Wow.
Anonymity has its pluses and minuses on this forum. We have talked a bit about the pluses. A very important minus is that it facilitates a “safe space” for people in a dominant position to condescend to those who have less power.
Much like racism and the other -isms: things tend to get ugly when people in power feel safe to really *tell it like it is.*
Speaking of safe spaces, I would like to offer my own ;tldr on how the dominant group* has responded to my OP:
On the one hand, I’m hearing, to put it crudely, “sheesh, grow a pair.” On the other hand, I’m hearing, “why don’t you go create your own safe space where you can talk about your niche thoughts and feelings while exchanging rainbows and hugs?” And on yet a third hand (must not make joke), I’m hearing, “you and your liberal echo chambers are everything that is wrong with America!”
* #notallmen (I’m serious!)
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@Psycycle , I don’t have the time or f*cks to conduct a content analysis of this forum. Nor will I supply “evidence” on demand when the evidence is right here, right now.
I am so disappointed that the MeToo movement has been twisted beyond recognition in this thread, derailing a discussion that was bending for the good. I think it was in bad faith to juxtapose the movement — albeit rhetorically/innocently! shrug! — with white supremacists and trolls.
MeToo is not a gathering space for hate. The popular misconception is that it’s about bringing men down. In reality, the movement is about centering the needs of survivors of sexual violence *of every gender expression.* Boys and men hurt too; the evidence is overwhelming.
The founder of MeToo, Tarana Burke, has a great MO when it comes to boundaries: “I don’t facilitate bullsh*t.”
Well, me neither. Not anymore.
Have a nice weekend, everyone.
Your colleague,
@msgeorge