VCOMmom---> I must respectively disagree with you. It is absolutely NOT ridiculous to tell this person they should have prepared for this fee. Again this fee was not "secret", but common knowledge for anyone that put 2 seconds into researching a school (which frankly should be done to prepare for an interview). At my VCOM interview we were told about it and the required time frame to pay it also. No one in my interview group was surprised about it. In fact no one at any of the 4 schools I interviewed was unaware that a large fee was required to hold an acceptance (we are talking 75+ people total). So while, yes, there may be some people who do not know a fee is required it is the small minority of those accepted and I will still say "shame on them" for not preparing for it or at the very least for not knowing about it. I can see how it would be hard to prepare for it for some people, but not knowing about it? C'mon like I said it is common knowledge and listed in several places.
I do agree that some of the other fees or expenses were a bit of a surprise (such as background check fee, etc). But I fully knew about the fee to hold my seat. I'm not saying this persons parents should pay for it, people merely suggested family MAY be an avenue to pursue, if that was an option. It is also not rude to suggest this as an option. For one thing family can be a general term and mean aunts/uncles/grandparents not just parents. I know not everyone has this option available, but as several others have said there are many, many other options. Heck just do a search here on SDN and you will see several threads regarding paying for the deposit and other expenses before school starts and what people have done. So this person COULD have gotten some creative ideas on how to pay for it....again if he/she would have done 1 second of research about it instead of complaining about not getting his/her way at VCOM this would not be an issue.
I think what got so many people upset was the way this poster came on here complaining about not getting their way regarding this fee and calling people out (BY NAME!) who were simply following policy. WE HAVE ALL HAD TO PAY THIS FEE!!!!!! No one asked about the OPs financial status because, I'm going to be honest, I don't care. We all have our own "sob story" about family/personal circumstances. Want to hear mine? No, I didn't think so. I could definitely pull some heart strings, but I still paid this fee without complaining publicly. Yep I certainly grumbled privately to my family and friends, but I didn't call people or a school out publicly! We all had to find one way or another to come up with it and you don't see any of us complaining like this. Most of us have had to drastically struggle to come up with the money for it. Yes, my parents also helped me pay for this, but that doesn't mean it was any less of a struggle (my parents are on fixed incomes). As you said your family sacrificed to pay for it, so did mine!! I went so far as to sell some stuff on ebay/craigslist, pick up more shifts at my job (I also go to school), go without other things for a couple of months so that we could come up with it. But since I knew about the fee I had a couple of months to prepare, but that still doesn't mean it wasn't a hardship for us.
If you are wanting to complain about the fee and how high it is that is fine. But please stop acting like this is something against VCOM, because there are tons of other schools who make you pay a similarly high fee. Lets all complain about high deposits in general (they are ridiculous!), but this is not unique to VCOM. 🙂 Yes it is high and it is a lot of money and I don't agree with it being so much (believe me I grumbled about it as I saved for it), but that is something totally different than not doing research to learn about it and prepping for it and then blaming the school when you were unprepared to pay it and call admins rude for not changing their policy for one person. So let's not act like it is something brand new that VCOM just surprised you with. As I've said it is stated in several places...IT'S NOT A SECRET! It is these peoples own fault they didn't research the school enough to realize there was a substantial deposit, THEN also not researching their options to pay for it. That may seem harsh, but in reality it is the truth!!!
To correlate my seemingly lack of compassion for the OPs inability to pay this fee to my apparent ability to sympathize with my patients is ridiculous. How the heck is this also similar to telling poor people not to be poor (and when did anyone ever say that???)? That is two completely different things. Who is to say I DON'T sympathize with the OP? I DO, in a way!!! Because I've been through the same dang thing and that fee really was a struggle, but I stopped complaining about it and did something to come up with it. My main point was this person should have been more prepared by researching it...either about the fee in the first place or how to pay for it. OR this person should have come on here to ask what others have done or for ideas to raise money, before blasting admin at VCOM for doing their job. That is what irks me. The OP didn't simply complain about the fee or their lack of ability to pay, they publicly berated admins at VCOM for doing what they are supposed to do! THAT is what should be bothering you! What I also find disturbing is that more people didn't speak up to defend the admin at VCOM or call the OP out for being unprofessional and for blaming VCOM for his inability to pay the deposit.