I dont know if youre still considering ortho but a quick plug for lifestyle. Apart from trauma, the hours arent that bad. I met my wife during residency (shes non healthcare) and we obviously got married and started a family. All while I was in residency. I was able to moonlight, I was able to travel, I was able to see my wife most days for dinner minus trauma or some random long days (and of course call).
All of the ortho attendings I know love their job and have pretty good lifestyles. Most PP ortho have atleast 1/2 day a week of protected time to catch up on notes/clinic. Most academics have 1 day "academic" day for research or notes. As a resident you operate a lot but as an attending its not that common to operate more then 2 days a week (again outside of call stuff). PP call I've seen average around 1/6-7. Academic call is way less from what I've seen.
I doubt this level of open clinic days will exist once the op is an attending. Hospitals are actively trying to get rid of 1/2 day clinics etc etc.