Tough decision to make. Long commute or seeing Husband only on weekends.

[shellew94]

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I'm taking my pre-reqs part-time right now so I still have a bit of time to figure things out.

Unless I get into Creighton's distance program I'm going to have at the least a 2 hour drive to the closest pharmacy school. Is it even realistic to think I could commute and still have time to study? The only other option is to stay on campus or near the school during the week and come home weekends.

We've decided my Husband needs to stay because of his job and because he has visitations with his daughter. It's bad enough that I won't get to see her much, there is no way I would want him to move away from her.

I'm sure I'm not the first one to make this same decision and I'm just looking for some advice. Either way will be rough. I don't want to move away from my Husband. I married him because I like being with him every day. It's only four years right?

Michelle

 

[kittycatblues]

Two hours each way each day is too far to drive to go to classes. 🙁

 

[Sparda29]

I'm taking my pre-reqs part-time right now so I still have a bit of time to figure things out.

Unless I get into Creighton's distance program I'm going to have at the least a 2 hour drive to the closest pharmacy school. Is it even realistic to think I could commute and still have time to study? The only other option is to stay on campus or near the school during the week and come home weekends.

We've decided my Husband needs to stay because of his job and because he has visitations with his daughter. It's bad enough that I won't get to see her much, there is no way I would want him to move away from her.

I'm sure I'm not the first one to make this same decision and I'm just looking for some advice. Either way will be rough. I don't want to move away from my Husband. I married him because I like being with him every day. It's only four years right?

Michelle

How many miles is it from where you are now to the closest Pharmacy school? And do you get to choose your schedule?

Maybe a better solution for you would be to get an apartment 1/2 way between where you live now and the school.

 

[SexyPlexi]

I was going to say what Sparda said. Would that be an option?

 

[nerv12345]

you could probably do it but it's going to take a toll on you
my sister went to USC dental school, which was only 35 miles away, but LA traffic made it a 2 hour drive each way
she's smart as hell so she could handle it---so if you DO decide to drive, make sure you realize that you are taking 4 hours out of your day and that you will be VERY tired when you come home (and this may affect your studying..i know i can't study well when i'm tired)


also remember that if you do get an apartment..your husband could come visit you once or twice during the week once in a while and you could do the same...so it's not like you'll be seeing him STRICTLY on the weekends. you also have thanksgiving+winter+spring+summer breaks to spend that extra time w/ him :]

 

[shellew94]

I live in Upstate NY. I am about 85 miles from St. John Fisher and 125 miles from Buffalo. My Husband works very close to where we live now and his daughter is about 20 minutes away. Moving halfway might be an option too.

There really is no "good" option I guess. I won't start applying to schools for another year or so yet, so we have time to think about it. I probably shouldn't even be worrying about it yet, but it is occupying my thoughts quite a bit lately.

That is true that it won't "just" be weekends. There will be breaks/holidays in there too. 🙂

 

[MrBoba]

I have no experience with long distance relationships or ever had been in a situation like this, but I thought I'd tell you what I think.

If you go back to school and live there, it'll make you feel like a student (well, I mean, that's what you're going to be!) again. Seeing your husband on the weekends will be like the old days, when you couldn't wait to see your boyfriend when you had the time.

Sounds like it couldn't do much harm to you or your husband; the only problem I see is that your husband has a daughter, who is now part of your family. It's tough breaking apart a family. When it's just between two spouses, it isn't as tough. Kids need their parents (even their step parents).

However, long commutes sounds like it will make pharmacy school hell. I might have exaggerated there, but pharmacy school itself is really tough. Taking 4 hours out of your day, driving through some traffic, it takes its toll on you. You might end up not being able to handle it, and drop out. Pharmacy school is temporary, and it's important to put family first, but in some cases, your own life is more important. Don't let this stop you from becoming a successful pharmacist. I vouch for you to stay on or near campus.

 

[tellsarah]

Hmmmm....being as though I have spent a total of 4 months with my husband in the past 15 months and will not be with him again for another year, I dont think 2 hrs is anything but I do think seeing him on the weekends is the best option. If you need to go home during the week, then you are not that far anyway. Honestly, if you really want this, you and your husband will make the sacrifice. Last year I was dead set on getting into the crieghton distance program, but honestly I dont think that will happen.

Good luck.

 

[Moxxie]

I went through exactly the same thing. My husband couldn't get a job in Pocatello, where ISU's main campus is. He was able to get a job in Boise, which is ~230 miles away. For the first two years of pharmacy school, he lived with family in Boise and I kept an apartment in Pocatello. We saw each other pretty much every weekend and longer on breaks.

It worked out well for us, but we were sure to talk every day. We also had already been married for 7 years when this started, so we were very secure/comfortable in our relationship. I'm not sure if we could have done it for 4 years, though. I just wanted to let you know that it can be done.

Good luck!

 

[extremebio]

I'm in a very similar situation. The closest school to me is SIU-E, which I'm crossing my fingers I get into after that PCAT on Saturday! My wife is in nursing school and I don't want to move the kids that far from family so... I'll probably choose to move and see them on weekends.
With gas prices being what they are, that just kindof seals the deal for me.

Unless I get into Creighton's distance program I'm going to have at the least a 2 hour drive to the closest pharmacy school.

Anyone know anyone that is/has been through that program? I'm curious to know more from someone who's been.

 

[mrblah]

finding a place half way is the best compromise. You do not want to be overwhelmed in PharmD. school.

 

[PharmDream10]

Last year I was dead set on getting into the crieghton distance program, but honestly I dont think that will happen.

If you don't mind me asking, why do you say that? Just curious as that is my top choice.

 

[PharmDream10]

I'm in a very similar situation. The closest school to me is SIU-E,

Hey, me too! But its about 1.5-2 hours away from me and I can't drive that far for school.

 

[shellew94]

Thank you everyone for your replies.

Seeing your husband on the weekends will be like the old days, when you couldn't wait to see your boyfriend when you had the time.

What's that old saying? Absence makes the heart grow fonder? I imagine you are probably right. I'm sure we do take each other for granted sometimes and sometimes I do miss those old days.

Honestly, if you really want this, you and your husband will make the sacrifice.

I'm not worried so much about myself. I will be so busy and I'm such an introvert anyway. He is an extrovert and needs constant attention. He tells me he will be fine. He was actually the one that suggested I live on campus. It shocked me at first. I do appreciate the fact that he is so supportive.

My step-son is on leave from the Army for a couple of weeks and stopped by today. He just came back from Iraq. It was good to see him...it's been a long time. Then it hit me. Here I am all worried about just seeing my Husband on weekends and there are so many people that have spouses overseas in the middle of a war. It kind of put things into perspective for me.