robotsonic said:
Whoa. And you are proud of this?
not to be rude, as i am not the most prolific poster on this site... but may i ask what is wrong with this?
let me clarify my position, lest you think i am being terribly un-feminist. my goal is to go to med school and allow my husband to stay home, perhaps work part time doing what he loves... either construction or old car restorations... he's currently finishing up his 70 chevelle ss, and i have to say he is pretty awesome at it! he's going to help me do my dream car, a convertible bug, when he's done. so i will add restoring a car to my resume. funny, because i always said if i couldn't get into med school, my next dream job would be a diesel mechanic.
for real! anyway, it would be the perfect arrangement for us... certainly not "traditional" in any way shape or form, but a good arrangement for us.
that being said. i was a corporate monkey climbing the proverbial ladder in a former life. i am currently a stay at home mom. i will be going back to school to do my pre-reqs shortly. in the meantime, i take great pride in being a homemaker. it is a huge responsibility, and i have to say that i had an easier time working the corporate scene. when people ask me what i do now, i tell them that i am a homemaker or a stay at home mom. i have never gotten as much pride from a job as i do from this one. i don't get paid, it never ends, i work nights and weekends, but you know what? i am proud of everything i do. when my house is clean, i am thrilled. i know my little girl can walk around and get into anything without too much worry that she's going to get hurt because my house is a mess. i fill up with pride everytime someone tells me how well behaved and well adjusted my 15 month old is. there is no bigger responsibility than staying home and raising my little girl... not even cardioverting (is that the right word?) a patient or making a rare diagnosis that saves a life or whatever it is that i might be doing when i eventually make it into med school/residency/practice.
anyway. i don't mean to jump down anyone's throat. however, i just wanted to point out that there is no shame in anyone being proud of being married to a homemaker. i think its awesome that he is proud of his wife and all that she does for the family. certainly, too many guys take it for granted and don't realize the amount of blood, sweat and tears that go into keeping up the household. i think it is great that he's proud of what his wife does rather than putting her down as "just" a homemaker. personally, i cannot survive as a lifelong homemaker. however, i give props to those who do it. i've come to find out that it is a harder job than i ever thought possible!!!!
i hope i didn't step on any toes here, just wanted to give my decidedly female point of view. there is a career for everyone, and if she is happy as a homemaker and that is what she wants to do, then i think it is cool that her husband is proud of her.
(NB: in case i missed some inside joke, or if the op of the comment is usually a sexist tool and i am not aware, then i apologize for my diatribe.)
stepping down off my soapbox now and crawling back into my lurking corner over on the non-trad forum.
kindly,
susanna