fergusondoc said:
Over the years I have been with both of my grandfathers as they had died. Watching them slowly take each breath afraid the next would be their last. It was not until my mother died last November did I fully appreciate the importance of not shying away from death. I realized that my fear of my own mortality kept me from being close to those to the dying.
As a doctor I have been on the other end of the dying process being involved with the delivery of infants who have died in-utero or soon after.
My recommendation is to fight the urge to shy away from the dying. Instead embrace them(it's not easy) and you will begin to understand a deeper since of what being a doctor can be.
Thank you all very much for responding to my question.
In a span of three years both my grandfathers passed away, I was very very close to them. I witnessed one, and my other grandfather - he passed away all of a sudden and it was such a shock to the whole family.
I think about my grandfathers now, how they passed away, and I still feel all these emotions that I cannot comprehend, it's more than just sadness, I hope you all know what I am talking about.
My fear is, when I start rotations (which is in about three years) & when I encounter a dying patient, I might just break down in front of everyone - the doctors, my fellow classmates & the patients! And that certainly would NOT be a professional thing to do - aren't med students and doctors there to support the others who are hurt - paining inside?
Like you said fergusondoc, I know I have to learn to embrace the dying but does this come out of frequent "meetings"/encounters? Can I embrace it and not grow a cold heart towards death?
I think the reason as to why most of us shy away from death is because it causes us so much pain/hurt inside....it brings back very painful memories..
Do doctors get "used" to death & dying? I hope I didn't word that wrong...