Does anyone have advice on how to tactfully negotiate a higher salary than offered, without risking future PP employer telling you to get lost?
It often helps to just tell (diplomatically but clearly), as opposed to just weakly asking... kinda a compliment sandwich approach below. This will get you an answer and save both sides time:
"Ok, that seems like a good fit. I would be agreeable to the offer if the base were X and would look to get my clinic busy quickly."
"Sure, it seems like a good and successful group. If the bonus is made to be 40%, then we can proceed to figuring out a start date."
"I received the contract and all seems good. I will need a $1k monthly health care and health insurance allowance added in, and then we are good to go."
If they don't do it, ok. You need to have the abundance mentality. You can set it up with phrasing (these work best in type/written forms) so that you are ready to work, and it's their choice if they want that to happen. Blame your attorney for your conditions if you like, but affirm that you feel that is what will make the hiring happen. They have already invested time and thought in you, so if they like you and you are not too far from their threshold of compensation, you will likely have a deal. You have to act clearly on their team and force them to break rapport by not being in agreement with your win-win mentality (which goes against common human nature and norm for them not to simply agree with).
Works 100%? Heck no.
60% of the time, it works every time. But regardless, you will have your answer (many PP job negotiations can go in circles for weeks if you let them with the applicant happy to maybe have a job and the owner happy to maybe have a real cheap associate and both avoiding direct communication about compensation). When you get down to brass tacks, if you set it correctly after you decide and they reject, then they are then the one who gave the thumbs down to the win-win you'd tried to create. If they counter (most won't if you communicate your terms well), you can simply act a bit disappointed they don't understand your offer was well-thougtht and is the only offer you would be agreeing to. Either way, they will take it or they won't. Learn the lesson and move on. "You don't get what you deserve, you get what you negotiate."
The book 7 Habits (Covey) or X (Aarnio) are good. Some people like Art of the Deal (Trump), but it was pretty verbose for me... X is a more fun and shorter version with more current examples.
Personally, I kinda learned this stuff from a giant Ukranian guy I was buying a used car from. I drove it and looked it over and decided I'd make an offer, and he said "there is only one price! Price is fair. There is ONLY ONE PRICE!" The price was good, car was good, and we had a done deal. I was young and trying to be cheap even though price was already below KBB and the car was clean and good. From 7 habits: you need to make deals everyone's happy with, cut the cake not necessarily so that you get the biggest slice but so that all are happy. Getting to that deal point (or to moving on to other deals) does take one or both parties drawing a line in the sand. I think that refusing to name a price and trying to make the other party offer something first is garbage unless it is an item where the price is very vague... in podiatry, that approach will simply get you lowball 100k + 30% offers (or worse) time and time again. Know your worth, present it in a positive way, give them a bit of time to figure out if they agree, and stick to it. For large groups/hospitals, you have much less wiggle room... almost zero for university or VA or etc type jobs. GL