Just a note from a program coordinator - one who is really involved in the process including interviewing candidates and voting in rank meeting - to those of you who are left unmatched this very competitive year.
Don't lose hope. This isn't the end of the road and I have personally witnessed some REALLY unlikely candidates ranked to match (and by that I mean in the top however many spots available) because they made great connections with the program and worked their butts off in connection to SUPER competitive programs.
I just want you to know, from this side of it (though I guess I can really only speak for myself) we WANT you to succeed. We are on your side. If we interview you, we probably already like you and would be happy to have you here - as long as you weren't rude, inappropriate, or gave off a serial killer vibe.
Match results are always a little bittersweet, because we all have our favorites and sometimes we weren't the best fit for them, but I am always so excited for those people because they matched where they thought it was a better fit. Sucks for me, but I am happy for them!!
For the candidates who are ranked but go unmatched - we really feel for you. Nine times out of ten, we ranked you, and would have loved to have you - we just matched higher on our list and sometimes higher than expected. This does not mean you were at the bottom of our list, or even, in some cases, a quarter of the way down. Do not let this define you, do not feel ashamed or embarrassed, and do not feel like you have failed. So many amazing candidates just slip through the fingers of the Match because it is SO competitive.
I know you feel like the world is ending, but it isn't. Take heart, take advice (even if you don't like it), and take time for your family and friends who have missed you while you were in medical school and will miss you when you land that residency.
And just some advice: Please DO NOT show up unannounced and without an invitation. It is not professional, it is awkward, and it is going to cost you far more than it benefits you. And please, do not call, get voicemail, call back, rinse and repeat a billion times. Most of us have caller ID so we see how many times you have called, and it is really inappropriate if we are interviewing someone or are hosting a meeting. Please just leave a voicemail.....
Best of luck to you in snagging an off cycle position or matching next cycle!