Relationship with the TA?

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Wait until the semester is over before initiating anything.

It's probably not a great idea and it's an inappropriate relationship while she is your instructor and in charge of grading your work. Worst case scenario, you two suck at hiding what's going on between you, people in your section figure out, and it's bad news bears for her.

But hey once the semester is over, bow-chicka-wow game on. It's naive to think relationships do not happen between instructors/professors and students, they do.

And if you must do it, and her, then tread lightly and don't get caught.
 
Augustus said:
Has anybody ever had a relationship with somebody who had input on their grade?

Last week after lab I thought my TA might be into me. Now this week she pretty much made it clear that she wanted to see me outside of the class room. She isn't bad looking but isn't great looking either she's like a 5.

Here is my dilemma she is 100% in charge of my lab grade (1/4 of my grade) and she also helps in grading my professor grade lecture exams. To me this is a double edged sword. It could be good if things are fine between us or it could be terrible if things go South.

Thoughts?
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stay away... this could go on your record if it ever gets out of hand (if she gives you a better grade than you deserve).

If you're not interested, make it clear (or make up an excuse), but don't use her (that would be horribly wrong for so many reasons)

If you are interested, tell her that you'd rather wait until the semester is over.
 
Frazier said:
You remind me of the SDN thread a month ago posted by the girl who blew her professor [or "knelt before god" (whatever her euphemism was)] and wanted to know if it was okay.
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Did she at least get an A?
lol
 
lazymed said:
stay away... this could go on your record if it ever gets out of hand (if she gives you a better grade than you deserve).

If you're not interested, make it clear (or make up an excuse), but don't use her (that would be horribly wrong for so many reasons)

If you are interested, tell her that you'd rather wait until the semester is over.
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I've never heard of the student getting in trouble in these situations, the blame almost always falls on the TA.

That being said, yeah. Wait.
 
Are you sure she is romantically interested and not just socially interested? I have gone over to one of my professor's house for dinner. It was a real good time actually. But, she told me before hand that us being friends would in no way affect my grade. However, I did end up with an A in the class.🙂
 
It's called a conflict of interests...

When you're a physician, you won't be allowed to have relationships with your patients.

The person in the position of power always has the potential to abuse it.

but seriously, a 5? totally not worth it. maybe if you weren't doing well in the class and needed extra credit or something...
 
AlanAlanine said:
It's called a conflict of interests...

When you're a physician, you won't be allowed to have relationships with your patients.

The person in the position of power always has the potential to abuse it.

but seriously, a 5? totally not worth it. maybe if you weren't doing well in the class and needed extra credit or something...
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yeah dude, gotta be at least an 8 to be worth it.
 
Okay, I have been in this situation.....

I had a TA that wanted me....I refused her overtures and I went from making all As on labs to Bs....my lab partner who turned in the same work as me still made As....:wtf:

I would flirt with her and maybe go out with her and even bang her if need be....until the semester is over....

Then, decide how you want to continue....

win/win if you play it right....

dont tell others and she will not want to show favs in class....keep it :ninja: and all will be 😎
 
you guys are terrible at giving advice.

first of all, whats a 5?

do you have a curved scale? do you cut off the bottom 10-20% that you probably wouldn't hit at all (for some men its as low as 0%). On my scale 5, is pretty rare and are a definite tap

let's be honest, in certain situations + if no one else found out, you would def go for a girl that's not bad looking. try to keep her liking you and put that away for a rainy day
 
brooklynblunder said:
alright, so the way i look at it is, you gotta throw out <7.5 out of the picture all together, as if they don't exist

and then make a distribution
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So first have a binary scale, 0 or 1.

Then rate the 1's on a scale of 1-10?
 
Your TA sounds like an idiot. When I was a TA I got invited to hang out by the students occasionally and I always politely said no. And although I admit to flirting with some of my students, haha, i would never have actually tried anything. sheesh. i want my professors to respect me.

personally i wouldn't go there at all. but if you must, just wait til the semester is over.
 
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Augustus said:
First of all, JDUB's advice seems best.

Secondly, as far as defining a 5. She is thin, has big cans, nice bottom, but her face is ehhh. Like I said she isn't ugly but not attractive either. Her face is slightly below average. Oh and I should add she is a nice person, not stuck up or anything.
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Glad, you are smart....

now, just take my approach and go as far as you need to in order to get through the semester....

If she comes on strong and wants to really "do" something, then do what needs to be done.

Just dont reject her....nothing worse than a woman scorned!!!! :scared:

Lastly, if you want to get it on, then get it on!! :boom:

just use :caution: (caution)
 
"Secondly, as far as defining a 5. She is thin, has big cans, nice bottom, but her face is ehhh. Like I said she isn't ugly but not attractive either. Her face is slightly below average. Oh and I should add she is a nice person, not stuck up or anything. "

1. You are in College.
2. Sex is like help. you take it whenever, wherever and from who ever is "qualified"
3. And shes you're TA, therefore in charge of your grade? Just don't be a clutz
4. Since when is not looking like a model an issue?
5. Nothing wrong with a grenade every now and then. Makes the good ones seem that much better.

Really dude? This ones a No brainer.
 
Frazier said:
You remind me of the SDN thread a month ago posted by the girl who blew her professor [or "knelt before god" (whatever her euphemism was)] and wanted to know if it was okay.
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Was that thread closed? Sounds hilarious.


The perks of teaching a pre-med course...
 
a grenade? really? 🙄

still though i am interested to know how this numerical system works. do go on.
 
Tape it and bribe her...look if you aint gonna give me an A then something is gonna happen 😛 jk jk
 
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Augustus said:
No, that's definitely not it. She discretely grabbed my ass during lab today. Then later asked me what I was doing this evening.

Unsure, and wishing to first seek counsel from my SDN peers, I told her that I already had plans and that maybe we could hang out some other time.
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string her along....😉
 
I'd go for it. Heck, I wouldn't even hesitate.
 
Augustus said:
No, that's definitely not it. She discretely grabbed my ass during lab today. Then later asked me what I was doing this evening.

Unsure, and wishing to first seek counsel from my SDN peers, I told her that I already had plans and that maybe we could hang out some other time.
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If anything, this makes for a fantastic story...
 
if there was ever any doubt as to which SDNers were guys, look no further than the posts here to figure out who is who, lol
 
So not only is a girl asking to have sex with you, but a girl who is in charge of your grades? I can't believe your on here, and not on her right now!
 
MaryLennox said:
Your TA sounds like an idiot. When I was a TA I got invited to hang out by the students occasionally and I always politely said no. And although I admit to flirting with some of my students, haha, i would never have actually tried anything. sheesh. i want my professors to respect me.

personally i wouldn't go there at all. but if you must, just wait til the semester is over.
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👍

I've been a TA and I wouldn't want that drama **** to follow me around. Have some self-control and keep it in your pants for this one.
 
Get a lab coat embroidered. It's probably like $3-4 a line.

You can go with a bunch of different ideas for the actual text, my suggestion would be:

"I B my L on R TA" (only if you actually follow through, get it in script that's hard to read at a glance).

Do this, and you win, big time.
 
Haha, this thread is funny. I've actually hashed out my own version of the female grading scale.

10 = One of the most beautiful women in the world, hands down. Probably none of these at your college, 1 if you're lucky.
9 = Top 1%-ish. Something along the lines of the top 3 attractive females in your graduating class (for a large private university).
8 = You and all of your friends agree she is hot, no question. But there's nothing quite breath-taking about her. You'll pass by one of these every 5-10 minutes or so at the mall or any public venue.
7 = Your moderately attractive female in the dime a dozen category. Still, you'd sleep with her without having to think about it.
6 = Just above average. If you were feeling kinky and perhaps under the influence, well you know.. But you're not gonna go out of your way to make a move unless it was based on more than her appearance.
5 = Completely, 100% average. Pretty much the girls where if someone asks you "Is she hot?" you'd respond "Well, she's not really ugly..."
4-1 = Below average, ugly, etc. Of course the lower the number, the more distracting her appearance. I don't really bother specifying these, since it's more intuitive then 5-10, I'd think.
 
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Bbon said:
Haha, this thread is funny. I've actually hashed out my own version of the female grading scale.

10 = One of the most beautiful women in the world, hands down. Probably none of these at your college, 1 if you're lucky.
9 = Top 1%-ish. Something along the lines of the top 3 attractive females in your graduating class (for a large private university).
8 = You and all of your friends agree she is hot, no question. But there's nothing quite breath-taking about her. You'll pass by one of these every 5-10 minutes or so at the mall or any public venue.
7 = Your moderately attractive female in the dime a dozen category. Still, you'd sleep with her without having to think about it.
6 = Just above average. If you were feeling kinky and perhaps under the influence, well you know.. But you're not gonna go out of your way to make a move unless it was based on more than her appearance.
5 = Completely, 100% average. Pretty much the girls where if someone asks you "Is she hot?" you'd respond "Well, she's not really ugly..."
4-1 = Below average, ugly, etc. Of course the lower the number, the more distracting her appearance. I don't really bother specifying these, since it's more intuitive then 5-10, I'd think.
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I like the scale except for #8. 10-15 minutes at the mall?? That's one notch lower than Top 1% and you see them every 10-15 minutes there?? Or is this scale extremely skewed? hmmm....
 
BBender716 said:
I like the scale except for #8. 10-15 minutes at the mall?? That's one notch lower than Top 1% and you see them every 10-15 minutes there?? Or is this scale extremely skewed? hmmm....
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Agreed. Let's go with every time you walk across campus during peak times, you might see 2 or so. Sound good?
 
BBender716 said:
I like the scale except for #8. 10-15 minutes at the mall?? That's one notch lower than Top 1% and you see them every 10-15 minutes there?? Or is this scale extremely skewed? hmmm....
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metallica81788 said:
Agreed. Let's go with every time you walk across campus during peak times, you might see 2 or so. Sound good?
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Done and done!

😀
 
10-15 minutes of walking through the mall, you'd see like at least 50 girls your age! Just think about it - you pass 1 girl your age every 10 seconds (in a crowded mall), then you'd pass like 60-90 girls your age in 10-15 minutes!
 
You are in a win win situation on this one. You get some if you want some and if you do get some and then get a bad grade you can always complain to your professor (the one in charge of the TA) about sexual harassment. But do keep up your standards, if you are averaging 5-6's then feel free to tap that, but if you regularly do better, why step down.
 
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