If you have a 3.8/38 and research experience then you can go where you please and there are many schools that can provide what you are looking for. If you have an academic record that is not as impressive (<3.5/<30) or are lacking research experience, you should be looking to get into any school that will make it possible for you to come out the other end with an MD and the skills you need for an internship and passing of the licensure exam. If you are in between, you might have a shot at a school that fits your criteria but it will be more of a crap shoot as you try to catch the attention of adcoms at schools that fit your criteria.
I agree.The "complete experience" is what you make out of it.
Many of the things that really wow you before you get to the school turn out being of only minimal, if any, educational benefit (surgical skills lab, upgraded anatomy labs). Nearly every school I interviewed at or have friends at does mission trips, volunteers in the community and wants their grads to be great. BTW, your tuition money really doesn't go towards things like mission trips usually. Where I am, they have fundraisers and what not to get supplies for each trip, but the students still pay for the flight and what not out of their own money usually. Sometimes it is subsidized, but that just depends.^I agree, however, some places actually motivated their students to do more and work harderd, whereas other schools just take your tuition, throw together some basic powerpoint slides - read aloud by faculty who doesn't look like they want to be there, and expect you to do it on your own