@msgeorgeeliot,
There are a lot of people on this thread that continue to expect/demand you contort yourself. Rephrase your comments and questions! Make them more palatable! How dare you attempt to provide a space for female voices first?
Is it really so difficult/offensive that men on this forum read and reflect on women’s experiences before jumping in with their own?
Many posters are denying that the behavior patterns here are problematic, denying that they have anything to do with toxic masculinity, and telling the OP that the conversation should not exist or only exist in pm.
This is why posters leave this forum. Their experiences are minimized and invalidated before they even have a chance to share them.
My own experience has been that it is not worth wading through the **** of mocking, bullying, and toxic masculinity to get “advice”. The advice here isn’t particularly unique. There are many other ways to get support, mentorship, and guidance in this field without subjecting yourself to becoming troll fuel. There are posters here that get their kicks from criticizing and mocking students and early career psychologists. They show up on most threads, regardless of content. When their behavior is called out, they minimize it, refuse responsibility, claim it is “tough love”, whatever.