I always wanted to be a doctor. However, I am LDS (mormon) and many people in our religion (including past religious leaders) seem to think that a woman working outside the home when the man can provide is a no no. I ignored this until I married the kindest man. He is even willing to stay home with the kids (which we do not have yet) so that I can go to school, despite his traditional upbringing and the fact that he is finishing his software engineering degree. However, I still feel guilty for my dream.
Personal experience makes this harder: my mother was a naval commander, and it was hard on our family, especially when she left for Afghanistan and I was left to deal with my unfaithful, aggressive, substance-abusing father, and to try to monitor my suicidal little sister who had lost it because of our father's abuse (he liked to pick and choose between which of God's commandments he would obey, twist them until they suited his wants, -- an example I want to be sure I do not follow). My religion and belief in God is basically what helped me keep it together instead of going off the rails like my younger and older sisters. So, I am super hesitant to just disregard the teachings in our church, even though I wonder if some people have been teaching me "culture" as opposed to the church's pure doctrine.
I long to go to medical school, but my current degree (medical laboratory science B.S.) will allow me to help take care of future children, should something happen to my husband, and my husband will be able to provide plenty for me to stay home in the mean time.
Doctor Moms ... was/is it worth it to lose time with your babies while you live the dream?
Have any of your husbands *truly* been okay with staying home with the kids?
Has is made any difference to the kids whether mom or dad was the primary caretaker?
Any mormon mommy doctors out there with advice?
Did you feel like you disobeyed God?
Even as I write this I feel so stupid for letting a religion affect my decisions so much, but when no one was there for me, God was, so how can I just disregard the only one who's always been there through all the crap? Literally, like sending me dreams to warn me about the present and future and always looking out for me? Since I'm in a much safer situation now I feel like He leaves me to myself more, like He actually wants me to be an adult and make my own decisions ... dang it. So I just want to hear from someone who has been there.
Personal experience makes this harder: my mother was a naval commander, and it was hard on our family, especially when she left for Afghanistan and I was left to deal with my unfaithful, aggressive, substance-abusing father, and to try to monitor my suicidal little sister who had lost it because of our father's abuse (he liked to pick and choose between which of God's commandments he would obey, twist them until they suited his wants, -- an example I want to be sure I do not follow). My religion and belief in God is basically what helped me keep it together instead of going off the rails like my younger and older sisters. So, I am super hesitant to just disregard the teachings in our church, even though I wonder if some people have been teaching me "culture" as opposed to the church's pure doctrine.
I long to go to medical school, but my current degree (medical laboratory science B.S.) will allow me to help take care of future children, should something happen to my husband, and my husband will be able to provide plenty for me to stay home in the mean time.
Doctor Moms ... was/is it worth it to lose time with your babies while you live the dream?
Have any of your husbands *truly* been okay with staying home with the kids?
Has is made any difference to the kids whether mom or dad was the primary caretaker?
Any mormon mommy doctors out there with advice?
Did you feel like you disobeyed God?
Even as I write this I feel so stupid for letting a religion affect my decisions so much, but when no one was there for me, God was, so how can I just disregard the only one who's always been there through all the crap? Literally, like sending me dreams to warn me about the present and future and always looking out for me? Since I'm in a much safer situation now I feel like He leaves me to myself more, like He actually wants me to be an adult and make my own decisions ... dang it. So I just want to hear from someone who has been there.