For you, the accelerated BSN is the only way I would do nursing, and it sounds like you have nearby options and a good plan. I can appreciate the notion of not throwing more money at PA, and opting for the sure thing, which I've said in the past is one of the aspects of nursing that I liked... there is a surefire process to advancing through the ranks to NP that offer great options along the way.
I'd apply for NP school as soon as you get your bearings and get off of RN orientation where you will work. You'll need to have some letters of recommendation to get into NP school, so that's something you will want to move towards as soon as you hit the ground as an RN, obviously keeping in mind that it will take a little while for a coworker or boss to get to know you enough to give you a good letter.
I think once you get into nursing, you'll find it is better than you might expect. The things that I am critical of are things that I wouldn't have known much about before I became a nurse, and every job has those kinds of aspects. I'm not a people person by default, but I think that's different from not liking people, and we sometimes have preconceived notions of what makes us tick.
Before nursing school, I realized that life moves fast, and it isn't helpful to carry the perspective that I would relax and be happy once I got to a certain checkpoint. I was going to try to live a normal, well adjusted life and move along towards my goals as a side note. But obviously that's easier to do if you have money and time, and school and work limitations sap both of those. RN school was something that demanded a lot of time and effort, so that happy-go-lucky mindset I wanted to have took a backseat to what I needed to get done to be successful. But I found a way to at least appreciate what I had in my life, and worked hard to treat obstacles as something to enjoy as I was overcoming them rather than as a burden. Any long process should be tackled that way, or else the rewards at the end of the journey might seem fleeting. I still struggle with living in the moment, but I'm better at it than I used to be. If I had done medical school back in the day, I would have been a miserable medical student because of my former outlook. A lot of that mindset is what plays into being a procrastinator.... you put things off, but are miserable the whole time you are putting things off, then when you are done with it, you are still miserable because of the memory of having to work really hard to throw things together at the last minute. On top of that, you are miserable because of the next thing on your plate that you put off because you were hammering away at the last challenge, and you are not looking forward to the next thing you have after that to do. That's no way to live when you have a long term goal in mind.