ot: can't believe they let these people be advisors

[migs54]

Just to let you know i've had a bad day with an advisor at my school. Just completed my frosh year at a junior college. so whatever, I was going over my schedule for the fall with my football coach and he told me that i needed to get a advisor to sign the slip in order to process it. I get the advisor and keep in mind all i need is a signature and i'd be on my way. he begins to ask me polite questions on how this football season went and so on. He then asks about where i want to transfer to in january and i say well right now northwestern, stanford and duke are my top three that are showing interest. All of a sudden he goes into a rant on how he its not right that i should be able to go to a school like those just because i play football and that i take a spot away from a real student. The man never even saw my transcript I have a 4.0. At that point i just lost it and started screaming at him calling him a MF and things of that nature. Anyone think this was a overreaction, I can't stand ignorance. sorry, I just had to vent

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[Mr. Z]

definitely an over-reaction, though I understand your anger. But, you need to realize that the world is absolutely full of ignornant dicks, just like your advisor. There isn't the time, and you really shouldn't have the inclination to waste the energy on fighting them. Especially if your premed, as a doctor your gonna have to deal with a-holes all the time, if you can't control your temper, your not gonna do well.

Should have told him (calmly), that you have a 4.0 gpa and whether you go to Duke or not has nothing to do with football. And you would really appreciate it if he would keep his personal prejudices and sterotypes to himself.

So screw him, he's just pissed he couldn't get a position at a real university, so he tries to lash out on others to make himself feel better.

 

[imtiaz]

i'm curious to know whether or not he signed your slip?

 

[strangeattractor]

whoo...

well, i suppose that you definitely went a little overboard...and that calling names prolly didn't change his/her jaded opinion...

BUT, this person is a JACKASS. of course he/she shouldn't be advising people if he/she didn't take the time to read your file! yes, survey says, this f***** is a *****! at least you know who NOT to take advice from now -- the advisor might even try to stand in your way in the future, so it's best for you to steer clear!

 

[Hero]

those advisors think they know it all. I don't think you over reacted. In fact putting them in their place is a good thing.

I don't care much at all for advisors, especially the old ones with out dated info on everything. SDN is my advising salvation

 

[BlackPuma]

my friend said it best

if these pple were such great in giving advice...they would have real jobs instead of being advisors...

I find it funny having premed advisors....who probably got rejected in the process and ended up with the job...

so u told him he was a MF? and ur a freshman....ur already in someone's blacklist

way to go buddy...what the heck will u do when u see ignorant patients :wink:

 

[Cdc28p]

•••quote:•••Originally posted by WatchaMaCallit:
•I find it funny having premed advisors....who probably got rejected in the process and ended up with the job...•••••Most of the premed advisors at my school are med students or residents. Isn't it the same at most schools?

 

[racergirl]

Ugh! What a horrible situation. The advisor was definitely being an arse. He provoked you, you bit, and yes, you over-reacted.

Something similar happened to me recently. I was completely in the right (as you were), but (like you), as the confrontation progressed I lost my temper! The problem with losing your temper is that you give the other person ammo. Think about it--you could have really stuck it to this guy if you had just said "Excuse me, but I have a 4.0. Are you implying I'm not a 'real student' just because I busted my butt all season playing football for your school on top of my course work?"

But since you blew up at the guy and yelled and swore, he can think he's right about you! He can be all smug and justify his stereotype of you by telling himself you're an unstable, roid-raging animal.

If the guy signed your slip I guess you can move on with your life and forget the whole thing. But you might feel better if you went to this guy and APOLOGIZED. Trust me, it can be very satisfying. Go to him and apologize for your behavior. His stereotypes and assumptions about you were truly upsetting, but that doesn't excuse you flying off the handle, so you're sorry. If the guy is ANY kind of man, he'll apologize in turn, but even if he doesn't, you'll have shown you're the bigger person.

I'm sorry this happened to you. It can be sooo upsetting when someone stereotypes you; and sooo satisfying to really tell that someone off (like in the movies!) But in real life, we've got to learn to respond more calmly. I'm still working on that part--when I lost my temper recently, I waited a couple days and went to the person (in person!) and apologized. I felt MUCH better about myself, and the offending person and I are now at least able to work together again.

Anyway, good luck with everything!

 

[martymcfly]

Yeah, I agree with racergirl. You definitely should suck it up and apologize. Not because you need something from him (and hopefully you no longer will), but because you should.

Samoa - nice avatar!

 

[BlackPuma]

•••quote:•••Originally posted by Cdc28p:
• •••quote:•••Originally posted by WatchaMaCallit:
•I find it funny having premed advisors....who probably got rejected in the process and ended up with the job...•••••Most of the premed advisors at my school are med students or residents. Isn't it the same at most schools?•••••ummm no...our advisors are all "professional advisors" medicine they don't know crap about!

 

[migs54]

yeah i got my slip signed, The thing is the advisors in my school are all disgruntled, they beliveve they should be doing something better, almost like the sterotypical mall cop. I agree it was a "small" overreaction but i felt alot better after having a tantrum. thanks guys

 

[racergirl]

•••quote:•••Originally posted by migs54:
•yeah i got my slip signed, The thing is the advisors in my school are all disgruntled, they beliveve they should be doing something better, almost like the sterotypical mall cop. I agree it was a "small" overreaction but i felt alot better after having a tantrum. thanks guys•••••Heh-heh, yeah, it can feel darned good sometimes can't it? Just try not to make a habit of it!

 

[Jessica]

•••quote:•••Originally posted by Cdc28p:
• •••quote:•••Originally posted by WatchaMaCallit:
•I find it funny having premed advisors....who probably got rejected in the process and ended up with the job...•••••Most of the premed advisors at my school are med students or residents. Isn't it the same at most schools?•••••<img border="0" alt="[Laughy]" title="" src="graemlins/laughy.gif" /> Must be nice to speak with someone who knows what they are talking about. We don't even have someone at my school who does strictly pre-med advising. Our advisor is also the chair of the Bio dept. and a professor, so you can imagine how much free time he has for advising.

I love state schools <img border="0" alt="[Lovey]" title="" src="graemlins/lovey.gif" />