My typical ugly days at dental school

[DiuLaSengDental]

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[DiuLaSengDental]

first of all, i sympathize with your hurt feelings. i think it would be a good idea for you to find friends outside of dental school (yahoo meetup groups if you have to), to build your social confidence. along side that if you can muster the time it would be a good idea for you to seek counseling. feeling like an outsider takes a huge toll on your psyche...i know, I've been there and if most sdn'ers were being honest they have too. this could cost you your dental career if you don't handle it and get beyond it. it's not a small problem. but if you are able to conquer this issue you will feel unstoppable. sincerely best of luck to you. 👍

Yeah, I do hang out with peeps outside of school. I am not talking about that. I'm talking about WITHIN the dental school life. It's a totally different psyche when I step into the dental school building.

 

[DiuLaSengDental]

Hey there dilasengdental.

I just want you to know that I have also been in the nasty situation of not passing a course and having to repeat a year. It's not fun. People just ostracize you as if you have HIV. Sad, but the truth. 😡

The toughest part is integrating with a new class and yes, new classes already have their own cliques set up. Another thing that I disliked is that people in my class at my dental school loved to gossip a lot. I don't know about your school.

Yeah, people at my dental school are big-mouth gossiping bunch of ....eh.

I simply ignore those *****s who turn their back to me. They don't have to talk to me, this is the US. But at the same time, when there is group work, at least they should acknowledge my comments and not be a-holes by always disagreeing to whatever I have to say.

Just realize that in a couple of years, you will be out of dental school working. You no longer have to see those people who gave you problems. And there's also the concept of karma. If those people want to be mean and dickheads to you, something bad will happen back to them down the read, whether they fail part II of the boards or not get a first-choice job offer to where they want to relocate to.

I love your "karma" comment, as I've seen it happen to quite a few jerks who weren't too nice to me. LOL! One of the guy had his crown dies thrown away accidentally by the janitor. Another guy lost his slow-speed handpiece in the lab room.

You just have to realize that the majority of the students in a typical dental class are young kids in their early 20s. Average age is 24 for dental students, so it shows why they love to still gossip and act immature at times. Hopefully your class has around 60-80 students??

I don't think the majority of the students in my class are in their early 20's. I'd say the average age of the peeps in my class are in their late 20s. There are two old-looking fellows in my class. We'll see what the hell happens at the end of this month.

 

[DiuLaSengDental]

Sorry you're having such a rough time, but I think you might be reading more malice into peoples' actions and words than are actually there. For example, I don't think those IT guys were making fun of your ethnicity. Lots of people are surprised to find out that dental lab work is being outsourced to China. It's not like you can just send work back if there's a problem and get it returned later in the afternoon or the next day like you can with a local lab. Plus, China doesn't have the best track record with health/ safety standards. He probably read something about lab outsourcing and thought it was interesting and mentioned it because a dental student was standing there and it reminded him of it. And for the other guy to reply that "Chinese people need to eat too", well, that's quite the opposite of racism.

People around here tend to have this weird mentality. They love to poke fun at you indirectly. At least say it to me if these IT people don't like dental lab work being outsourced to China or India. It's also not my fault that I happen to be a Chinese guy, and it's none of their business what happens to dental lab work. They have nothing to do with dental lab work.

If you tend to be on the defensive at all times, it will be very difficult for you to get along with people around you. Just relax a little, don't jump to conclusions, don't wait for people to include you, try to include them.

I do let things slide. But when people around me start to take advantage of me and make this kind of joke even more because I don't say anything, that's when my blood begins to boil. I feel that I don't have to take this kind of sh-t from people who make indirect jokes to me when they are in conversation with each other within my hearing range.

Ask people how they're doing, how their weekend was, help them with things you may have learned last year (but not in a snarky condescending way). .

I do ask some, but not all of them (because I don't want to sound like a creepy CIA or FBI agent), how their weekend went. This is the typical reply I get. "Oh, I came in Saturday morning to work on setting my dentures teeth" or "oh, I spent all Friday night binge drinking and had a severe hangover that lasted until noontime the next day." Other than that, there's only dental school-related stuff that I talk about, and talking solely about upcoming exams, homework assignments, etc, is boring.

 

[lotexigeus]

People around here tend to have this weird mentality. They love to poke fun at you indirectly. At least say it to me if these IT people don't like dental lab work being outsourced to China or India. It's also not my fault that I happen to be a Chinese guy, and it's none of their business what happens to dental lab work. They have nothing to do with dental lab work.



I do let things slide. But when people around me start to take advantage of me and make this kind of joke even more because I don't say anything, that's when my blood begins to boil. I feel that I don't have to take this kind of sh-t from people who make indirect jokes to me when they are in conversation with each other within my hearing range.



I do ask some, but not all of them (because I don't want to sound like a creepy CIA or FBI agent), how their weekend went. This is the typical reply I get. "Oh, I came in Saturday morning to work on setting my dentures teeth" or "oh, I spent all Friday night binge drinking and had a severe hangover that lasted until noontime the next day." Other than that, there's only dental school-related stuff that I talk about, and talking solely about upcoming exams, homework assignments, etc, is boring.

Holy crap i just KNEW you were a girl. This is turning epic.

 

[solstice]

Reading 55+ responses I have to agree that the problem is from within. People here are not your enemy, they do not even know you man. A few of responses were actually good, constructive critism, but you just get at them without thinking that they may have a point.

This is the first time I hear some one says they can not have opposite sex partner, because people say/think.....WHY DO YOU EVEN CARE!

AND This is the first time I hear some one thinks that if he asks people how they are doing, they are thinking he is FBI!!!! Maybe you are watching too many movies. JK! 😀 The responses people give you are normal -exactly what they did on the weekend. Do you expect them to give you minute detail?!!!! Flow with them, tell them how was yours, go out with them, setup biking, hiking, whatever with them.

You need to forget about the fact that you are from another class, just assume this is your class and get along. It is true that dental school will be a past once you graduate, but if you do not change your attitude you will have problems with your boss, your associates, your receptionist, patients and etc.... What would you do if patients come back and tell you that you messed up everything for him? Please think before you respond to me. I have worked in corporate America and I know how much politics there is in even tiniest few personnel office. Try to learn to fix it NOW.

Good Luck

 

[anonymousername]

I'm all good, I found a partner and we're doing fine right here. Maybe you'll have better luck finding someone in the corner.

But really?

Just because you aren't capable of taking criticism and/or you lack the intelligence to explain, respond, or even consider that you might be a part of the problem, you resort to name calling. This is a very niave quality that I'm sure is causing you to be so miserable in your relationships and in life. I really hope that you get some help and work it out...for your own sake.

Reading 55+ responses I have to agree that the problem is from within. People here are not your enemy, they do not even know you man. A few of responses were actually good, constructive criticism, but you just get at them without thinking that they may have a point.

This is the first time I hear some one says they can not have opposite sex partner, because people say/think.....WHY DO YOU EVEN CARE!

You need to forget about the fact that you are from another class, just assume this is your class and get along. It is true that dental school will be a past once you graduate, but if you do not change your attitude you will have problems with your boss, your associates, your receptionist, patients and etc.... What would you do if patients come back and tell you that you messed up everything for him? Please think before you respond to me. I have worked in corporate America and I know how much politics there is in even tiniest few personnel office. Try to learn to fix it NOW.

👍

This is a good point. In a career where social interaction, communication, and being calm are extremely important, one needs to be able to keep their temper in check and not throw a tantrum every time someone upsets them.

 

[jr8047]

Yeah, I do hang out with peeps outside of school. I am not talking about that. I'm talking about WITHIN the dental school life. It's a totally different psyche when I step into the dental school building.

yes, i understood. my thoughts were that if you had a strong support system outside of d-school you may care less about d-school friends, give off a social confidence, and feel less desperate (for lack of better words) for d-school friends. of course, this doesn't help you with pairing up. i know. i think your state of mind is prolly showing to others more than you might think.

feeling rejected by peers is a painful experience that is difficult to take on a day to day basis and will wear you down. No one needs this kind of stress while trying to get thru d-school. it would make you feel much better to have someone to talk to about all this..meaning a professional counselor...really.

you are in d-school so you are obviously smart. you must understand that inside each person is good and bad and that not all your fellow classmates are all bad. choose who you think is a kind person and genuinely try to get to know them. I'm sorry that you are experience this.

 

[DiuLaSengDental]

Holy crap! lotsexchange is a shemale! Wow, just wow!!

Holy crap i just KNEW you were a girl. This is turning epic.

 

[DiuLaSengDental]

yes, i understood. my thoughts were that if you had a strong support system outside of d-school you may care less about d-school friends, give off a social confidence, and feel less desperate (for lack of better words) for d-school friends. of course, this doesn't help you with pairing up. i know. i think your state of mind is prolly showing to others more than you might think.

Yes, thank you for your understanding jr. At least you're smart enough to understand where I'm coming from.

feeling rejected by peers is a painful experience that is difficult to take on a day to day basis and will wear you down. No one needs this kind of stress while trying to get thru d-school.

No, and it's not needed. However, it's sad that some of the people here post in my thread simply to piss me off. Must be because they're bored and have nothing better to do.
What's different about dental school is that you're always with the same bunch of people in all of your classes. It's unlike undergrad where you have different people in different lecture courses. Plus there's more "free time" to relax during undergrad.

it would make you feel much better to have someone to talk to about all this..meaning a professional counselor...really.

No more time for that kind of stuff. Have thought of it, but you know the ins-and-outs of dental school. Projects, exams, quizes, papers, projects, spankings, beatings, etc.

 

[DiuLaSengDental]

Yeah, I think I have a photo of you "working on" your partner!

I'm all good, I found a partner and we're doing fine right here. Maybe you'll have better luck finding someone in the corner.

 

[Soon2BeKing]

Holy crap i just KNEW you were a girl. This is turning epic.

I agree

 

[anschutz1913]

it sounds like your situation is less than ideal....

but grow a pair and realize that you are your own man. gain confidence from your self reliance, and then you wont care what other people think. Be nice to others and if they are nice back, keep them as a friend. If they aren't, screw em, move on.

don't dwell on it

ANZ

 

[teeth63a]

wow there definitely is a pattern here

 

[dl9006]

initially when i read your post, i felt you were perhaps being treated unfairly.


but now i'm beginning to see where the problem lies..


you're not in high school anymore. stop posting stupid pictures as your rebuttal to an argument and become a bit more mature

 

[Kneecoal]

as much fun as it is to endlessly provoke this person, i think everyone just needs to stop. there is no rationale here. clearly no one is getting anywhere, and i'm not sure what the OP was looking for when he first made this thread because it's not a diary, and it ain't no "mirror mirror on the wall." no one's going to make him see otherwise. the end.

love,
the wet blanket

 

[GiTsticker]

"Oh, I came in Saturday morning to work on setting my dentures teeth"

😱OH NO HE DI-IN'T!!!

 

[476515678234896]

😱OH NO HE DI-IN'T!!!

oh yes he did