Trying To transfer or swap

[kookie79]

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Hi everyone..i just have a little question...i'm currently an intern doing my residency in texas....my husband is in dc and i'm trying to transfer but whenever i call the programs,they tell me they dont have any slots in the dc,maryland,virginia area and the programs that recruit new residents in the second year havent gotten back to me...can anyone help me with any tips or suggestions to getting a transfer?i have an infant whos suffering b/c of us not being together....
Plus anyone interested in swapping with me from the dc area...i'm in a decent university program in houston tx
thank you for your help

 

[Pir8DeacDoc]

not that I specifically care but what are you doing your residency in (i.e. how much longer are you going to be in Tejas)? Also, I imagine before someone would think of switching with you they'd like to know that information.


You should search a touch more broadly. You may be limiting yourself to the DC Metro area and leaving out Charlottesville, Roanoke, Richmond VA or Baltimore, MD


Are those ideal for you? Probably not but it's a helluva lot closer than Tejas.

 

[Winged Scapula]

I'd add Philly, central PA and Delaware to the list of places closer to DC.

At any rate, its incredibly hard to swap as well as to transfer. One would assume you knew that your husband and infant couldn't come with you, so it wouldn't be unreasonable for a PD to ask, "why did you rank a program in Texas if you weren't willing to be there?" Seems like sour grapes at this point. Its a perfect example of caveat emptor...don't rank a place you wouldn't be happy going.

Programs can't just take an extra resident on. If there is an open position, you obviously can apply for it, but I wouldn't expect programs to have a mass of open positions in such a limited area, especially at the PGY-2 level. You may have to repeat your intern year to maximize your chances. Have you thought about trying to get a position as a an intern for next year?

 

[kookie79]

i'm doing my residency in psychiatry......n well yeah i'm actually including dc,MD,VA,Delaware, and Charlotsville in my search....anything in a 2 hr drive range...havnt included PA though...repeating the intern year is something i didnt think of but i guess i could consider it if its not too late already....and yes my husband would have moved with me but his mom had a stroke and got parlayzed and he wants to be near her and all of them live in VA so i cant even ask his mom to move b/c she says all her other family (husband and children) are there.i thought it would take him time but he would eventually get over it and decide to move but apparently not....

 

[Pir8DeacDoc]

so you are going to up-end your entire career/residency and consider reapplying for residency because your husband is a momma's boy?


I don't mean to sound insensitive but what is he able to do to aid her recovery? If just being there is it, then it seems he's making a pretty strong statement about where your happiness sits on his list of priorities.

 

[Winged Scapula]

i'm doing my residency in psychiatry......n well yeah i'm actually including dc,MD,VA,Delaware, and Charlotsville in my search....anything in a 2 hr drive range...havnt included PA though.

Pennsylvania is actually closer to DC than Charlottesville. Southern VA is about 4 hrs from the district.

..repeating the intern year is something i didnt think of but i guess i could consider it if its not too late already

Its not desirable, but it might afford you the best shot.

....and yes my husband would have moved with me but his mom had a stroke and got parlayzed and he wants to be near her and all of them live in VA so i cant even ask his mom to move b/c she says all her other family (husband and children) are there.i thought it would take him time but he would eventually get over it and decide to move but apparently not....

Its hard to comment about the above without sounding judgemental, but like the post above says, it sounds like he's told you where his priorities lie, and its not with you. Staying for a short period is fine, but his priority should be to you, your marriage and child.