Meeting someone

[GypsyHummus]

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Kinda hard when you are the woman with the 6 figure income and everyone out there in the wilds where I work barely makes ends meet. Hard for me to find someone who regularly bathes, doesn't smoke, and isn't hairy let alone a guy who wants to be with me for me. Maybe it's different for guys but I am seriously struggling here. Granted that I don't care if someone is poor, I have been there myself. But I don't want someone clinging to me just for the trips and loans I can give them.

Heck I had my ex- sister in law (I divorced her brother 14 years ago) text me today for a personal loan. Dang, go to the bank already. I have my own bills to pay.

I thought you were married.

 

[Mad Jack]

I thought you were married.

Were being the operative word. Medical school and residency can be brutal on a marriage.

 

[Hustler101]

If they don't have a ring on their hands, they're still available.


MJ, one of the reasons you're one of my fav SDNers is because you and I think alike. Whenever someone asked me what do I do for living, I told them that I'm a drug dealer -- write prescription drugs (in the future). Alright alright alright.

loll do keep in mind though that a guy or girl leaving someone for someone else in an immediate fashion (let alone cheating) is a huge red flag. But yea I know you're joking lol.

 

[Hustler101]

what? is that normal for you??

Wow yea to me you are abnormal. I guess now i can say that people like you exist

Someone with a low sex drive is likely to abstain from sex. Females who abstain do so pretty much always because of that. Males do so because of that as well as involuntary celibacy.

Can't define what's "normal" but someone who can abstain from sex for a very long period of time undoubtedly has an extremely low sex drive.

 

[QueenJames]

Someone with a low sex drive is likely to abstain from sex. Females who abstain do so pretty much always because of that. Males do so because of that as well as involuntary celibacy.

Can't define what's "normal" but someone who can abstain from sex for a very long period of time undoubtedly has an extremely low sex drive.

I can't speak for anybody but myself, but that certainly could be a possible reason. I mean it's not that I NEVER want to have sex.. it's just that I am waiting for the right person and right situation to do so... BUT it's not like a HUGEEE deal to me if I don't.. I hope that makes sense lol

I don't believe in the whole "hit it and quit it" deal and I know it sounds verrrryyy cheesy and very weird but yes... I do want true love and that special someone whom I can emotionally, mentally, and physically invest in and with and not worry about it being a waste of time, energy and emotion. I know it will take responsibility, a lot of compromise, and a lot of understanding, but I believe I am ready to do that ONCE I meet the right person and the right opportunity arises. I've learned a lot from my relationship and I don't regret anything. It's all apart of the process. Until then, I'm going to keep working on myself and just be happy with being able to do things and meet people and hopefully just be happy.

 

[cabinbuilder]

Please clarify. Most men I know are pretty hairy. Haha.

Gross long unwashed beards is what I mean by hairy.

 

[cabinbuilder]

I thought you were married.

I am married technically. Working on getting a divorce. Process is long. Doesn't mean I can't look. Doesn't mean I don't have standards. Doesn't mean I can't voice my criteria and disdain with having to be in the hunt again. Sigh........

 

[Desired Member]

Someone with a low sex drive is likely to abstain from sex. Females who abstain do so pretty much always because of that. Males do so because of that as well as involuntary celibacy.

Can't define what's "normal" but someone who can abstain from sex for a very long period of time undoubtedly has an extremely low sex drive.

Oh man this is sadder than the "people like you exist" comment. Be careful when uttering insulting generalizations like these in public. People don't like to be pigeonholed.

It can be incredibly difficult to remain celibate before marriage but some people make the sacrifice because they value this very highly.

 

[Hustler101]

Oh man this is sadder than the "people like you exist" comment. Be careful when uttering insulting generalizations like these in public. People don't like to be pigeonholed.

It can be incredibly difficult to remain celibate before marriage but some people make the sacrifice because they value this very highly.

Nothing wrong with looking at things from a biological perspective... but yes some people do make that choice (though very uncommon).

 

[Hustler101]

I can't speak for anybody but myself, but that certainly could be a possible reason. I mean it's not that I NEVER want to have sex.. it's just that I am waiting for the right person and right situation to do so... BUT it's not like a HUGEEE deal to me if I don't.. I hope that makes sense lol

I don't believe in the whole "hit it and quit it" deal and I know it sounds verrrryyy cheesy and very weird but yes... I do want true love and that special someone whom I can emotionally, mentally, and physically invest in and with and not worry about it being a waste of time, energy and emotion. I know it will take responsibility, a lot of compromise, and a lot of understanding, but I believe I am ready to do that ONCE I meet the right person and the right opportunity arises. I've learned a lot from my relationship and I don't regret anything. It's all apart of the process. Until then, I'm going to keep working on myself and just be happy with being able to do things and meet people and hopefully just be happy.

Yea there's nothing wrong with that. Different strokes for different folks. There are plenty of people though who go nuts even after a week or two, so it all varies.

 

[kenjixshadow]

@Hustler101 @Desired Member @QueenJames
Whatever you guys do, just find someone who will make you happy. If you're not happy with the special or not special one, point s/he at the door.

 

[QueenJames]

Oh man this is sadder than the "people like you exist" comment. Be careful when uttering insulting generalizations like these in public. People don't like to be pigeonholed.

It can be incredibly difficult to remain celibate before marriage but some people make the sacrifice because they value this very highly.

I know he didn't mean anything by it but you are right.. I'm sure that the wrong person would take it very personally and this thread would take a HUGE turn lol

 

[Hustler101]

@Hustler101 @Desired Member @QueenJames
Whatever you guys do, just find someone who will make you happy. If you're not happy with the special or not special one, point s/he at the door.

Very true. Though important that the person doesn't have any red flags too.

 

[GypsyHummus]

I am married technically. Working on getting a divorce. Process is long. Doesn't mean I can't look. Doesn't mean I don't have standards. Doesn't mean I can't voice my criteria and disdain with having to be in the hunt again. Sigh........

Oh, my condolences.

On the plus side, you're a strong independent women who has a professional degree. The world is yours.

 

[Hustler101]

I think the biggest issue guys going into med face in terms of dating is the lack of available women. Most attractive women aren't single.

 

[RoadNurse33]

P.S. - I didn't get the glass ceiling reference... Are you suggesting that my original comments were in any way saying that a woman MUST depend on a man and therefore cannot rise to a males level of success in the workplace?

I was merely extending the glass ceiling metaphor to relationships and/or marriage. The assertion that women seek security in a marriage due to biology perpetuates said glass ceiling.

 

[cabinbuilder]

Oh, my condolences.

On the plus side, you're a strong independent women who has a professional degree. The world is yours.

This is true. There is no looking back.