The SDN flaw parade

[Cornfed101]

Halo 3 custom games was the GOAT

change my mind

nAH bRo FoRTniTe!

Haha I have actually never played fortnite so I will have to agree on Halo 3 custom games.

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[notsobabydoc]

Lack of confidence. I’m too hard on myself, downplay my accomplishments, and focus too much on the negative. This all sometimes negatively impacts my productivity as well. I also get anxious in certain social situations.

I am confident, but I am equally very hard on myself. Sometimes that makes me very unhappy.

 

[mwsapphire]

Yes. Most of the crushes I've had are with guys who haven't dated.

Nothing as attractive as a mildly socially awkward, intelligent, sometimes sporty, family-oriented type of guy.

Hm...talking about types here. We're very similar.
I like mildly awkward, intelligent guys, lanky build. Don't care about sports and am too young to fully understand if my peers are " family-oriented" ( that's always something that can change later, ya know).
Muslims don't date...but I've had my innocent crushes...

 

[thegrind33]

Halo 3 custom games was the GOAT

change my mind

MW2

 

[907914]

Muslims don't date

Cross cultural question for understanding - how does marriage work then?

 

[notsobabydoc]

god, this thread is so heteronormative! lol

 

[907914]

god, this thread is so heteronormative! lol

Bring some flame, my guy.

 

[imbesrs]

MW2

Can add my full support to this. The grind33 and I would def be good friends I can tell based off this response

 

[notsobabydoc]

Bring some flame, my guy.

that WAS the flame. I am becoming this post-MCAT P/S convertee!

 

[imbesrs]

I am becoming this post-MCAT P/S convertee!

This guy is hilarious!!!

 

[Heliobacter]

god, this thread is so heteronormative! lol

Not entirely caught up, but here’s my non-hetero perspective.

Not to seem like a vessel for internalized homophobia, but I’ve found it really tough to date in college, because I don’t identify with many aspects of modern college gay culture both because of my cultural upbringing and my actual personality. However, I’ve found that I vibe well with other neurotic premed (gay) guys hahahaha.

There’s also that nagging sense of needing to think about settling down soon, and my med school location preferences are likely to be largely based on that.

(Guys with WARS S or above hit me up)

 

[imbesrs]

nagging sense of needing to think about settling down soon

Settle down in med school. Pick ya school and select from that community? Almost done w senior year anyways unless there is someone youve been seeing

 

[notsobabydoc]

Not entirely caught up, but here’s my non-hetero perspective.

Not to seem like a vessel for internalized homophobia, but I’ve found it really tough to date in college, because I don’t identify with many aspects of modern college gay culture both because of my cultural upbringing and my actual personality. However, I’ve found that I vibe well with other neurotic premed (gay) guys hahahaha.

There’s also that nagging sense of needing to think about settling down soon, and my med school location preferences are likely to be largely based on that.

(Guys with WARS S or above hit me up)

I hear you. I am glad I settled down with my husband, very happy. But for single gays, this is a huge factor! I have friends working as tenured professors where they just can't find anyone to date...

 

[Heliobacter]

Settle down in med school. Pick ya school and select from that community? Almost done w senior year anyways unless there is someone youve been seeing

Yeah that’s what I figure, but the pool is small LOL. Might have to broaden my search or go to a city with many med schools.

 

[thegrind33]

Can add my full support to this. The grind33 and I would def be good friends I can tell based off this response

The new mw better not dissapoint

 

[907914]

Guys with WARS S or above hit me up

In this gender fluid time we live in, my cup is probably filled solidly 85% of the way with straight juice. But in another universe, my friend.

 

[imbesrs]

Yeah that’s what I figure, but the pool is small LOL. Might have to broaden my search or go to a city with many med schools.

Think youll find solace at Loma Linda i suggest EDing there if it doesnt work out for you this cycle

 

[notsobabydoc]

Yeah that’s what I figure, but the pool is small LOL. Might have to broaden my search or go to a city with many med schools.

yep, as a med student or anyone who's highly educated, the pool for gay dating limits dramatically.

 

[mwsapphire]

Cross cultural question for understanding - how does marriage work then?

So arranged meetings with someone you are interested in, kind of like the Jewish concept with another person present. You're allowed to be friendly with the person first, just no real, intimate, physical relationship.

 

[imbesrs]

a city with many med schools.

On the real though, best bet is to pick a school with a lot of graduate programs (Law, Med, PhD, etc.) too if this is an actual concern of yours for med school selection! Edit: unless you strictly wish to see/date guys who are also in medicine

 

[907914]

So arranged meetings with someone you are interested in, kind of like the Jewish concept with another person present. You're allowed to be friendly with the person first, just no real, intimate, physical relationship.

Is it like.....transnactional or something? Like, who arranges what?

 

[notsobabydoc]

So arranged meetings with someone you are interested in, kind of like the Jewish concept with another person present. You're allowed to be friendly with the person first, just no real, intimate, physical relationship.

can't grasp that from the gay perspective lol

 

[mwsapphire]

Is it like.....transnactional or something? Like, who arranges what?

It's ...complicated. But it does work! Two of my peers only 5+years older than me are happily married and still in the lovey-dovey phase like 3 years later. One girls fell in love with someone she met at the Muslim Student Association and they got married when she was like...22. You'd think they just got married.

can't grasp that from the gay perspective lol

LOL nobody said oversharing isnt' allowed at these "dates" XD

 

[imbesrs]

So arranged meetings with someone you are interested in, kind of like the Jewish concept with another person present. You're allowed to be friendly with the person first, just no real, intimate, physical relationship.

This is also the way hindu arranged marriages are heading (am hindu, not strict or following these protocols by any means). Theres actually sites/apps that are meant for this exact purpose its pretty crazy

 

[mwsapphire]

This is also the way hindu arranged marriages are heading (am hindu, not strict or following these protocols by any means). Theres actually sites/apps that are meant for this exact purpose its pretty crazy

Yeah, it works out. Hard to explain to other cultures but it works out.

 

[notsobabydoc]

This is also the way hindu arranged marriages are heading (am hindu, not strict or following these protocols by any means). Theres actually sites/apps that are meant for this exact purpose its pretty crazy

my bff is hindu, we are trying to stage a fake marriage so she can get her money that's supposed to be saved for her wedding.

 

[907914]

It's ...complicated. But it does work! Two of my peers only 5+years older than me are happily married and still in the lovey-dovey phase like 3 years later. One girls fell in love with someone she met at the Muslim Student Association and they got married when she was like...22. You'd think they just got married.

LOL nobody said oversharing isnt' allowed at these "dates" XD

No doubt it works! There are a billion muslims on Earth, so something has to be going right lol It is more or less just a foreign concept to me. But I love learning so please do share whatever you want or are willing! I am sure we would all be curious, the mulitcultural and diverse applicant body that we are.

 

[imbesrs]

my bff is hindu, we are trying to stage a fake marriage so she can get her money that's supposed to be saved for her wedding.

Is she LGBT as well? Or she just wants to cut ties from her parents after receiving the money? Whats the motive behind the fake marriage?

 

[Heliobacter]

On the real though, best bet is to pick a school with a lot of graduate programs (Law, Med, PhD, etc.) too if this is an actual concern of yours for med school selection! Edit: unless you strictly wish to see/date guys who are also in medicine

Boston, NYC, or SFBA would be the dream.
Of course followed very closely by Loma Linda.

Don’t think I can afford to limit myself to guys in medicine haha.

 

[notsobabydoc]

Is she LGBT as well? Or she just wants to cut ties from her parents after receiving the money? Whats the motive behind the fake marriage?

nah, she insists she's straight. in any case, her parents know I am married lol. we are just joking around about that. Quite traditional family for her.

 

[notsobabydoc]

Boston, NYC, or SFBA would be the dream.
Of course followed very closely by Loma Linda.

Don’t think I can afford to limit myself to guys in medicine haha.

if you'd like to work as a real gay activist lol

 

[deleted804295]

So arranged meetings with someone you are interested in, kind of like the Jewish concept with another person present. You're allowed to be friendly with the person first, just no real, intimate, physical relationship.

Dating isn't just physical. You can have an emotional connection with someone and set boundaries. Muslim parents always tell their kids no dating when in all reality they 100% dated before having kids.

 

[imbesrs]

This thread has gone from honest -> supportive -> open discussion -> hilarious -> informative (current state). One of the best threads on SDN socially ngl

 

[907914]

SDN socially ngl

But you aren't here to socialize, right *Wink*

We gotta keep a core concept of flaws (which are still getting thrown in here) or else the man is gonna shut us down.

 

[mwsapphire]

No doubt it works! There are a billion muslims on Earth, so something has to be going right lol It is more or less just a foreign concept to me. But I love learning so please do share whatever you want or are willing! I am sure we would all be curious, the mulitcultural and diverse applicant body that we are.

No problem! ( It's good that you asked, I'm not offended/upset by it. I know it was a legit question and not a derogatory one.)

 

[Heliobacter]

But you aren't here to socialize, right *Wink*

We gotta keep a core concept of flaws (which are still getting thrown in here) or else the man is gonna shut us down.

Well, being unable to find a life partner might be rooted in personal flaws. :x

 

[premed20172017]

One of my best friends is a lesbian who met her girlfriend by picking her up at a bar (I believe they were talking about sports, then went on a tangent about philosophy). Anyone can do it! Straight, LGBTQ, purple, ET, everyone! A good pickup line/convo crosses all boundaries!

It doesn't have to be sports related, either!

 

[Heliobacter]

One of my best friends is a lesbian who met her girlfriend by picking her up at a bar (I believe they were talking about sports, then went on a tangent about philosophy). Anyone can do it! Straight, LGBTQ, purple, ET, everyone! A good pickup line/convo crosses all boundaries!

It doesn't have to be sports related, either!

Noobs like me have to use “the Tinder”.

 

[notsobabydoc]

Noobs like me have to use “the Tinder”.

grindr may lead to a good result lol who knows!

 

[premed20172017]

No problem! ( It's good that you asked, I'm not offended/upset by it. I know it was a legit question and not a derogatory one.)

Does the imam usually set people up, or is it like another person in the community? Thanks for explaining to us!

 

[Orangekiwi]

One of my best friends is a lesbian who met her girlfriend by picking her up at a bar (I believe they were talking about sports, then went on a tangent about philosophy). Anyone can do it! Straight, LGBTQ, purple, ET, everyone! A good pickup line/convo crosses all boundaries!

It doesn't have to be sports related, either!

*Laughs in introvert*

 

[and 99 others]

(Guys with WARS S or above hit me up)

I'm straight but that interview to application ratio boutta make me do something...

 

[Heliobacter]

grindr may lead to a good result lol who knows!

Perhaps, but not for prudes like me XD

 

[imbesrs]

Noobs like me have to use “the Tinder”.

You ever use Grindr? or is that for hookup/ONS culture only?

edit: im slow and topic was addressed

 

[premed20172017]

*Laughs in introvert*

Wear an earpiece when you're ready and I'll help you out!

 

[deleted987519]

ADCOMS stopping by this thread:

 

[thegrind33]

ADCOMS stopping by this thread:

Nah they’re loving this

 

[Jeremy Bearimy]

I met my current partner on Grindr. There's a lot of garbage you have to sift through but there's occasionally a nice human out there.

Be glad you're not a woman. Our best queer-specific dating platform is a deeply terrible app called Her. To stay on topic, I will claim this as a flaw.

 

[907914]

I believe they were talking about sports, then went on a tangent about philosophy

Ah, the classic “Lesbians in a sports bar.” No better love story.

 

[premed20172017]

Ah, the classic “Lesbians in a sports bar.” No better love story.

To be fair, I think it was just a bar where they had a game on? They've been together for AGES, so it just shows it works!