Thin Envelope: Rejected. How To Deal?

[Blade28]

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there is a stigma attached to the word "rejection", but in fact many successful doctors have been rejected by a med school at least once.

If it makes you feel any better, I was rejected by at least 10-12 schools. 🙁

 

[prettymonkey]

Always opt for the high road:
I send thank you emails to the admissions office.
Classy? (Not if you are inside my mind when I get the news)

wait a minute - you send them thank you letters for rejecting you???? 😕

 

[batman1983]

Strip clubs, alcohol, and the occasional dog fight, need I say more

 

[MDRus]

i don't really get this thread. we all get rejections. i just forget about them and focus on the rest of my schools.

of course, i went into this process with no favorites. if you did, i can see why being rejected by one of them would hurt.

also, i have yet to be rejected by a school at which i have interviewed. now THAT will hurt when (not if) it happens.

but a pre-interview rejection? who cares? move on.

 

[JaysWay]

Most of my rejections have all been through email or status update. I print them out, make a copy, file the copy, and pin one up at my cubicle. I've got a pretty decent stack (I'm gonna have to get another pin soon), it reminds me to keep trying and hoping. Plus anybody who walks by takes a glance and thinks I'm crazy or not smart enough to get in. Good motivator.

 

[Sora]

Most of my rejections have all been through email or status update. I print them out, make a copy, file the copy, and pin one up at my cubicle. I've got a pretty decent stack (I'm gonna have to get another pin soon), it reminds me to keep trying and hoping. Plus anybody who walks by takes a glance and thinks I'm crazy or not smart enough to get in. Good motivator.

Sounds like more of a wall of shame. But whatever gets you going...

 

[JaysWay]

Keeps me focused. And lets me know that I won't be sitting at this desk forever.

 

[lisichka]

If it makes you feel any better, I was rejected by at least 10-12 schools. 🙁

you are a living proof that rejections happen to the best of us😀

you are my role model on SDN, BTW. i remember you vividly from another post where you explained that what i observed during CABG was in fact "vein harvesting" when i refered to it as "cutting out a vein from a leg" thank you for that.

edit: i also admire QofQuimica, and not b/c of her awesome MCAT, but it seems to me, that she is a really good/wise person. 🙂 and also i remember she was very helpful to me in MCAT subforum, way back. thank you Q. lolz, this part belongs in another thread.

 

[Drogba]

I saved mine, and had a trashcan bonfire at the end of the application cycle, complete with my friends Jose and Jack.

You have poor taste in tequila. You think for such a special occassion you could splash out a bit more for Don Julio or atleast Patron.

 

[BCLumas]

Liquor sucks. Maybe that's because I got destructified one night on liquor, but I can't stand the stuff anymore. Stick to beer. Since you're 21 (I assume) I would splurge on some good stuff. Crappy beer sucks. Yuengling or maybe even Corona.

 

[ArchiMed]

Since I don't party too much or drink or anything, I get myself some ice cream. Kinda lame, but I'm ok with that. 😀

Man....If I ate ice cream everytime I got a rejection letter I'd be quite chubby by the end of this application cycle!

 

[Drogba]

Liquor sucks. Maybe that's because I got destructified one night on liquor, but I can't stand the stuff anymore. Stick to beer. Since you're 21 (I assume) I would splurge on some good stuff. Crappy beer sucks. Yuengling or maybe even Corona.

Crappy beer does suck buy Yuengling and Corona aren't amazing either. I do enjoy both. Corona is way too expensive for what it is though especially in PA.

 

[Blade28]

you are a living proof that rejections happen to the best of us😀

you are my role model on SDN, BTW. i remember you vividly from another post where you explained that what i observed during CABG was in fact "vein harvesting" when i refered to it as "cutting out a vein from a leg" thank you for that.

Why thank you very much! Yes I remember that thread as well. 🙂

 

[beachblonde]

i don't really get this thread. we all get rejections. i just forget about them and focus on the rest of my schools.

of course, i went into this process with no favorites. if you did, i can see why being rejected by one of them would hurt.

also, i have yet to be rejected by a school at which i have interviewed. now THAT will hurt when (not if) it happens.

but a pre-interview rejection? who cares? move on.

but don't you already have an acceptance?

easy for you to say "who cares?" 🙄

 

[SoFlaKnight]

Liquor sucks. Maybe that's because I got destructified one night on liquor, but I can't stand the stuff anymore. Stick to beer. Since you're 21 (I assume) I would splurge on some good stuff. Crappy beer sucks. Yuengling or maybe even Corona.

I love it so much I'm actually looking into legally changing my first, middle and last name to Yuengling Y. Yuengling...I can see it now "Paging Dr. Yuengling to the OR", "He doesn't even look Asian"...I wish they had box tops that you could redeem for prizes, I'd have a Yuengling decaled Formula 1 race car by now

 

[tdjn]

god, this song is addicting. thank you so much!

what is it called by the way?

I also want to put it on my itunes... : )

Violence...certainly not the most constructive but it feels a little better after i tape a rejection letter to the punching bag and reduce it to shreds 🙂

if im not in that kind of mood i watch this

[youtube]UX6e7sO1ss0[/youtube]

just try to be depressed about a rejection letter after watching that. you will smile. i guarantee. unless youre a robot then all bets are off.

 

[ChimpanzeeMinky]

I think I'm going to have to deal with my rejection letters on a case by case basis. The ruder the letter, the more of a smack-down I'm going to have to put on it.

Now, my first and only rejection letter from UCSF (so far, I anticipate many more) was really quite nice, so I think I'll just file it away.

 

[Textuality]

Heh, I just put my gw rejection in the trash. Sigh, dunno what I will do with my Hopkins one though if that comes. Probably go grab some pints of Ben and jerry.

 

[Thurinus]

I know its kind of weird but rejections kind of make me feel alive. I find it very sobering to feel the frustration and the anger. They have really helped me realize that life continues to move on regardless of rejection. The admissions process is really symbolic of our general lives in that respect.

 

[drizzt3117]

I find it kind of amusing that everyone these days seems to get a serious chip on their shoulder about the smallest perceived slight... I suppose it's a good motivational ploy but at some point it gets ridiculous.

 

[beachblonde]

god, this song is addicting. thank you so much!

what is it called by the way?

I also want to put it on my itunes... : )

It's Caramelldansen Speedycake Remix by Caramell.

The song in the clip is only actually a few seconds of the whole song.

(and iTunes doesn't have the remix version, FYI).

 

[Thurinus]

Exactly. You get rejected, you move on. Simple as that.

 

[Jolie South]

When I first read your original post, I really thought it sounded a bit like bragging. And I was pissed. But I chose not to respond to your post because I know that you were not intentionally writing things that would make other people feel like saying "shut up." But someone obviously wrote how they felt about the post. And although it was not polite, I can understand that if he didn't know you from your previous posts, I would have felt the exact same way. I know better, however, because you're very helpful and encouraging most of the time.

It's not like she wrote:

AFTER MY WONDERFUL APP GOT ME MANY ACCEPTANCES TO SCHOOLS EVERYONE WANTS, I still don't want to get rejected post secondary.

 

[VoiceofReason]

I dont trust people that don't drink.

Corona is MEXICAN PISS. One time in high school I bought a bottle of tequila called Zapata. On the label there was a picture of a guy that looked like he had just fallen down a flight of stairs. And he was wearing a sombrero.

 

[HanginInThere]

Liquor sucks. Maybe that's because I got destructified one night on liquor, but I can't stand the stuff anymore. Stick to beer. Since you're 21 (I assume) I would splurge on some good stuff. Crappy beer sucks. Yuengling or maybe even Corona.

Corona is MEXICAN PISS.

It's the Budweiser of Mexico [you say to-MAY-to, I say to-MAH-to].

It has its place - sometimes a few Coronas and a lime can be just what you're looking for. But calling it "some good stuff" shows a sorry lack of life experience. If you're ever asked to name a good beer in an interview, don't say Corona.

 

[Samus Aran]

speaking of rejections, does anyone know when mt. sinai starts rejecting applicants?

 

[paradocs we are]

It's not like she wrote:

AFTER MY WONDERFUL APP GOT ME MANY ACCEPTANCES TO SCHOOLS EVERYONE WANTS, I still don't want to get rejected post secondary.

No comment.

 

[Kthanksbye]

Case didn't even send me an email. Apparently all I get for my hundred bucks is a status update on their website stating that I'm no longer being consider for an interview. I thought they could at least send an email!

 

[Aynsl156]

Case didn't even send me an email. Apparently all I get for my hundred bucks is a status update on their website stating that I'm no longer being consider for an interview. I thought they could at least send an email!

Firstly

Secondly, to Kthanksbye: Gsc? Organizer, in craniofacial development? I think we're researching in the same field! If indeed you're doing craniofacial mophogenesis in mouse.

 

[Kthanksbye]

Firstly

Secondly, to Kthanksbye: Gsc? Organizer, in craniofacial development? I think we're researching in the same field! If indeed you're doing craniofacial mophogenesis in mouse.

I thought it was relevant because the OP was talking about dealing with a thin envelope. I never even got the envelope. I was saying I would have liked to get one.

Second, nope, no research. I just took a dev bio class. Goosecoid is what starts the gastrulation process in amphibians, ß-catenin builds up at the Nieuwkoop center due to Disheveled being transported there, which triggers TGF-ß pathway to form Goosecoid. Yea!

 

[Jolie South]

No comment.

umm, kay. i was just suggesting that if that was the case, then it would be obvious that she was trying to brag. the manner with which she stated her point was far from this.

i wasn't suggesting that I or anyone else feels "superior" because we have already been accepted. I don't see what point that would serve. We are going to be colleagues in the future, remember?

how does everything i say on this dang board get misconstrued?

 

[Aynsl156]

I thought it was relevant because the OP was talking about dealing with a thin envelope. I never even got the envelope. I was saying I would have liked to get one.

Second, nope, no research. I just took a dev bio class. Goosecoid is what starts the gastrulation process in amphibians, ß-catenin builds up at the Nieuwkoop center due to Disheveled being transported there, which triggers TGF-ß pathway to form Goosecoid. Yea!

No no no, the hijack smilie was a warning that I was about to hijack the thread for my own nefarious purposes. Ok, cool, I do wnt signaling, but way later on and in another organism. It was just fun seeing goosecoid every time you commented. Go dev bio!

 

[Phoenix.]

umm, kay. i was just suggesting that if that was the case, then it would be obvious that she was trying to brag. the manner with which she stated her point was far from this.

i wasn't suggesting that's the case for me or Phoenix.

how does everything i say on this dang board get misconstrued?

I like to think it's all about perspective. It could have gone either way (ok, probably more one way than the other), but I chose to read "No comment" as "Let's all just agree to disagree." 🙂 The zen approach to SDN is to always assume the best of a post. It tends to fly against reason (or my natural cynicism), but that's the only way I keep my sanity.

 

[BrokenGlass]

all of us are going thru difficult time. most students on here worked really hard to get to this point in their life. this thread is about dealing with rejections from medical schools. there is a stigma attached to the word "rejection", but in fact many successful doctors have been rejected by a med school at least once.

Please share how you deal with such rejections, give advise, and most of all, i hope this is a productive thread that will help others😀 go thru this grueling waiting game.

and remember we only need one acceptence to become doctors 😀

lots of luck

P.S. if this thread is repetetive, please feel free to delete 🙂


ok i'll start: as i mentioned in the other thread, i tear those thine envelopes. for some reason, it gives me joy to do that.

If the thin envelope in question contains no anthrax, I am willing to forgive the sender(s).

 

[lisichka]

If the thin envelope in question contains no anthrax, I am willing to forgive the sender(s).

aren't you the one that's feeding it lettuce to make it fat? doesn't sound very forgiving to me😛

 

[BrokenGlass]

aren't you the one that's feeding it lettuce to make it fat? doesn't sound very forgiving to me😛

spinach, not lettuce. I do it more for amusement than for revenge.

 

[Profligate]

I kept the letters for about three days and then trashed them. Depressing.

 

[TopDocChick]

I love this thread. I don't know where my three rejection letters are. I always open them somewhere around my house and then they get lost amongst the piles of papers that will one day be filed or trashed. I have a feeling that when I get an acceptance and we are forced to pack our belongings to move, I will find those letters again.

Three rejection letters, don't I have four? Oh yea, GW will probably be in tomorrow's mail. So far i am only allegedly rejected. I haven't actually received the letter.

Paradocs, I love your idea the best. I think i might save my letters to use that way as well. 🙂

 

[Dendrite]

I like to think it's all about perspective. It could have gone either way (ok, probably more one way than the other), but I chose to read "No comment" as "Let's all just agree to disagree." 🙂 The zen approach to SDN is to always assume the best of a post. It tends to fly against reason (or my natural cynicism), but that's the only way I keep my sanity.

I agreed with your original post, that being rejected post-secondary is, in many ways (not all), more relieving than being rejected post-interview after putting in a lot of money, hopes and dreams.

And just an aside to all the new SDNer's, especially to those who took her original post the wrong way, Phoenix is probably one of the most helpful people on this forum. I remember reading good advice she gave to others before October 15 and before I even became a member - helped me out anyway.

 

[Phoenix.]

Wow Dendrite, you honestly just made my night. Any chance you're interested in a position as my PR rep? Looks like I'm in sore need of some good spin. 😉

 

[SoFlaKnight]

Just got my 1st shaft from U of Rochester...Complete and utter indifference to the fact that I won't have to use underground tunnels to get through snow next year🙄

 

[Foghorn]

I'm happy that you have acceptances to multiple schools, I really am, but we get it. You can stop posting about it in every thread.

Maybe you should learn how to use the ignore function.

 

[tulane07]

Eh, I don't even know where the letters are now. I kind of just toss them aside. All it does is heighten my anxiety about the future, not put me in an angry or jealous mood. My first one was my top choice though so that was the only one that really got to me.

I tend to "celebrate" with cookies and cream ice cream.

 

[AlexMorph]

I keep them around to remind myself of the failure that I am. 🙁
Just kidding, I keep them around because UCSF was really nice. Wisconsin was ... not so nice. Effin' cheeseheads. Another reason to despise them.

 

[paradocs we are]

I love this thread. I don't know where my three rejection letters are. I always open them somewhere around my house and then they get lost amongst the piles of papers that will one day be filed or trashed. I have a feeling that when I get an acceptance and we are forced to pack our belongings to move, I will find those letters again.

Three rejection letters, don't I have four? Oh yea, GW will probably be in tomorrow's mail. So far i am only allegedly rejected. I haven't actually received the letter.

Paradocs, I love your idea the best. I think i might save my letters to use that way as well. 🙂

😉 Thanks! You, dendrite and I can then send a triple rejection!! YAY, this will be even better than I thought.

 

[paradocs we are]

I agreed with your original post, that being rejected post-secondary is, in many ways (not all), more relieving than being rejected post-interview after putting in a lot of money, hopes and dreams.

And just an aside to all the new SDNer's, especially to those who took her original post the wrong way, Phoenix is probably one of the most helpful people on this forum. I remember reading good advice she gave to others before October 15 and before I even became a member - helped me out anyway.

My original post stated something along those very lines. I don't know how Jolie seemed to miss that (or Phoenix for that matter).

I like to think it's all about perspective. It could have gone either way (ok, probably more one way than the other), but I chose to read "No comment" as "Let's all just agree to disagree." 🙂 The zen approach to SDN is to always assume the best of a post. It tends to fly against reason (or my natural cynicism), but that's the only way I keep my sanity.

Well I chose not to comment because it would be fruitless. I don't need to respond to someone else's defense of what Phoenix really meant, especially if that defense was so utterly exaggerated. I know what Phoenix meant. I STATED THAT I KNEW THAT. I thought Phoenix's statement could have been easily misconstrued and I voiced that opinion. Period. End of story.

umm, kay. i was just suggesting that if that was the case, then it would be obvious that she was trying to brag. the manner with which she stated her point was far from this.

i wasn't suggesting that I or anyone else feels "superior" because we have already been accepted. I don't see what point that would serve. We are going to be colleagues in the future, remember?

how does everything i say on this dang board get misconstrued?

Bragging doesn't have to be obvious. But that's besides the point.

 

[Phoenix.]

Ok, so we're all buddies.

And now, back to our regularly scheduled programming.

Anyone want to nominate what they anticipate to be their most painful rejections this cycle? For me: 1) Mayo, 2 & 3) Northwestern and Pritzker, tied.

 

[paradocs we are]

Ok, so we're all buddies.

And now, back to our regularly scheduled programming.

Anyone want to nominate what they anticipate to be their most painful rejections this cycle? For me: 1) Mayo, 2 & 3) Northwestern and Pritzker, tied.

Thanks!

Me: 1) University of Toronto
2) University of British Columbia

 

[drizzt3117]

Thanks!
Me: 1) University of Toronto

Isn't that the most difficult medical school in the world to get into, statwise?

 

[Aynsl156]

1. Harvard. Don't make fun of me, I've worked for them since sophomore year.
2. Michigan. Though I kind of assume it's the case (pre-interview hold = death).