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How long were you long distance with living in different countries? My boyfriend is going to be studying abroad in China in the fall, and I'm trying to remain optimistic considering it's only a semester and I'll be so busy adjusting to vet school, but I'm nervous about making it work with the 10 hour time difference, and China possibly blocking certain social media apps. At least once he comes back it will make the distance from Missouri to Kansas seem like nothing! We've been together for over three years, so we have a strong foundation, and I think we're pretty good at communicating (much better than my ex was, we were long distance for a year and it was a disaster), but it's going to be a huge adjustment considering we live together now. I will admit I'm excited to live with my cat again (he's deathly allergic, so she lives with my parents now), and not have to deal with his messiness!
For just a semester you'll manage. It's weird, but you're both doing your own things so you'll manage and time will pass quickly. When I was in Australia my girlfriend was working for the summer, so we dealt with a 15 hour time difference. Planning at least some of your communications ahead of time and having reasonable expectations will help. If it's possible, texting is a good way to go; either normal sms depending on international plans or with the variety of internet based texting apps. There was lots of overlap of when I was awake it would be sleep time back home and vise versa, so having a fairly continuous stream of messages back and forth was an easy way to regularly keep in touch. I stayed with an older couple who actually didn't have internet either and I didn't have a car so it was a bus ride or a bit of a walk to anywhere with free wi-fi, so between that, the time difference, and the further communication barriers of me working in a high security bio lab, we only video chatted every couple of weeks. Would talk on the phone a couple times a week; pretty much the only good time was morning for me, which would be yesterday evening back home, usually before I went to work and after she was home from her day. We exchanged a couple of letters and stuff too, I sent her family some postcards. It was weird and we were both a little tired of it by the end and missing each other, but I don't think either of us were dying on the inside or regretted it. If it had been longer probably, but three months isn't bad. I think a lot of it depends on your personality too.