Rant of a single pre-med

[NightGod]

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The second link should entertain those of you with a Y chromosome. 😎

I dunno, my thought ran more along the lines of "WTF did I just click on?" Of course, I suppose at $600 for the first hour and $400 for each additional, doctors are exactly the sort of people that could afford her...

 

[FattySlug]

I don't have the patience to read through 5 pages so please let me know whether we have established that this is a troll thread or not. Thanks.

 

[tn4596]

I dunno, my thought ran more along the lines of "WTF did I just click on?" Of course, I suppose at $600 for the first hour and $400 for each additional, doctors are exactly the sort of people that could afford her...

sounds like a rip off to me, actually i wudnt touch her if she pays me. then again, she might have something up her sleeves...

 

[nancy mcgunter]

I dunno, my thought ran more along the lines of "WTF did I just click on?" Of course, I suppose at $600 for the first hour and $400 for each additional, doctors are exactly the sort of people that could afford her...

If you watch the slide show long enough, you'll see what I mean. 😉

 

[kasho11]

So, you are saying that if I was really making a racist comment about black people not making it past freshman year, that I would have been considered, in your mind, clever?

I think we should just whip it out, measure length and girth, compare squat 1RM, and number of sexual partners to end this debate.

Now you are the one assuming, I said I assumed you were being witty, not whether you were a clever person or not. In any case I and at least one other person thought it was funny, intentional or not, thank you.

 

[mfm90]

...

 

[nancy mcgunter]

.... it's your personality

Oh, and this. 🙂 Girls in general don't want a guy with any baggage or weird commitment issues. The fact that you're on this site asking for advice means you're probably not date-able (sorry).

Me personally, I'm looking for someone smart, cute (bookish counts), and kind. You don't have to be ripped, or have the face of Jesus/ Brad Pitt, or be really outgoing, althought those things are always nice. 🙂 Just be normal.

 

[911 Turbo]

Oh, and this. 🙂 Girls in general don't want a guy with any baggage or weird commitment issues. The fact that you're on this site asking for advice means you're probably not date-able (sorry).

Me personally, I'm looking for someone smart, cute (bookish counts), and kind. You don't have to be ripped, or have the face of Jesus/ Brad Pitt, or be really outgoing, althought those things are always nice. 🙂 Just be normal.

Lol? Asking for relationship advice = not dateable? wtf?

 

[faith1093]

Thanks for the advice bro. Some things:

I'm already at 5% Body fat. I am lifting more intensely though. I have a killer haircut, I smell like hugo boss, and my teeth are whiter than white paper. I doubt my looks hold me back. Also, I can talk to most girls just fine, its just that I am intimidated by those I find exceptionally attractive, and even when I talk to them, I am unable to take it to the next level, like actually asking them out on a date (due to ethnicity issues, confidence issues, who knows what issues)

If you're being sincere, then you sound like one of those guys that I would notice/appreciate on an aesthetic level in class, but that's about it. Of course, every girl is different. I think it's pretty safe to say that if you're letting your confidence issues show then you're coming off as someone who is disinterested. Stop worrying about the color of your skin or whatever else. Talk to girls that you think are cute. You don't have to jump straight to asking a cute girl out on a date, but make an effort to do something, even if it's inviting her out with a group of friends or studying together. If girls aren't interested? Oh well! There are plenty of fish in the sea.

Long story short: Worry about your goals outside of getting laid. Don't be like 85% of the girls I grew up with that attach their self worth to a relationship. Be a bro & forget, well... you know.

 

[nancy mcgunter]

Lol? Asking for relationship advice = not dateable? wtf?

Oop sorry, I meant that the specific things he has said make him seem kind of creepy and clingy.

Asking for dating advice is okay, I guess. But ideally you would know what do, either from experience or intuition.

 

[jf1987]

Just read online guides and books about picking up women.

Study hard and prepare
Perform well on test day

It's just like the mcat

 

[Charles Darwin]

Just read online guides and books about picking up women.

Study hard and prepare
Perform well on test day

It's just like the mcat

😆

 

[NightGod]

If you watch the slide show long enough, you'll see what I mean. 😉

I did...there's far better material out there that is equally free and doesn't come across as one big (moderately creepy) sales pitch =p

 

[kpcrew]

Oh, and this. 🙂 Girls in general don't want a guy with any baggage or weird commitment issues. The fact that you're on this site asking for advice means you're probably not date-able (sorry).

Me personally, I'm looking for someone smart, cute (bookish counts), and kind. You don't have to be ripped, or have the face of Jesus/ Brad Pitt, or be really outgoing, althought those things are always nice. 🙂 Just be normal.

looooool

Oop sorry, I meant that the specific things he has said make him seem kind of creepy and clingy.

Asking for dating advice is okay, I guess. But ideally you would know what do, either from experience or intuition.

catch 22 up in here

 

[La Presse]

Well..as for me, I stopped around the third page. I honestly can't help you here, but I can hit up Sinai and perhaps charter Doc. Freedman to write a book on this, titled " Dating as a Premed."

 

[ineed2stpsmurfn]

congratulations all, you've been effectively trolled into oblivion.


The majority of his posts are in this thread- lolol.

 

[1289]

congratulations all, you've been effectively trolled into oblivion.


The majority of his posts are in this thread- lolol.

Lol! That's what I was saying a few pages back! Haha

 

[deleted393595]

Oop sorry, I meant that the specific things he has said make him seem kind of creepy and clingy.

Asking for dating advice is okay, I guess. But ideally you would know what do, either from experience or intuition.

And I guess you know everything there is to know about dating?

 

[BHaus9]

Oh, and this. 🙂 Girls in general don't want a guy with any baggage or weird commitment issues. The fact that you're on this site asking for advice means you're probably not date-able (sorry).

Me personally, I'm looking for someone smart, cute (bookish counts), and kind. You don't have to be ripped, or have the face of Jesus/ Brad Pitt, or be really outgoing, althought those things are always nice. 🙂 Just be normal.

Lol? Asking for relationship advice = not dateable? wtf?

You omitted a hugely important qualifier - "this site."

 

[coyotelime]

http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ctoxh/new_to_seddit_check_here_first/

 

[lacrosse87]

OP reminds me of this guy http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AqDbb7-dn9A&feature=related

Language in video is nsfw

 

[Gamechanger]

Are you sure you aren't one of those guys who thinks one second of eye contact means marriage?

Lol you are taking this way to far. Just chill out.... Disregard females acquire MD. What does being shot down have to do with doing well on the MCAT? Just forget about them and focus on your studies.

Disregard females acquire MD
Disregard females acquire MD
Disregard females acquire MD
Disregard females acquire MD
Disregard females acquire MD.

This is advice from a 30 year old college sophomore. Do it right son.

 

[Jaqen Hghar]

Oh, and this. 🙂 Girls in general don't want a guy with any baggage or weird commitment issues. The fact that you're on this site asking for advice means you're probably not date-able (sorry).

Me personally, I'm looking for someone smart, cute (bookish counts), and kind. You don't have to be ripped, or have the face of Jesus/ Brad Pitt, or be really outgoing, althought those things are always nice. 🙂 Just be normal.

Jesus?

 

[nancy mcgunter]

And I guess you know everything there is to know about dating?

Well for example, a lot of my guy friends ask me about good first date ideas. And usually they are incredibly cliche or just stupid. You should know that going to a pro baseball game is a horrible first date idea. You should know dinner and a movie is a safe bet, but probably boring. This isn't rocket science.

 

[BNHWC2009]

This thread has been thoroughly entertaining 🤣

 

[Drrrrrr. Celty]

Well for example, a lot of my guy friends ask me about good first date ideas. And usually they are incredibly cliche or just stupid. You should know that going to a pro baseball game is a horrible first date idea. You should know dinner and a movie is a safe bet, but probably boring. This isn't rocket science.

It depends, if you're other is a fan of baseball then it may be a great idea. Point being is that there is no cookie cutter method to getting someone to like you. You just need to pay attention, be tactful, be yourself, and well Medicated in the case of these histrionic crazies.

 

[TheMightySmiter]

Well for example, a lot of my guy friends ask me about good first date ideas. And usually they are incredibly cliche or just stupid. You should know that going to a pro baseball game is a horrible first date idea. You should know dinner and a movie is a safe bet, but probably boring. This isn't rocket science.

I have to disagree with this; it totally depends on the girl. I hate dinner/movie first dates, I think they are awkward and contrived. The best first date I ever went on was hiking a 14er (that's what we call the group of mountains in CO above 14,000 feet). And I would be STOKED if a guy took me to a pro sports game on a first date. Baseball is cool, bonus points for football or basektball. 😀 The main thing is you want to be able to talk to someone on the first date. Movies are bad for this. So are concerts, unless it's one of those casual concerts in the park. I don't know how representative I am of other women, though. My ideal first date would be playing laser tag and then getting a Happy Meal.

 

[Cypher321]

I have to disagree with this; it totally depends on the girl. I hate dinner/movie first dates, I think they are awkward and contrived. The best first date I ever went on was hiking a 14er (that's what we call the group of mountains in CO above 14,000 feet). And I would be STOKED if a guy took me to a pro sports game on a first date. Baseball is cool, bonus points for football or basektball. 😀 The main thing is you want to be able to talk to someone on the first date. Movies are bad for this. So are concerts, unless it's one of those casual concerts in the park. I don't know how representative I am of other women, though. My ideal first date would be playing laser tag and then getting a Happy Meal.

Zoo worked well for me a few months back. Plenty of time to talk and if you run out of things to say you can always talk about the animals.

 

[nancy mcgunter]

It depends, if you're other is a fan of baseball then it may be a great idea. Point being is that there is no cookie cutter method to getting someone to like you. You just need to pay attention, be tactful, be yourself, and well Medicated in the case of these histrionic crazies.

Well, no. (1) It's pretty expensive once you take into account driving there, paying for parking, tickets, food, etc. First dates should be cheap and simple, in my opinion. (2) I'm stuck with you for three hours, and I can't really leave at my convenience if the date sucks. (3) It's probably hot and sunny. Am I sweating? Is the wind messing my hair up? Did I bring sunblock, and if so, when/where can I put it on? Will I smell like sunblock after that? Or maybe it's a night game so now I'm cold and cranky. (4) You splurge for nice seats. But now the date is even more expensive and I'd feel bad leaving you, that is if we drove separately. Or, we have crappy lawn seats and now I'm itchy and cranky. I think you get the picture.

But you are correct in saying that there is no cookie cutter method when it comes to relationships. Hence why dating websites/books and especially pre-med forums are bad sources of relationship advice.

 

[Drrrrrr. Celty]

I have to disagree with this; it totally depends on the girl. I hate dinner/movie first dates, I think they are awkward and contrived. The best first date I ever went on was hiking a 14er (that's what we call the group of mountains in CO above 14,000 feet). And I would be STOKED if a guy took me to a pro sports game on a first date. Baseball is cool, bonus points for football or basektball. 😀 The main thing is you want to be able to talk to someone on the first date. Movies are bad for this. So are concerts, unless it's one of those casual concerts in the park. I don't know how representative I am of other women, though. My ideal first date would be playing laser tag and then getting a Happy Meal.

A hike or laser tag is epic. Make things natural and allow for bonding, hell I think the best first date is after doing something fun is just talking for hours over some finger food.

 

[BlueLabel]

I have to disagree with this; it totally depends on the girl. I hate dinner/movie first dates, I think they are awkward and contrived. The best first date I ever went on was hiking a 14er (that's what we call the group of mountains in CO above 14,000 feet). And I would be STOKED if a guy took me to a pro sports game on a first date. Baseball is cool, bonus points for football or basektball. 😀 The main thing is you want to be able to talk to someone on the first date. Movies are bad for this. So are concerts, unless it's one of those casual concerts in the park. I don't know how representative I am of other women, though. My ideal first date would be playing laser tag and then getting a Happy Meal.

Great advice if you're in 7th grade I guess

 

[Wile]

I have to disagree with this; it totally depends on the girl. I hate dinner/movie first dates, I think they are awkward and contrived. The best first date I ever went on was hiking a 14er (that's what we call the group of mountains in CO above 14,000 feet). And I would be STOKED if a guy took me to a pro sports game on a first date. Baseball is cool, bonus points for football or basektball. 😀 The main thing is you want to be able to talk to someone on the first date. Movies are bad for this. So are concerts, unless it's one of those casual concerts in the park. I don't know how representative I am of other women, though. My ideal first date would be playing laser tag and then getting a Happy Meal.

Agree.

 

[Frazier]

yea, some studies say that doing daring/exciting activities increase the perceived attractiveness of the other person you are doing them with... sounds like a useful psych tactic for a first date.

 

[Wile]

Well, no. (1) It's pretty expensive once you take into account driving there, paying for parking, tickets, food, etc. First dates should be cheap and simple, in my opinion. (2) I'm stuck with you for three hours, and I can't really leave at my convenience if the date sucks. (3) It's probably hot and sunny. Am I sweating? Is the wind messing my hair up? Did I bring sunblock, and if so, when/where can I put it on? Will I smell like sunblock after that? Or maybe it's a night game so now I'm cold and cranky. (4) You splurge for nice seats. But now the date is even more expensive and I'd feel bad leaving you, that is if we drove separately. Or, we have crappy lawn seats and now I'm itchy and cranky. I think you get the picture.

But you are correct in saying that there is no cookie cutter method when it comes to relationships. Hence why dating websites/books and especially pre-med forums are bad sources of relationship advice.

Wow.

 

[911 Turbo]

What about inviting a girl to shadow a doctor with me as a first date?

 

[BlueLabel]

Well, no. (1) It's pretty expensive once you take into account driving there, paying for parking, tickets, food, etc. First dates should be cheap and simple, in my opinion. (2) I'm stuck with you for three hours, and I can't really leave at my convenience if the date sucks. (3) It's probably hot and sunny. Am I sweating? Is the wind messing my hair up? Did I bring sunblock, and if so, when/where can I put it on? Will I smell like sunblock after that? Or maybe it's a night game so now I'm cold and cranky. (4) You splurge for nice seats. But now the date is even more expensive and I'd feel bad leaving you, that is if we drove separately. Or, we have crappy lawn seats and now I'm itchy and cranky. I think you get the picture.

But you are correct in saying that there is no cookie cutter method when it comes to relationships. Hence why dating websites/books and especially pre-med forums are bad sources of relationship advice.

Stop using the word cranky. It's kind of a turn off

 

[Drrrrrr. Celty]

Well, no. (1) It's pretty expensive once you take into account driving there, paying for parking, tickets, food, etc. First dates should be cheap and simple, in my opinion. (2) I'm stuck with you for three hours, and I can't really leave at my convenience if the date sucks. (3) It's probably hot and sunny. Am I sweating? Is the wind messing my hair up? Did I bring sunblock, and if so, when/where can I put it on? Will I smell like sunblock after that? Or maybe it's a night game so now I'm cold and cranky. (4) You splurge for nice seats. But now the date is even more expensive and I'd feel bad leaving you, that is if we drove separately. Or, we have crappy lawn seats and now I'm itchy and cranky. I think you get the picture.

But you are correct in saying that there is no cookie cutter method when it comes to relationships. Hence why dating websites/books and especially pre-med forums are bad sources of relationship advice.

The only good reason for why it is bad is because it is expensive. The rest of the reasons you mention are your reasons for why you and I wouldn't work out tbh.

 

[TheMightySmiter]

Great advice if you're in 7th grade I guess

Who doesn't like laser tag, what's wrong with you.

 

[nancy mcgunter]

Stop using the word cranky. It's kind of a turn off

🙂 Sorry.

 

[TheMightySmiter]

Well, no. (1) It's pretty expensive once you take into account driving there, paying for parking, tickets, food, etc. First dates should be cheap and simple, in my opinion. (2) I'm stuck with you for three hours, and I can't really leave at my convenience if the date sucks. (3) It's probably hot and sunny. Am I sweating? Is the wind messing my hair up? Did I bring sunblock, and if so, when/where can I put it on? Will I smell like sunblock after that? Or maybe it's a night game so now I'm cold and cranky. (4) You splurge for nice seats. But now the date is even more expensive and I'd feel bad leaving you, that is if we drove separately. Or, we have crappy lawn seats and now I'm itchy and cranky. I think you get the picture.

You sound pretty high-maintenance, I hope you've found someone who can deal with all that. If you're single, though, I totally get why...

What about inviting a girl to shadow a doctor with me as a first date?

"Hey, baby, let's watch a vaginal exam together."

 

[BlueLabel]

Who doesn't like laser tag, what's wrong with you.

Don't get me wrong, I thought it was the bee's knees in junior high. Combining that with McDogfood just wouldn't do it for me at 22 though.

 

[nancy mcgunter]

You sound pretty high-maintenance, I hope you've found someone who can deal with all that. If you're single, though, I totally get why...



"Hey, baby, let's watch a vaginal exam together."

No, not really. A baseball game is a perfectly fine third date idea, maybe even second date. Not first date, though. That's my take on it, anyway. But to each her own. 🙂

 

[TheMightySmiter]

Don't get me wrong, I thought it was the bee's knees in junior high. Combining that with McDogfood just wouldn't do it for me at 22 though.

But...MCNUGGETS!


Well, we're all different.

 

[deleted393595]

Well for example, a lot of my guy friends ask me about good first date ideas. And usually they are incredibly cliche or just stupid. You should know that going to a pro baseball game is a horrible first date idea. You should know dinner and a movie is a safe bet, but probably boring. This isn't rocket science.

 

[Jaqen Hghar]

I think we should just whip it out, measure length and girth, compare squat 1RM, and number of sexual partners to end this debate.

I'd rather not give out such easily identifiable information. Want to keep my anonymity, you know?

 

[Jaqen Hghar]

Well for example, a lot of my guy friends ask me about good first date ideas. And usually they are incredibly cliche or just stupid. You should know that going to a pro baseball game is a horrible first date idea. You should know dinner and a movie is a safe bet, but probably boring. This isn't rocket science.

I think your advice is kind of backwards. Have you ever had a good first date experience where you were taken to see a movie? There is little to no time to talk, and no one makes out in movies anymore since the 8th grade. How would you really know if you like the girl enough for a second date if all you found out was that she looks better in the dark and can stay quite for a couple of hours. I hate the idea of movies for dates until you have been dating a while. Pro baseball games are conditionally great for first dates. If you have a local AAA team that you can go to, you can't really go wrong. AAA tickets are fairly cheap and fun to attend. You have ample opportunity to converse, but you don't have the added pressure of having to talk the entire time. Bowling is also a good first date idea. There is beer, cheap food, and best of all it is fun.

 

[BlueLabel]

I think your advice is kind of backwards. Have you ever had a good first date experience where you were taken to see a movie? There is little to no time to talk, and no one makes out in movies anymore since the 8th grade. How would you really know if you like the girl enough for a second date if all you found out was that she looks better in the dark and can stay quite for a couple of hours. I hate the idea of movies for dates until you have been dating a while.

A lot of y'all seem to have a very algorithmic approach to dating. If things progress they just do, there aren't specific criteria that I need to evaluate via an oral interview on the first date. A movie is just fine, followed by cocktails at my place or out to the bar. Maybe you should just have fun and not overthink things.

 

[ineed2stpsmurfn]

Lol! That's what I was saying a few pages back! Haha

lol... the incredible thing at this point is he trolled them so well, they are now trolling each other continually like a fusion reaction and they don't even realize he was just screwing with them trying to start something.

this is why trolling persists... people love to fall into the trap like a fat kid loves cake.

 

[Jaqen Hghar]

A lot of y'all seem to have a very algorithmic approach to dating. If things progress they just do, there aren't specific criteria that I need to evaluate via an oral interview on the first date. A movie is just fine, followed by cocktails at my place or out to the bar. Maybe you should just have fun and not overthink things.

I agree with you. My post wasn't meant to be an x+y=z sort of thing. My point was to go on a date that will be depressurized and allow things to progress naturally. I mean, if there is an algorithm I go by these days it is any combination of A through W = XXX. 😉

On a side note, I think it is comical that this thread has progressed into a "first date and beyond" conversation when OP can't even talk to a girl...

 

[yellowbird12]

yeah just keep Hope. I don't know if you are a Christian , but I think God wants me to trust and hope that he will give me a husband . Stay positive and optimistic about the situation.

I am not really young ( I was born in the 80s) , and so yeah its kind of a tough situation for me because I think about the fact of the years of schooling that God willing I 'll go through ( I am still an undergrad) and the biological clock and just yeah ..basically you are not alone.

I have to admit my glasses, and some inside things might be part of the reason I'm not in a relationship yet...

plus if I dressed up more and stuff.but to be honest I think I really need to sort some inner issues I have before I get in a relationship though if one were to come my way I might open to it. if they are Christian, and meet other conditions....