Stepping aside from all the aspiringosteo stuff,
I have shadowed and volunteered with many doctors who were quite nice. Polite, sure, but also generally friendly, fun to speak with, willing to discuss their lives. This was in some stressful situations, too.
And I've worked with doctors who are much more in line with the OP's complaints. What kind of physician do I strive to be? I can tell you which doctors made more of a lasting impression.