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I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years, going on 11. During this time, we have gone through a lot together (his parents divorce). We get along well and rarely ever argue. But, he takes our relationship for granted.
I have always been the giving, I'll-take-care-of-the-both-of-us person of the relationship. And he has always been the one on the receiving end of the relationship. (He is an only child.) But after a long time, it gets tiring to always be the giving one. In the past couple years, I've voiced that I need him to show effort on his part to do things that make me happy. (Weve talked about it several times but things don't really change for long.) I feel like he has taken for granted and come to expect all the little things that I do to take care of him. (And, he never does any that stuff unless I ask for it.)
I start med school in the fall, and I told him that I will need his support when I go to school. (And, just to clarify, he does not work in the health profession.) He promises to support and try to take care of me once I start school, but I have doubts because he doesn't help out unless I ask. I don't expect him to be at my beck and call, but I want him to help out without me asking.
He's not all bad: He's nice, completely faithful, and laid back. And, he was completely willing to move with me out of our state to be with me at school. What should I do? I feel like I can't give anymore when so little is being reciprocated in this relationship. Is it time to call it quits even though we have so much history together? Or do you think I just need to accept that this is the nature of our relationship?
I have always been the giving, I'll-take-care-of-the-both-of-us person of the relationship. And he has always been the one on the receiving end of the relationship. (He is an only child.) But after a long time, it gets tiring to always be the giving one. In the past couple years, I've voiced that I need him to show effort on his part to do things that make me happy. (Weve talked about it several times but things don't really change for long.) I feel like he has taken for granted and come to expect all the little things that I do to take care of him. (And, he never does any that stuff unless I ask for it.)
I start med school in the fall, and I told him that I will need his support when I go to school. (And, just to clarify, he does not work in the health profession.) He promises to support and try to take care of me once I start school, but I have doubts because he doesn't help out unless I ask. I don't expect him to be at my beck and call, but I want him to help out without me asking.
He's not all bad: He's nice, completely faithful, and laid back. And, he was completely willing to move with me out of our state to be with me at school. What should I do? I feel like I can't give anymore when so little is being reciprocated in this relationship. Is it time to call it quits even though we have so much history together? Or do you think I just need to accept that this is the nature of our relationship?