ScorpiORTHO said:
Do you guys have significant others? It's true that the more places u apply to, the better your chances and if you really want it bad you should go for it. BUt, how do u deal with parting from a significant other and knowing you'll be in a long-distance relationship for a couple years? How do u maintain your happiness at a place you know nobody and are all alone?!!
I'll bite on this one. I see an LDR coming up this summer and have spent lots of time thinking about it. My goal is to make it work. The way I see it, "I do" means forever, so 3 years in an LDR now while we're both still trying to establish our careers is so small compared to the rest of our lives together once I finish and move back. Also, if there was any time for us to be apart in pursuit of education, now would be the best time while we're both single. It has to be MUCH harder to move away when you get tangled up in life - you're earning the income of a general dentist, the kids are in school, you bought a house, and now you have to uproot all that and go back to the student lifestyle to pursue your specialty dreams. Not impossible, but way more difficult than if you are single.
At first I was a little shocked I would be moving a plane ride away from EVERYONE that I know. But now I'm getting excited to go. I have never been to the south or midwest for longer than 24 hours and now I will have the chance to explore these parts of the country. I've never envisioned I'd be alone and unhappy - there will 11 other residents with me 8 - 5. After clinic hours end I plan to do labwork/tx plans, workout, figure out how to cook, read ortho/dental stuff, catch up on TV, gab online and on the phone, and make some new friends. My existence isn't based on only having my SO around, I'm pretty sure I'll survive.
It would have been nice to be closer, but oh well. I'm not going to complain, I got in. Actually, location wasn't my #1 priority when I made my list this time - I ranked my program ahead of a program 2 hours from NYC because I think the clinical training will be better at Vanderbilt over this program. I can't force him to move with me. His career is taking off here; he would be unemployed if he came with me and I will be an unpaid resident. Love doesn't pay the bills. I tried to stay in the northeast (MA/NY/NJ/PA/MD) - I applied to all programs here 3 times, but how much longer could I hold out in the hopes of getting in here?
It's not an easy decision, but I guess in the end it comes down to what is more important to you - to be apart for a while but come out with the specialty training or to stay in general dentistry so you can be with your SO?
EDIT: Just realized this post has nothing to do with the original topic, please pedo people, continue posting your stats.