Resurrecting this for now:
The man and I have been doing pretty good. There was definitely some rockiness there a while back (complained on here or in the RANT thread when it was all going down). But we had a good heart to heart in July and that definitely helped a lot.
But I feel like a rocky patch is going to rear it's ugly head here soon. I took a job as a resident director at my undergrad, so we're long distance again (5 hours/300 miles). He works 40 hours a week; I work 40 hours a week with 24/7 on call for one to three residence halls. So traveling back and forth is a little difficult, but not impossible. It's definitely been rougher this time around and I can tell it's wearing on him quite a bit. He would really like me to be able to move back to Denver July 1 when my contract runs out.
One of the other RDs made an awesome excel sheet budget thingy that quite literally covers all the basis for a monthly budget. I've been going through it and adding real information for how much things would cost and it's looking like it would be impossible for me to move back and have us live together financially. We'd have to be doing 3,790 a month between the two of us to break even (and that's with no emergencies popping up). I don't really see that as being easily doable. Right now, he's making around $1,000 a month and I would probably start at $800 a month for the jobs I would want to get that are available there. Right now, the departments of Ag and Wildlife don't have any open positions I qualify for, which is unfortunate cause that would pay better than a vet assistant or a doggy day care attendant.
I am just not looking forward to the conversation we're going to have when I come home in November or December cause it's probably going to end up with me saying it makes more sense for me to stay here for a couple more years (unless I were to get into vet school) and us be long distance for a while (he's definitely not keen on moving into middle of nowhere Nebraska). But in this job, I can save at least 15,000 of my salary, and that's if I don't get promoted. The health insurance is phenomenal and I have no bills for all intents and purposes.
It's just a sucky situation all the way around.