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In a word: Misguided.
Instead of sending e-mails to dermatologists, I suggest you contact some psychiatrists.
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um why? did it come across as ocd or something?
She stated that it was overwhelming because it was in fact overwhelming. That is an unreasonably large request to make of someone that you have never even met, independent of how you feel about her. Were you to be given the same inquiry (say, by a middle school student who admired your ability to matriculate at Duke and wanted to emulate your pathway), I am sure that you would find it to be both challenging and burdensome to address all of the inquirer's questions/concerns at once (many of which, by the way, I would view as being too open-ended/case-specific). That having been said, it is hardly the kind of incident that threatens to permanently scar your pending relationship (I would bet that the most this dermatologist did was chuckle about it over a dinner conversation).AspiringDerm89 said:So far, only one of the derms that I contacted has responded and she referred to my letter as too burdensome for her to answer right now! I feel really guilty and sad now, and I hope I haven't ruined any opportunities to talk with them in the future! Please give me your honest opinion on your thoughts on my letter and how I came across! Is it OCD? Overwhelming? Overstepping of professional boundaries??
I don't mean to be rude, but I think a lot of your questions came off as pretty juvenile (i.e. asking what is "cool" and "most digusting" about their job). In what context do you know the physicians you sent this to? That could make a big difference in how it is perceived.
I wouldn't say you've necessarily burned any bridges, but if I were you I would talk to your school's pre-med advisor before you do anything like this again. They should be helpful in answering some of your more general questions and also in formulating a more appropriate letter to specialists.
Do not mention specific questions.Dear Dr. (Dr.'s Name),
I apologize for my earlier email, I had intended to send that version to my advisor for editing! I hope that you will forgive that error. As I stated, my name is Bob the Builder, and I am a student at Duke University. I am working towards earning admission to medical school. I have a definite interest in the art and science of Dermatology, and your name has been mentioned as a leader in the field.
I am emailing to inquire if you would consider advising me as I embark on this difficult but worthwhile path. I am perusing the vast resources available to me as an undergrad, but would appreciate your input.
I know that you are very busy, and I will very much appreciate a response from you.
Sincerely,
Bob the Builder
it's thursday night, until right now i had nothing else to do.Is anyone elses bull**** meter going off right now? I smell a troll.
She stated that it was overwhelming because it was in fact overwhelming. That is an unreasonably large request to make of someone that you have never even met, independent of how you feel about her. Were you to be given the same inquiry (say, by a middle school student who admired your ability to matriculate at Duke and wanted to emulate your pathway), I am sure that you would find it to be both challenging and burdensome to address all of the inquirer's questions/concerns at once (many of which, by the way, I would view as being too open-ended/case-specific). That having been said, it is hardly the kind of incident that threatens to permanently scar your pending relationship (I would bet that the most this dermatologist did was chuckle about it over a dinner conversation).
The key to establishing a good relationship with this dermatologist (or with anyone you meet in life, to be honest) is to use moderation. When attempting to show your amorous interest in someone, for example, you do not immediately disclose all of your deepest ambitions and worst flaws on the first date. Rather, you work your way up to a point (that may take several dates over several weeks) where both of you are comfortable communicating more openly than normal. Apply that analogy to the dermatologist. In attempting to establish a professional relationship, you do not want to dump everything on her during "the first date." Rather, you want to take it slowly, first introducing yourself, giving her a brief outline of your background/interests, and - most importantly - determining whether or not such a "consultative" relationship is even appropriate in the first place (she may, for example, not be interested in "mentoring" someone, in which case you'd need to find another inspirational figure to contact). After a while, if she is willing to offer advice, you can then open up and begin to ask all of the juicy questions that pertain to entering her specialty. In fact, I'd bet that she would answer many of them for you without even being asked were you to show more tact in getting to know her.
So please, slow down!!! While I do admire your early yet strong dedication to a specific medical specialty (something that most people do not possess until well into medical school), you need to remember that you are not even through your first year of college. You have plenty of time to build good relationships with individuals (such as this dermatologist) who will help you in your quest to become a dermatologist yourself.
Sigh....
Where do I start? I'm gonna bite my tongue about the email.
Here's what you should do:
1) Try to get some shadowing time with dermatologists. Try here first.
http://www.osteopathic.org/YOM/Mentor_exchange.htm
2) Try to get a job (paid or volunteer) at a dermatological practice.
3) Try to get a job (paid or volunteer) at a dermatology research lab.
4) And before you send off professional correspondence, ALWAYS let someone read it over for you before you send it.
as a derm applicant i suggest you downplay your interest in cosmetics. Find out if you like medical dermatology first (the skin, rashes, pathology, ect). You will be spending 95% of your time in medical derm during residency so you need to love it. Cosmetics come later and in much smaller proportions (unless you pursue a cosmetic fellowship--but even then, you must love basic derm first).
Ouch. How long ago did you do this?
you could try emailing them again, apologise for the first email- blame windows, that always works "sorry i didn't mean to add those questions at that time, stupid microsoft"- and send a short short short version.
Also, do your own damn research. You can google programmes.
Do not mention specific questions.
as a derm applicant i suggest you downplay your interest in cosmetics. Find out if you like medical dermatology first (the skin, rashes, pathology, ect). You will be spending 95% of your time in medical derm during residency so you need to love it. Cosmetics come later and in much smaller proportions (unless you pursue a cosmetic fellowship--but even then, you must love basic derm first).
it was amazing.I missed the original post but gather that it was ******ed, ridiculous, and hysterical.
Damn.
EDIT After thinking about it maybe you are serious OP. I wish I had some enthusiasm like you do. Good luck