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Hello,
the doctor that i was shadowing said I appear to lack self-confidence and I shouldnt be so quiet with patients. It is true that I lack self-confidence and I am shy around people I dont know. but putting that aside, I dont even know what to say to patients.
the doctor is very outgoing and he likes to joke around with his patients. I am completely the opposite, I am serious. I know this is not good, but if I were a doctor I would just see the patient, treat him, goodbye. Not "how many children do you have?" "where does he go to school?" "oh, you went to the game, what was the score?" things like that. Once again, I know you need to make a relationship with the patient, and see them as a person not as a symptom. OK maybe if I was a doctor I would ask "how many children do you have?" but as a student, can i ask something like that? isnt that inappropriate?
As someone who knows nothing about medicine, and doesnt like to joke, what comments can I possibly make? And how do I know which comment is appropriate and which might sound rude or nosy?
i have nothing to say and even if i have something to say, i think it might be inappropriate and offend someone so i say nothing but patients sometimes tell me i am too quiet.
Also sometimes the doctor makes a joke on me, something like "oh this hernia is as big as Tom's head" (my name is Tom)
and the attention is now on me, and I say in my head "say something clever. say something funny."
but the problem is again
1. i have nothing to say
2. anything that comes to mind sounds rude
So i just smile and move on.
the doctor that i was shadowing said I appear to lack self-confidence and I shouldnt be so quiet with patients. It is true that I lack self-confidence and I am shy around people I dont know. but putting that aside, I dont even know what to say to patients.
the doctor is very outgoing and he likes to joke around with his patients. I am completely the opposite, I am serious. I know this is not good, but if I were a doctor I would just see the patient, treat him, goodbye. Not "how many children do you have?" "where does he go to school?" "oh, you went to the game, what was the score?" things like that. Once again, I know you need to make a relationship with the patient, and see them as a person not as a symptom. OK maybe if I was a doctor I would ask "how many children do you have?" but as a student, can i ask something like that? isnt that inappropriate?
As someone who knows nothing about medicine, and doesnt like to joke, what comments can I possibly make? And how do I know which comment is appropriate and which might sound rude or nosy?
i have nothing to say and even if i have something to say, i think it might be inappropriate and offend someone so i say nothing but patients sometimes tell me i am too quiet.
Also sometimes the doctor makes a joke on me, something like "oh this hernia is as big as Tom's head" (my name is Tom)
and the attention is now on me, and I say in my head "say something clever. say something funny."
but the problem is again
1. i have nothing to say
2. anything that comes to mind sounds rude
So i just smile and move on.
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