This is the whole point. For some reason, the idea of treating an MS3 like an adult is bonkers to some people.
Hey man,
I get where you're coming from but I think the point they're trying to get across, and albeit not stating or realizing it explicitly, is that not everyone has the same standard you've stated. And sometimes we as students have to give them (whoever) a chance to trust us before they actually trust/respect us.
On clerkships for podiatry. Equivalent to your sub-I. This is my 6th one in a different city/state/hospital. Every time I come into an OR and try to be helpful (and not in the gunner kind of way) I get looks from scrub techs or circulating nurses that say "Wtf is this kid doing here?".
Even if I know how to set up an OR and scrub in, I still have to bite my tongue and put the ball in their court- so they would even give me a chance to show them - "Hey, you can trust me. I'm not trying to make more work for you. I have some experience and if I don't know something, I'll straight up ask you before I do any damage."
80% of the time it only takes 1 case for them to trust me and let me get away with more responsibilities. Helping transport the patient, helping set up the OR, even small **** like grabbing gloves or loading local or injecting. I never grab off their table, and even if they know me and are the type to let me do it, I always say "Hey, is it alright if I grab XYZ off your table?" when they're busy doing something else.
The other 20% are people who do not treat
anyone like an adult.
Example: Go into the OR, I've been here 3 days and some of the staff already know me. My name tag is pinned to my chest like a f*ckin golden retreiver.
"Hello, my name is Weirdy. I will be scrubbing in today with Dr. XYZ. Can I grab my gloves and the resident's for you?"
"Do you know where they are?"
"Yes."
"I doubt that. Just stay where you are."
Proceeds to go back to her story with the other scrub tech opening sets.
Alrighty, maybe she's just having a rough day. I'm just the dumba*s med student on a new rotation to them. I get it.
Scrub tech who's opening asks for another gown, he's seen the entire interaction, recognizes me from previous case.
"Yes, I can get that for you."
"NO. I don't want you rummaging through my closet."
Alrighty. She's just one of those types of people. I get it. I go position lights.
"You realize xyz resident just came in to adjust those and now you're moving them right?"
"Oh I'm sorry. I didn't realize they were already in here." I put them back to where it was.
"Just saying. They already set them up and now you're moving it."
Entire case went like this. Not only were they treating me like this the entire time, they were even sh*tting on the attending and resident during the case, rushing them, asking them if that's the proper tool they wanted. Everyone picked up on it. They lit her up soon as they realized and everyone laughed at her expense intraop. Here's the sad part- she didn't even realize why they were lighting her up. No self-awareness whatsoever of why they were making jokes at her expense.
Common sense and respect isn't common to everyone.
If playing the game right now gets the job done faster and makes me some friends, even if it makes me look like a self-deprecating bottom of the totem pole **** eating student, then I'll keep playing that game until respect and trust are earned.