Rant of a single pre-med

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Since when has SDN become the place to get dating tips? Don't all Pre-Meds look like this

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Only the ones I date.
 
this thread is infested with men who have 0 confidence.

Step 1: Don't give a f***- talk to females whenever you get the chance.
Step 2: Talk to more females.. if you suck at this stage practice on less attractive ones
Step 3: Look classy, wear shades, wear cologne, say hi.
Step 4: Ask them to chill, if she says no, say this "Oh good i should tell [insert hot girl name here] i can make it tonight"- drives them insane. You want to be in control, most of you are pretty good at this seeing as you dominate exams. Think of it as a different type of exam.
Step 5: Once you've found one that seems promising, take them out to dinner, let THEM talk and don't say much about yourself. Go for a kiss, get laid if possible
Step 6: Keep working on getting laid, do whatever you need to do.
Step 7: Give her it to her nice and hard and as often as possible- she'll grow addicted to you
Step 8: Obtain M.D- repeat.

to the comments about race: at my university i've seen every combination possible, i've seen really hot white chicks go out with black guys the color of cement, and i've seen white chicks go out with japanese guys the color of snow. If your face is ugly, work out. If your face is decent, work out anyway. Don't be a flat slob. YOLO
 
this thread is infested with men who have 0 confidence.

Step 1: Don't give a f***- talk to females whenever you get the chance.
Step 2: Talk to more females.. if you suck at this stage practice on less attractive ones
Step 3: Look classy, wear shades, wear cologne, say hi.
Step 4: Ask them to chill, if she says no, say this "Oh good i should tell [insert hot girl name here] i can make it tonight"- drives them insane. You want to be in control, most of you are pretty good at this seeing as you dominate exams. Think of it as a different type of exam.
Step 5: Once you've found one that seems promising, take them out to dinner, let THEM talk and don't say much about yourself. Go for a kiss, get laid if possible
Step 6: Keep working on getting laid, do whatever you need to do.
Step 7: Give her it to her nice and hard and as often as possible- she'll grow addicted to you
Step 8: Obtain M.D- repeat.

to the comments about race: at my university i've seen every combination possible, i've seen really hot white chicks go out with black guys the color of cement, and i've seen white chicks go out with japanese guys the color of snow. If your face is ugly, work out. If your face is decent, work out anyway. Don't be a flat slob. YOLO

Damn what kind of black guys go to your university?

I mean yeah confidence is key (I wouldn't want to date a girl who wasn't) but that list is borderlining on jackass (especially number 4). No need to hurt her feelings.
 
this thread is infested with men who have 0 confidence.

Step 1: Don't give a f***- talk to females whenever you get the chance.
Step 2: Talk to more females.. if you suck at this stage practice on less attractive ones
Step 3: Look classy, wear shades, wear cologne, say hi.
Step 4: Ask them to chill, if she says no, say this "Oh good i should tell [insert hot girl name here] i can make it tonight"- drives them insane. You want to be in control, most of you are pretty good at this seeing as you dominate exams. Think of it as a different type of exam.
Step 5: Once you've found one that seems promising, take them out to dinner, let THEM talk and don't say much about yourself. Go for a kiss, get laid if possible
Step 6: Keep working on getting laid, do whatever you need to do.
Step 7: Give her it to her nice and hard and as often as possible- she'll grow addicted to you
Step 8: Obtain M.D- repeat.

to the comments about race: at my university i've seen every combination possible, i've seen really hot white chicks go out with black guys the color of cement, and i've seen white chicks go out with japanese guys the color of snow. If your face is ugly, work out. If your face is decent, work out anyway. Don't be a flat slob. YOLO

Agreed...

But,

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Damn what kind of black guys go to your university?

I mean yeah confidence is key (I wouldn't want to date a girl who wasn't) but that list is borderlining on jackass (especially number 4). No need to hurt her feelings.

you don't have to pull her strings unless she pulls yours :meanie:
 
Damn what kind of black guys go to your university?

I mean yeah confidence is key (I wouldn't want to date a girl who wasn't) but that list is borderlining on jackass (especially number 4). No need to hurt her feelings.

Freshmen... 🙄
 
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this thread is infested with men who have 0 confidence.

Step 1: Don't give a f***- talk to females whenever you get the chance.
Step 2: Talk to more females.. if you suck at this stage practice on less attractive ones
Step 3: Look classy, wear shades, wear cologne, say hi.
Step 4: Ask them to chill, if she says no, say this "Oh good i should tell [insert hot girl name here] i can make it tonight"- drives them insane. You want to be in control, most of you are pretty good at this seeing as you dominate exams. Think of it as a different type of exam.
Step 5: Once you've found one that seems promising, take them out to dinner, let THEM talk and don't say much about yourself. Go for a kiss, get laid if possible
Step 6: Keep working on getting laid, do whatever you need to do.
Step 7: Give her it to her nice and hard and as often as possible- she'll grow addicted to you
Step 8: Obtain M.D- repeat.

to the comments about race: at my university i've seen every combination possible, i've seen really hot white chicks go out with black guys the color of cement, and i've seen white chicks go out with japanese guys the color of snow. If your face is ugly, work out. If your face is decent, work out anyway. Don't be a flat slob. YOLO

This thread is insane. This post and holy franz's posts were slightly good advice if getting laid is all you want.

I'm Also minority OP and have had no problems attracting women. In fact, i have too many problems keeping the women away as I try and do well, lol. First off, try and be friendly. Don't have getting laid on your mind. I think therein lies your problem. PM me for advice


Out of curiosity, what state you in?
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this thread is infested with men who have 0 confidence.

Step 1: Don't give a f***- talk to females whenever you get the chance.
Step 2: Talk to more females.. if you suck at this stage practice on less attractive ones
Step 3: Look classy, wear shades, wear cologne, say hi.
Step 4: Ask them to chill, if she says no, say this "Oh good i should tell [insert hot girl name here] i can make it tonight"- drives them insane. You want to be in control, most of you are pretty good at this seeing as you dominate exams. Think of it as a different type of exam.
Step 5: Once you've found one that seems promising, take them out to dinner, let THEM talk and don't say much about yourself. Go for a kiss, get laid if possible
Step 6: Keep working on getting laid, do whatever you need to do.
Step 7: Give her it to her nice and hard and as often as possible- she'll grow addicted to you
Step 8: Obtain M.D- repeat.

to the comments about race: at my university i've seen every combination possible, i've seen really hot white chicks go out with black guys the color of cement, and i've seen white chicks go out with japanese guys the color of snow. If your face is ugly, work out. If your face is decent, work out anyway. Don't be a flat slob. YOLO

Your objective attitude toward women is horrendous, you'll make a great doctor someday.
 
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This thread is insane. This post and holy franz's posts were slightly good advice if getting laid is all you want.

I'm Also minority OP and have had no problems attracting women. In fact, i have too many problems keeping the women away as I try and do well, lol. First off, try and be friendly. Don't have getting laid on your mind. I think therein lies your problem. PM me for advice


Out of curiosity, what state you in?
Sent from my iPhone

Actually, I think going into a conversation with a girl thinking it will be a potential relationship is his problem.

OP makes me think of this...
http://youtu.be/5_Yh8izVOns
 
Oh my goodness, why did I never read this thread before?? Practically rolling on the ground laughing right now X'D
 
Oh my goodness, why did I never read this thread before?? Practically rolling on the ground laughing right now X'D

I'm glad my bachelorhood is a source of humor for you (and many others in this thread)
 
Also, just talked to a family friend who is a practicing MD in Brazil. He tells me he repelled women until he started making money- a LOT of it. Now he's living the dream in BA in BZ. At least theres always that option.
 
this thread is infested with men who have 0 confidence.

Step 1: Don't give a f***- talk to females whenever you get the chance.
Step 2: Talk to more females.. if you suck at this stage practice on less attractive ones
Step 3: Look classy, wear shades, wear cologne, say hi.
Step 4: Ask them to chill, if she says no, say this "Oh good i should tell [insert hot girl name here] i can make it tonight"- drives them insane. You want to be in control, most of you are pretty good at this seeing as you dominate exams. Think of it as a different type of exam.
Step 5: Once you've found one that seems promising, take them out to dinner, let THEM talk and don't say much about yourself. Go for a kiss, get laid if possible
Step 6: Keep working on getting laid, do whatever you need to do.
Step 7: Give her it to her nice and hard and as often as possible- she'll grow addicted to you
Step 8: Obtain M.D- repeat.

to the comments about race: at my university i've seen every combination possible, i've seen really hot white chicks go out with black guys the color of cement, and i've seen white chicks go out with japanese guys the color of snow. If your face is ugly, work out. If your face is decent, work out anyway. Don't be a flat slob. YOLO

I'm 99% sure the OP is a troll from bb.com misc. If not, follow my advice or this guy's. Race doesn't matter, I've seen many Indian guys get really hot girls (they all play tennis too, maybe OP should play tennis)
 
Little piece of advice a great friend gave me. 🙂

"When you finally find the amazing right one, you'll be glad all the wrong ones rejected you, cause it led you to the right person."

Hope it helps. Just focus on doing what needs to get done and forget about the ladies for now. If they don't like you, they're no worth it. I know it's not actually that simple, but sometimes you just got to let go.
 
Little piece of advice a great friend gave me. 🙂

"When you finally find the amazing right one, you'll be glad all the wrong ones rejected you, cause it led you to the right person."

Hope it helps. Just focus on doing what needs to get done and forget about the ladies for now. If they don't like you, they're no worth it. I know it's not actually that simple, but sometimes you just got to let go.

this is assuming n>0 :laugh:
 
Hello SDN,

I'm a premed in my fourth year of college...I finally ended up liking this one girl in my class (she found excuses to talk to me, kept staring at laughing/smiling at me) and when I talked to her, she told me straight up she had a boyfriend (she's not the same ethnicity as I am) THEN WHY THE F*CK would you give me mixed messages?

Hi. Sorry. She wasn't sending you mixed messages on purpose, you just caught some. As an OK-looking female who is quite friendly/outgoing, this has happened to me several times. I meet a guy in class, start chatting/making fun of the prof/whatever, start saying hi every time we see each other in class or in passing, and then he stops me one day and asks for my number, and I have to tell him I already have someone. Sadly, it's hard for girls to make friends with men without seeming flirty, unless the girl is really ugly. 🙁


Long story short, this lack of female intimacy has really started to take a toll on my self esteem and my growth as an individual. Should I suck it up and just accept that I am doomed to be forever alone? Is the situation more or less the same in medical school? Will I never find someone I can share my life with until I have an MD after my name? I feel so pathetic right now. My motivation to study for the MCAT is dwindling by the second. Anyone else out there suffering from this dilemma? I can't blame people for not being open minded when it comes to dating, as everyone is entitled to their own preferences. But jesus, when you put a single, virile male in a classroom full of beautiful women, no matter what the ethnicity, hormones will compel him to act. And more importantly, in my case at least, regret. I feel so down right now.

Don't despair!!! Holy crap!!! I was a junior in college before I ever dated anyone. That "forever alone" attitude is so gross - any female who might have interest in you is going to smell that a mile away and sprint in the opposite direction. Just be normal, friendly, and don't be afraid to ask out a pretty girl you see to grab coffee and just get to know her better! The worst that can happen is that she will feel *very* flattered and then say no. It's not a big deal! And you'll find someone, don't worry.
 
Hi. Sorry. She wasn't sending you mixed messages on purpose, you just caught some. As an OK-looking female who is quite friendly/outgoing, this has happened to me several times. I meet a guy in class, start chatting/making fun of the prof/whatever, start saying hi every time we see each other in class or in passing, and then he stops me one day and asks for my number, and I have to tell him I already have someone. Sadly, it's hard for girls to make friends with men without seeming flirty, unless the girl is really ugly. 🙁




Don't despair!!! Holy crap!!! I was a junior in college before I ever dated anyone. That "forever alone" attitude is so gross - any female who might have interest in you is going to smell that a mile away and sprint in the opposite direction. Just be normal, friendly, and don't be afraid to ask out a pretty girl you see to grab coffee and just get to know her better! The worst that can happen is that she will feel *very* flattered and then say no. It's not a big deal! And you'll find someone, don't worry.

What about ethnicity? Would you date a Persian/Middle Eastern dude who asked you out?
 
What about ethnicity? Would you date a Persian/Middle Eastern dude who asked you out?

You are so hung up on this! Girls don't care! 🙂 If you are at least a decent-looking guy like you say you are, it is NOT your ethnicity holding you back. It is something else about your attitude or the manner in which you interact with women. I'm a white girl and I'd totally date a Persian guy I was into, or an East Asian guy, or a Hispanic guy, or whatever. It's not your ethnicity.
 
A girl was being sociable and you misconstrued it as a desire for something more, it happens.
 
For the record, she went out of her way to smile, contorting in different gymnast like positions to catch my attention, flipped her red hair around like a peacock, and then continued to stare at me shamelessly while talking about random unimportant things. If this isnt interest, what is?

There's something to be said about this, because I've been there. There are girls who get bored or overwhelmed during a hard semester, so they may find it fun to try and get a guy's attention... yes, even a guy they have no interest in.... yes, even if they have a boyfriend. It makes them feel attractive and makes their day brighter. I'll give this girl in question the benefit of the doubt, but what I mentioned is factual for many girls.

My advice is to put aside the pursuit of a girl right now and focus on your studies... trust me, it will pay off in the end.
 
Hi. Sorry. She wasn't sending you mixed messages on purpose, you just caught some. As an OK-looking female who is quite friendly/outgoing, this has happened to me several times. I meet a guy in class, start chatting/making fun of the prof/whatever, start saying hi every time we see each other in class or in passing, and then he stops me one day and asks for my number, and I have to tell him I already have someone. Sadly, it's hard for girls to make friends with men without seeming flirty, unless the girl is really ugly. 🙁




Don't despair!!! Holy crap!!! I was a junior in college before I ever dated anyone. That "forever alone" attitude is so gross - any female who might have interest in you is going to smell that a mile away and sprint in the opposite direction. Just be normal, friendly, and don't be afraid to ask out a pretty girl you see to grab coffee and just get to know her better! The worst that can happen is that she will feel *very* flattered and then say no. It's not a big deal! And you'll find someone, don't worry.

I don't think we can say whether or not she was sending mixed messages. We weren't there. What we CAN say is that, like you mentioned, some guys take things the wrong way. Also, some girls DO send mixed messages. This is all we can conclude.
 
I don't think we can say whether or not she was sending mixed messages. We weren't there. What we CAN say is that, like you mentioned, some guys take things the wrong way. Also, some girls DO send mixed messages. This is all we can conclude.

Uwrf, I'm glad you understand my plight. In my view, it was quite clear this girl was evincing interest in me in a romantic manner...she was practically beaming smiles at me at the most random times, just dying to catch my attention and laughing at the most ridiculous comments. It was painfully obvious she was flirting. I mean she tilted her head to the side, like 45 degrees, going out of her way, in front of my face, and flipped her red hair towards my face multiple times. I mean, it was torture.
 
There's something to be said about this, because I've been there. There are girls who get bored or overwhelmed during a hard semester, so they may find it fun to try and get a guy's attention... yes, even a guy they have no interest in.... yes, even if they have a boyfriend. It makes them feel attractive and makes their day brighter. I'll give this girl in question the benefit of the doubt, but what I mentioned is factual for many girls.

My advice is to put aside the pursuit of a girl right now and focus on your studies... trust me, it will pay off in the end.

Some people are flirts...
 
Uwrf, I'm glad you understand my plight. In my view, it was quite clear this girl was evincing interest in me in a romantic manner...she was practically beaming smiles at me at the most random times, just dying to catch my attention and laughing at the most ridiculous comments. It was painfully obvious she was flirting. I mean she tilted her head to the side, like 45 degrees, going out of her way, in front of my face, and flipped her red hair towards my face multiple times. I mean, it was torture.

Some people are like that. I recommend you not take it as something of malicious intent and move on.
 
Uwrf, I'm glad you understand my plight. In my view, it was quite clear this girl was evincing interest in me in a romantic manner...she was practically beaming smiles at me at the most random times, just dying to catch my attention and laughing at the most ridiculous comments. It was painfully obvious she was flirting. I mean she tilted her head to the side, like 45 degrees, going out of her way, in front of my face, and flipped her red hair towards my face multiple times. I mean, it was torture.

Dude what are you even talking about. It's one girl. Who you barely know. The fact that you were so heartbroken over this incident you had to create a thread asking nerdy pre-meds how to find love is astonishing. I think I'm beginning to understand why you have so much trouble with women.
 
Oh my goodness, why did I never read this thread before?? Practically rolling on the ground laughing right now X'D

I'm confused. If you find comfort in the Maker of all things not leaving or forsaking you (just as you quoted), how do you then have the conscience to laugh at someone's distress? It's like taking an equation with an unknown to a problem and a solution for a completely different problem, and saying that the equation leads to that solution... in which case, it doesn't. When you quote bible passages (which I hold to), people are watching what you say and do.
 
Dude what are you even talking about. It's one girl. Who you barely know. The fact that you were so heartbroken over this incident you had to create a thread asking nerdy pre-meds how to find love is astonishing. I think I'm beginning to understand why you have so much trouble with women.

Sensation, habituation, and desensitization. If you have a steady stream of normal relationships then you will perceive this experience moderately painful, if not then you'll find it truly like torture.
 
I'm confused. If you find comfort in the Maker of all things not leaving or forsaking you (just as you quoted), how do you then have the conscience to laugh at someone's distress? It's like taking an equation with an unknown to a problem and a solution for a completely different problem, and saying that the equation leads to that solution... in which case, it doesn't. When you quote bible passages (which I hold to), people are watching what you say and do.

cue theological debate?

People find other people's psychological pain with contempt usually, mostly because they believe they should pull themselves up by their bootstraps. This is exasperated on the internet.
 
Sensation, habituation, and desensitization. If you have a steady stream of normal relationships then you will perceive this experience moderately painful, if not then you'll find it truly like torture.


Quoted for truth. Couldn't have said it better. Its like the first time you get your blood drawn- you are practically fainting at the thought of a needle pricking your epidermis- but subsequent times, you laugh it off. Try putting yourself in my shoes. Then again, you can't, even if you tried. The things I've been through...
 
I'm confused. If you find comfort in the Maker of all things not leaving or forsaking you (just as you quoted), how do you then have the conscience to laugh at someone's distress? It's like taking an equation with an unknown to a problem and a solution for a completely different problem, and saying that the equation leads to that solution... in which case, it doesn't. When you quote bible passages (which I hold to), people are watching what you say and do.

That's actually a really good point. I guess there's a difference between being Christ-like and just being Christian.
 
Quoted for truth. Couldn't have said it better. Its like the first time you get your blood drawn- you are practically fainting at the thought of a needle pricking your epidermis- but subsequent times, you laugh it off. Try putting yourself in my shoes. Then again, you can't, even if you tried. The things I've been through...

Cue melodrama. You've gotta be trolling. If not, stop acting like a girl and go talk to some.
 



Quoted for truth. Couldn't have said it better. Its like the first time you get your blood drawn- you are practically fainting at the thought of a needle pricking your epidermis- but subsequent times, you laugh it off. Try putting yourself in my shoes. Then again, you can't, even if you tried. The things I've been through...

Well, time heals I guess.
 
You are so hung up on this! Girls don't care! 🙂 If you are at least a decent-looking guy like you say you are, it is NOT your ethnicity holding you back. It is something else about your attitude or the manner in which you interact with women. I'm a white girl and I'd totally date a Persian guy I was into, or an East Asian guy, or a Hispanic guy, or whatever. It's not your ethnicity.

Pretty much this. I can say with confidence it's not your ethnicity. I go to a huge school where there's a little bit of everything (hell, I'm hispanic and my boyfriend is asian). It all comes down to how you socialize with women. Try to relax a little...just because a girl gives you some attention doesn't mean she wants to go out with you. As soon as you stop searching for a girl, you'll have an easier time.


Unless this is a troll thread, in which case never mind. 🙄
 
You are so hung up on this! Girls don't care! 🙂 If you are at least a decent-looking guy like you say you are, it is NOT your ethnicity holding you back. It is something else about your attitude or the manner in which you interact with women. I'm a white girl and I'd totally date a Persian guy I was into, or an East Asian guy, or a Hispanic guy, or whatever. It's not your ethnicity.

Very true. Many white (Russian - I'm Russian) girls, will have a strong thing for one particular type of ethnic group, but still be open to anyone and anything. A lot of girls I know had a thing for Italian guys, fewer had things for Spanish guys. A few ONLY had Asian boyfriends. Some people actually have preferences, while others can take anyone and anything.

I would personally date a Persian girl if everything else fit into place (nonreligious, intelligent, beautiful, kind, understanding, moral, etc....).

You're ethnicity might not be holding you back entirely, and not with everyone. It might even be a good thing in a few cases. Just make sure that you are well groomed, use deodorant, and all will be well.
 
Uwrf, I'm glad you understand my plight. In my view, it was quite clear this girl was evincing interest in me in a romantic manner...she was practically beaming smiles at me at the most random times, just dying to catch my attention and laughing at the most ridiculous comments. It was painfully obvious she was flirting. I mean she tilted her head to the side, like 45 degrees, going out of her way, in front of my face, and flipped her red hair towards my face multiple times. I mean, it was torture.

So,,,you waited, what? Most of the semester to work up the nerve approach her in a romantic sense? The only thing women find less attractive than a complete lack of confidence is a complete presence of extreme body odor. Maybe...that's debatable. After a week or so of her flirting with you, you moved from "potential bang buddy" to "silly little plaything".

So...get a nice comfy chair and a bag of potting soil. Sit in the chair, outside in direct sunlight. Pour the potting soil into your lap. Water it regularly until you grow a healthy pair of balls and try again.

Sheesh.
 
Uwrf, I'm glad you understand my plight. In my view, it was quite clear this girl was evincing interest in me in a romantic manner...she was practically beaming smiles at me at the most random times, just dying to catch my attention and laughing at the most ridiculous comments. It was painfully obvious she was flirting. I mean she tilted her head to the side, like 45 degrees, going out of her way, in front of my face, and flipped her red hair towards my face multiple times. I mean, it was torture.

afc alert
 
Uwrf, I'm glad you understand my plight. In my view, it was quite clear this girl was evincing interest in me in a romantic manner...she was practically beaming smiles at me at the most random times, just dying to catch my attention and laughing at the most ridiculous comments. It was painfully obvious she was flirting. I mean she tilted her head to the side, like 45 degrees, going out of her way, in front of my face, and flipped her red hair towards my face multiple times. I mean, it was torture.
please don't rape or stalk anyone then complain you were the victim because you thought she wanted you.
That's all.
 
Get over yourself, she probably smiled at you because she's a friendly person. Why do men think they have a god-given right to be with a woman then get all butt-hurt when she says no? It's not like she slept with you, THEN told you she was seeing someone. She freaking SMILED at you.

Yes. This. Guys need to learn how to take rejection. I was becoming friends with this guy, and then one day out of the blue he sends me a 5 paragraph facebook message evaluating every interaction we have ever had, and came to the conclusion that he liked me and I liked him too. No. Once I told him thanks but no thanks he said we absolutely cannot be friends and started being really mean to me. Like slamming doors in my face.
 
op: it is criminal to rape or beat women in this country. don't go around raping or beating women like in iran. we don't hang women and children from a crane in public either..
 
op: it is criminal to rape or beat women in this country. don't go around raping or beating women like in iran. we don't hang women and children from a crane in public either..

Assuming you were trying to be funny, you were not.
 
op: it is criminal to rape or beat women in this country. don't go around raping or beating women like in iran. we don't hang women and children from a crane in public either..
first post ever and it's an outrageous one: troll fo sho
 
op: it is criminal to rape or beat women in this country. don't go around raping or beating women like in iran. we don't hang women and children from a crane in public either..

Strong ignorance and stereotyping in this post. I am disappointed bro.
 
Most Iranian guys here know aren't very religious and pretty Westernized mostly because they ran from the Islamic regime. Then again of the 10 I know about 8 are closeted homosexuals who are currently dating or engaged to women to appease daddy >.>. But yah... Not a funny joke.
 
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