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Alright, I half apologize. I thought you grew up in the US like me. I appreciate that you take the time to use V and W correctly. And that you take exams and you don't give them. Celebrate both your cultures. You're going to get a shocker one day when you realize you're way more American than you are Indian.
If I was Lebanese, Pali or Iraqi I'd tell you but since I'm not...I'm gonna try to keep this one under wraps. 🙂 You Arab?
I grew up in India, moved to the US when I was kinda young, but kept going back to India. Even in the US, I grew up in a sort of "Indian ghetto," where everyone I interacted with was Indian. I did not have a white friend until I was a junior in high school IIRC.
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Don't go back to your brotastic zyzzastic forums. Stay with us.
I developed a bad habit of surfing these threads during last summer at work, and I made a new account recently for anonymity. This whole time I had Anastomoses pegged for a high-strung white girl. Mind=Blown.
I've always had a thing for girls with melanin-rich skin....
I've always had a thing for girls with melanin-rich skin....
Did we move to Wolf's Den?
Bzzz. Wrong. I think British and French accents are the worst. Unless it's the Joanna Lumley British accent. I love Vietnamese/Thai accents - but not for dating. I like German accents, Turkish, and most just go in the "eh, it's an accent" bin. Truth is, you meet a great looking guy - you're going to try to work past his accent or it might start magically seeming kind of cute.
@Desk_Jockey - everyone has bad days. everyone wonders from time to time whether they did something wrong in a relationship or if they are the cause of certain problems. everyone has things they want to improve about self. Don't mislead @Arkangeloid into thinking his gloomy disposition, toxic negative thinking, and incessant jealousies are perfectly healthy and normal. He seems to be progressing but it still requires work.
My contention with your comment was that you said "you haven't even managed that yet." That makes it seem as though you can fully like yourself at some point, and that's an achievement that you keep forever. That's why I focused my response on the necessity of working towards a more positive mindset and working for what you want in life with a sense of hope.
Negative thoughts are a struggle throughout people's lives, but they have to recognize these thoughts before they can fight against them. I certainly wasn't trying to say that a state of depression and low self-esteem are something to accept for yourself or are normal.
I get what you were trying to say now, and I know that's a nit-picky distinction, but I felt the need to throw that out there.
Qatar?
I like the French accent. Makes me think of ratatouille. The movie not the food
I would admit to liking British accents but I think I'm supposed to default hate them. For reasons.
I would admit to liking British accents but I think I'm supposed to default hate them. For reasons.
This seems to be your traditional way of saying "hello" on SDN.
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Hah! I can read that. I have a bit of Gulf Arab in me.
I'm unbanned there so I started posting there again. I really need to stop. <10 days left before Step 1. *gulp*
Hah, you're a bodybuilder too, then. Only one of us would say "we're all gonna make it."
In any case, I'm probably going to do the whole arranged marriage thing, and I'll tell you guys why. I used to be a pretty hardcore and competitive League of Legends player back in college, actually playing in the National Electronic Sports League in S1. I always had a motto: "If you play their game, you lose. If you play your game, you win."
I'll give you an example. Let's say your team has Janna/Caitlyn/Nidalee, and their team has Kennen/Amumu/Morgana (or some other AoE ****efest team). Why would you ever engage them at Baron? They'll mop the floor with you. Instead, you gotta play your game, which is siege/poke/disengage.
In this case, I'm a quiet, shy, nerdy, risk-averse boy. The American dating game involves being a loud, buff, raucous, flirtatious party dude who goes crazy at bars and clubs before doing God knows what with various girls. For me, playing that game is going to be like bashing my head into a wall, because that just isn't me. So instead I'll play the Indian dating game, which is much simpler. I just need to get out of medical school with a match (which I was going to do anyways), and the rest will sort itself out.
In any case, I thank you for your kind words and well wishes. Now back to Cardio!
I have absolutely no idea what any of this means.
No it doesn't. It involves being confident and comfortable with yourself. People with the qualities you mentioned tend to also be confident (or at least appear to be), which is why the stereotypical guy you alluded to tends to do well. You don't need any of those qualities to play and do well at the "American dating game" though.
This is such a defeatist attitude.
You've already sold yourself short so no wonder you've given up. You've played up the american dating game in your head as some magical thing.
You don't think there are american girls out there who are quiet, shy and nerdy? I guarantee you there a dime a dozen.
All a person needs in any "dating game" is confidence which is something you severely lack.
I admit I may come across as untactful with these responses but people don't grow from being told they are perfect. You're clearly taking the easy way out. There is no honor in your decision. It is one thing to participate in arranged marriage because you believe strongly in that culture and another to take part in it because you'd rather save yourself the trouble of trying in the real world. The latter is just kind of sad imo.
Eh...nobody is really losing here. I don't see a problem. Some nice Indian girl from back home gets to marry a nice tall American-Indian doctor...and he gets to derive some self esteem from the community. Happens every day.
EDIT: NVM.
Its deeper than that though. That kind of attitude is a terrible one to have and extends past dating.
Uh, there is no "heaven" in Hinduism.
In any case, I'm listening. And I've been playing the American game anyways (buff up, go to bars/clubs/parties, talk to women there, etc). No success, but eh, what did you expect lol.
Honestly, you are going about the "game" all wrong. First stop thinking of it as a game. Second, out of all the girls I've been with only like 1 did I meet at a bar that actually lasted to something meaningful. Girls at bars/clubs/parties are used to getting hit on and put their guard up so you are already disadvantaged before you even say hello. Even if you manage to hook up with a girl at a bar, in my experience those are not the type of girls that are keepers. Obviously, this is an oversimplification, I'm sure there are plenty of sweet girls that party and are willing to meet guys, but they are rare and those venues are probably the worst places to try to pick someone up. Mutual friends is where is it honestly. The more friends you have, the more girls you will meet and these girls will be more willing to trust you/be interested because you are friends with one of their friends.
Its kind of ****ty in medical school though because all of your mutual friends will most likely be classmates. However, try to expand your friendships outside of school and just let your network of friends grow and the girls will follow.
Actually I switched from DotA to LoL in freshman year of college. I was always kinda crappy at DotA, though.
Uhm….no. Those men do exist and there are women who are attracted to them or think they should be but this does not represent the "American dating game". As noted above, those guys come off as confident and that's attractive. But being obnoxious is not attractive.
I guarantee you that the MAJORITY of the US does not behave like that (Jersey Shore and other reality shows notwithstanding) and the MAJORITY of US women are not attracted to that, the very least not intelligent, motivated successful women - the kind of woman you want.
haha real talk though what kind of women are you mixing with and what are they at the party for?
med school chicks looking for future husband is a totally different crowd than girls just looking to have fun
what kind of crew do you roll with?
also, changing the culture of the women you meet can help. my indian buddy is dark and found great success with the latinas. they see him as a more exotic looking hispanic with a much better career.
Mostly just friends of friends at the party, some randoms at the bar/club.
Actually from what I've observed, med school chicks almost universally prefer buff party types, at least judging by the way the class has paired off.
I don't really have a "crew."
Guess I'll start relearning Spanish then.
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HERRO
that is your problem. you are setting yourself up for failure.
1. you gotta get a group of friends that go out on the weekends. that will help you be comfortable. you have a routine and you are going to a place you've been before.
2. don't focus on all girls. focus on the girls that like you. who is looking at you, laughing at your jokes, and touching your arm?
3. can't help you with latina advice. need some hispanic brahs to help you out here.
Wrong on all counts. I'm assuming you quoted the wrong post though bc it's pretty out in the open that I'm an Indian girl
How is going to bars the dating game?
Edit, just read House's response. Go with that.
Step 1. Obtain playful puppy.
Step 2. Obtain leash and collar for said puppy.
Step 3. Place collar over puppy's neck and tighten so it won't choke the puppy.
Step 4. Attach leash to collar, and walk and play with puppy in park.
Step 5. Let the women come to you.
You can thank me later.
Whoa...my sick mind was going in a totally different direction by Step 3.
I'm confused, at which step do I put my dick in the box?
hahaha
Absolutely, 100% wrong. The "American" dating game is absolutely nothing like that. If so, then you're looking at it in a funhouse mirror. Your perspective is very much one-sided. Seriously it's like you've been watching way too many old tv episodes of Elimidate and Blind Date.
The "Indian" dating game that you say you'll play is absolutely no guarantee that you will suddenly be happy. There is no magic, as much as you are hoping it is.
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Indian men are overrated anyway. ><
Is that Nicki Minaj?
Dude, I already have this pic. FB, hello? Alright, you owe us something cute + new tomorrow.
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@Anastomoses
I have a pix for you. Oh man
I have a pix for you. Oh man
Got this off the Barney's website. Guy in the back. Delicious. (Yes I'm aware he looks much like Kaus. Lol)
Are you f*cking kidding me? You found the guy? hahaha. He's alright.
