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Hi, I am 30 and I have already applied for this year, and received my first call for interview last week. I am wondering when is the best time to have a baby. I have a 17 months old, and would like to have one more child. If I wait until I am done with residency, I will be almost 40, a bit too old for this task. Do any of you know how flexible schools to allow deferral and time off during med school?
So here are my thoughts, assuming that I get accepted.
Option I: Get pregnant now, and defer for a year. So I will start the classes in 2007, my older child will be 2 and half years old, and my younger one will be a little over 1-year old. The pros for this option are that I will be able to spend a good amount of time with them with my undivided attention. By the time I am doing residency, they will be old enough to go to school and more independent. My mom is willing to come help out for 6 months-1 year if needed. It also gives my husband more time to look for a job. The cons for this option are that I will have two very young children going into med school. I heard having two is more than doubling the work, especially if they get sick. Some people warn me that I might also loss my motivation to go to med school, afterall. One more concern is that if I get pregnant now, will it hurt my chance of getting accepted when the interviewers see that I am due not long before matriculation?
Option II: I heard that between 3rd and 4th year might be a good time to have a baby. I can get pregant during the second year, and deliver right after the board exam, take a year leave of absence. My baby will be under 1-year old when I start my 4th year. The Pros for this one is that I will only need to worry about 1 child during the first two years. The cons are that I will have to go back to school and residency when my second child is still young, I woundn't be able to spend as much time with my children as option I.
Option III: Have a baby during residency. I don't know very much about this option. If you know anything or have any other suggestions, please let me know.
Also, how does work if there are multiple acceptances? Is a deposit required to hold the seat? How long do we have to decide?
I know it is a long message with lots of questions, i would really appreciate your input and help!!
So here are my thoughts, assuming that I get accepted.
Option I: Get pregnant now, and defer for a year. So I will start the classes in 2007, my older child will be 2 and half years old, and my younger one will be a little over 1-year old. The pros for this option are that I will be able to spend a good amount of time with them with my undivided attention. By the time I am doing residency, they will be old enough to go to school and more independent. My mom is willing to come help out for 6 months-1 year if needed. It also gives my husband more time to look for a job. The cons for this option are that I will have two very young children going into med school. I heard having two is more than doubling the work, especially if they get sick. Some people warn me that I might also loss my motivation to go to med school, afterall. One more concern is that if I get pregnant now, will it hurt my chance of getting accepted when the interviewers see that I am due not long before matriculation?
Option II: I heard that between 3rd and 4th year might be a good time to have a baby. I can get pregant during the second year, and deliver right after the board exam, take a year leave of absence. My baby will be under 1-year old when I start my 4th year. The Pros for this one is that I will only need to worry about 1 child during the first two years. The cons are that I will have to go back to school and residency when my second child is still young, I woundn't be able to spend as much time with my children as option I.
Option III: Have a baby during residency. I don't know very much about this option. If you know anything or have any other suggestions, please let me know.
Also, how does work if there are multiple acceptances? Is a deposit required to hold the seat? How long do we have to decide?
I know it is a long message with lots of questions, i would really appreciate your input and help!!