I don't think she meant it that literally. But I actually did. Even when your partner has some major issues, nothing is ever totally one person's fault. You did pick that person, so you at least have that much responsibility. I think it's some kind of epiphany when you come to the realization that yeah, YOU didn't always handle things well too. 😳 😛 One of my faults, if you will, is that in the past I have cared too much about a guy's brains, and not enough about his heart. I'd have looked down on someone who was superficial about a partner's looks, or his bank account, but I didn't recognize that I was doing the exact same thing. 🙂