 3 is.
very good points. How bad are medschool breakups? At my undergrad the class sizes were fairly small (relatively speaking compared to other colleges; lke ~1.5 k per class), yet the gossip and misinformation about the breakups and people would spread like wildfire! It felt like a class size of 500. There was gossip between classes as well that happend pretty regularly too which was crazy. Im hoping medschool students arent like thisDating in medical school is a tricky subject, students do date each other but that being said I think its more out of convenience than out of genuine interest in that other person. We spend a lot of time together and we have little time to interact with people outside of the medical circle, I managed to find someone outside of school, but I think I was just lucky. I find it better to be with someone not in school for a number of reasons.
When I was working, I would not date people I worked with at the office, even though I was asked out several times, it just made me uncomfortable to get personal with a co-worker. I prefer to keep my personal and professional life separate.
very good points. How bad are medschool breakups? At my undergrad the class sizes were fairly small (relatively speaking compared to other colleges; lke ~1.5 k per class), yet the gossip and misinformation about the breakups and people would spread like wildfire! It felt like a class size of 500. There was gossip between classes as well that happend pretty regularly too which was crazy. Im hoping medschool students arent like this
If I get into medschool I guess Ill be a loser thenMedical school is much like high school...only the nerds are cool and the women are more attractive. Yes...gossip exists in med school.
I've met a wonderful girl this year and it's getting rather serious. We're already talking about what we might do should we have to separate for school (she's pre-PT). Has anyone here had experiences with keeping relationships going sort of long-distance during professional school?
If I get into medschool I guess Ill be a loser then
you abstained for 5 years?Long distance is a very tricky and very stressful situation. My ex was with me for 5 years when we were together... before she just called it quits with me my senior year because she "couldn't handle the stress" and whatnot being across the country and all that. We did mention marriage and everything, with her parents' approval of course.
Come to find out that she is actually getting married with a guy she met at her program..
Pretty Fishy...
But I now know and have closure that I did not do anything wrong to her and loved her with all my heart.. never took advantage of her.. never pressured her into anything (no premarital sex, no fooling around, etc.) and I just chalk it up to experience.
you abstained for 5 years?
wow, you are quite the guy! I guess I can say now there are people like you who exist.Yessir. Well technically, I've abstained for much longer than that... lol
I still haven't lost my virginity and am waiting for after marriage (if that ever comes).
Long distance is a very tricky and very stressful situation. My ex was with me for 5 years when we were together... before she just called it quits with me my senior year because she "couldn't handle the stress" and whatnot being across the country and all that. We did mention marriage and everything, with her parents' approval of course.
Come to find out that she is actually getting married with a guy she met at her program..
Pretty Fishy...
But I now know and have closure that I did not do anything wrong to her and loved her with all my heart.. never took advantage of her.. never pressured her into anything (no premarital sex, no fooling around, etc.) and I just chalk it up to experience.
Don't mean to be all dramatic as I am very happy and secure with myself now... but OP just be careful. Relationships are huge emotional and mental investments. Love can make you do very foolish things. Very risky. If it is meant to be, it will be. Until then, focus on yourself and somebody will eventually make their way to you.
Just be YOU. Do what makes you happy and you'll be much more stress-free. All that matters is how you perceive yourself and whether you are happy with your life.
I had three random girls try to date me from out of town through facebook in medical school. In internship, tons of nurses flirting with me. I never had random girls ACTIVELY searching for me in undergrad.
Generally...your confidence increases the further you go along in training...and your prestige increases as well. It's a recipe for attractiveness. There is nothing wrong with girls going after doctors...but it becomes more difficult to sort out the underlying intentions of those interested in you. You really want someone attracted to you for reasons other than your profession. The allure of being a med student or docs girl wears off. Find someone who loves you for you.
I'm married to my undergrad best friend...she cared about me before I became a physician...and the day I give up doctoring to teach or do something else with my life (if that day comes)...she won't bail on me.
I disagree, I think its better to date outside of medical school. My girlfriend has a normal job and she is indifferent to me becoming a physician. I think dating in medical school is like bringing your work home with you, there are just so many issues and things that can go wrong.
Also the idea that people will date you just because you are a future "Doctor" with earning potential makes no sense. You are a indebted student with limited financial resources which is actually going to make people turn away from you as liability. You actually become marketable for your earning ability once you actually are a physician and are earning a living.
I agree with the first part.I disagree, I think its better to date outside of medical school. My girlfriend has a normal job and she is indifferent to me becoming a physician. I think dating in medical school is like bringing your work home with you, there are just so many issues and things that can go wrong.
Also the idea that people will date you just because you are a future "Doctor" with earning potential makes no sense. You are a indebted student with limited financial resources which is actually going to make people turn away from you as liability. You actually become marketable for your earning ability once you actually are a physician and are earning a living.
I agree with the first part.
Agree and disagree with the second part. I agree in the sense that people dont really understand what it takes to be a doctor and Im mainly referencing the TIME committment. Ive dated people and explained to them beforehand the time committments I had and they said/pretended/thought they understood what htey were getting into but they really didn't and it doesnt end well. I disagree because people are always attracted to people over power/money/etc. There are celebrities/singers/senior citizens who arent all that attractive physically yet they're covered in women. Then again, im sure some of these young women in their 20's dating these 75 year old sugar daddies truly are in love
When you are a student you have no money and no power, you are a student training to become something. Once you are an actual doctor then you are earning money. I prefer not bringing my work home with me after a long day, that is why I would never get involved in a personal romantic relationship with a fellow student.
My girlfriend is not in the medical profession but we have a wonderful level of understanding, she knows its a big commitment and a lot of work, as far as earnings, when I become an attending, she will probably be a Vice President at her company and will earn as much and most likely more than I will earn. She is not dating me because I will make a lot of money in the future. She already makes a near six figure income, I feel lucky that despite the fact she is well into her career, she has the patience to understand my situation.