So I am hearing lots of negative things about New York from my friends.
I am hearing that it's brutal, vicious, rude, etc.
I've never been to NY & I'm excited to go, but for all of you students in NY, is it really brutal & vicious? Do restaurants scream at you if you don't leave tip? Are their pretentious people everywhere? Is there crime? Is it dirty & smelly?
I live in Chicago now and it's clean & people r super polite. I'm really getting scared about everything that people are telling me.
Please shed some light
I've been to NYC and it is very overwhelming and unlike any other city in the world. There are people EVERYWHERE. The island of Manhattan is inhabited by 1.6 million people and it is 3 x 11 miles. Add tourists and visitors to that. That's a lot of people. A LOT. So psychologically, when you put a bunch of people close together, and they live that way, people develop different attitudes than if they are more spread out. They're more protective of themselves and can be more curt in general, but I've never had someone be actively rude to me in NYC.
I've also been to both NYC and Chicago and honestly thought drivers (not traffic) were worse in Chicago, so there's that.
There is garbage everywhere in NYC. For some reason all of the businesses put it out front on the sidewalk and it is just everywhere. It's the only city I've been to like that and would take some getting used to, but I don't think it necessarily
smells like garbage. When I stayed in NYC and took my makeup off at the end of the day, the towelette would be black from all of the air pollution.
Of course NYC is 24 hours and there's things to do everywhere, but it's extremely expensive. You'd have to really budget. You get some of that in Chicago, but it's on an even grander scale. You'd have to get used to living in a closet.
It's similar to Chicago in that there are a lot of ethnic neighborhoods and interesting cultural things to do, it's on a body of water, it's a business hub, etc.
Safety wise, it's like anywhere. There's safer areas and not so safe areas. Common sense and knowing something about self defense will probably be all you need, but things do happen. I live in Cincinnati and I know plenty of people who have gotten mugged or robbed here, and it's considered pretty safe; any time you live in a city, the possibility for crime like that happens. I did have a greater sense of safety when I was in Chicago but it may just have been where I stayed.
No need for a car in NYC, which is nice. The subway is easy to take and gets you anywhere. The trade off is that they can be pretty gross and packed.
If you've never been to NYC, though, I would highly advise visiting before moving there. Like I said, it is one of a kind and you really can't get a feel for how you could adjust without going there. But, you're from a very large city, so I think it would be less of a transition for you than someone like me who is from a smaller area.