2018-2019 APPIC Internship Interview Thread

[Internship_Journey]

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[kathygeiss]

Not to throw yet another wrench in the mix but keep in mind that interns might be fitting in the applicant interviews during an already packed day. I had one applicant lunch after two extremely rough patient sessions and I know I was a little off compared to other interview days.

Current intern here- I think the intern happiness is a complicated topic. I think you have every right to be considering intern happiness - your happiness during this year is important. That being said, I think what I lost sight of a little bit last year is that in the end, this is a demanding 40-60 hour/week clinical year. No matter how content we are with our decisions, we aren't going to be beaming with happiness every day as much as we would if say, we found the perfect partner or perfect pair of purple blingy pumps 😉. You should be content, but in the end it is a busy year where many of us have relocated, are working on our dissertations, etc. So I think it's good to keep in mind what is a realistic level of contentment/happiness to expect to see from current interns given all of this. I hope this isn't invalidating! I also think it's important to keep in mind that in my opinion location is just as much if not more important to your happiness during this year as the actual site.

Second, I think others who have pointed out the need to keep all interns perspectives in mind and not overly consider the outlier is a good point. Of course that miserable outlier is really salient, but everyone is different - if all of them are discontented- run. If there's one and the other few are content, think about the potential individual differences at play here.

Wishing you all the best of luck! It's a stressful but exciting time.

 

[syzergy]

Current intern here- I think the intern happiness is a complicated topic. I think you have every right to be considering intern happiness - your happiness during this year is important. That being said, I think what I lost sight of a little bit last year is that in the end, this is a demanding 40-60 hour/week clinical year. No matter how content we are with our decisions, we aren't going to be beaming with happiness every day as much as we would if say, we found the perfect partner or perfect pair of purple blingy pumps 😉. You should be content, but in the end it is a busy year where many of us have relocated, are working on our dissertations, etc. So I think it's good to keep in mind what is a realistic level of contentment/happiness to expect to see from current interns given all of this. I hope this isn't invalidating! I also think it's important to keep in mind that in my opinion location is just as much if not more important to your happiness during this year as the actual site.

Second, I think others who have pointed out the need to keep all interns perspectives in mind and not overly consider the outlier is a good point. Of course that miserable outlier is really salient, but everyone is different - if all of them are discontented- run. If there's one and the other few are content, think about the potential individual differences at play here.

Wishing you all the best of luck! It's a stressful but exciting time.

100% agree. For me, it's similar to my experience in grad school. Overall I'm happy with my program (and decision to go into this field) but damn, there were some hard days. I would have trouble putting on a happy face at those times.

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[HappyPhDHopeful]

My rank list is locked in! IT'S LOCKED IN! I found 2 #wandsites and I really liked all of my other sites. Now the waiting game begins. Best of luck to everyone!! I hope we all match well

 

[psycher21]

Hi #forumfam! This has been a rough month, but 1 interview to go finally!! I'm hardcore struggling with the idea of ranking. Is anyone using some sort of spreadsheet system and assigning point values to things, etc? Any help would be amazing and very much appreciated!

PS I hope interviews have been going well for everyone!

I used the ranking method described in this article: https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/2598/bb80559048d4d8aa78cdecc67b10ad46b841.pdf
It was really helpful!!! I was having a hard time choosing between my top three--all of them are awesome and hit all of the things I'm looking for, but they each have one thing that they're not as awesome on--and this method ended up surprising me with what it showed. I used the list to inform a discussion I had with my mentor and with my partner, and I now feel very peaceful with my ranking list! Would definitely recommend for anyone else struggling with how to balance pros and cons of relatively similar and solid sites.

 

[ay1314]

My countdown app says 25 days to M-Day. I started working on a list of 25 meaningful self-care activities I will do between now and then to help me get through the painful wait. Getting that overdue massage, visiting new places in my city, trying a new cuisine, restarting a simple daily yoga routine...

Buying a pair of bomb-ass shoes just made the list. #forumfamspiration

I certified my ranking list and feel pretty good about it. Whenever I read something like 25 days til match day or ask Alexa how many days until February 23rd I get this very strange adrenaline rush/butterfly feeling in my stomach. I'm sure it's some kind of confused fight/flight/freeze response. I love the idea of doing 25 meaningful fun/self-care activities between now and then! I've already gotten a facial, two massages, and gotten back in the running routine I abandoned during interviews.

 

[onwardsandup]

I used the ranking method described in this article: https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/2598/bb80559048d4d8aa78cdecc67b10ad46b841.pdf
It was really helpful!!! I was having a hard time choosing between my top three--all of them are awesome and hit all of the things I'm looking for, but they each have one thing that they're not as awesome on--and this method ended up surprising me with what it showed. I used the list to inform a discussion I had with my mentor and with my partner, and I now feel very peaceful with my ranking list! Would definitely recommend for anyone else struggling with how to balance pros and cons of relatively similar and solid sites.

Awesome, thanks for sharing!!!

 

[justpeachy_2019]

After discussing my ranking dilemma with supervisors, I am really happy to say that I have it all sorted out! Yay!!

 

[ICantStopHittingRefresh]

What an AWESOME idea! I love the idea of having a new thing to try/new way to be kind to myself each day over the next 3.5 weeks. (Sidebar: HOW is it that long?? Also, related, how the EFF is it still January?! 😵) You'd think we'd all be pros at the waiting game by this point, AND that is certainly still not my strong suit. So thanks for the awesome idea! I'm gonna create a list for myself too 🙂

Also, please update us on whatever bomb-ass kicks you end up with! Also, can't remember if you got one or not, but I still stand by the voodoo magic goodness of the acupressure mat #acunation

I LOVE THIS!! You're starting a wonderful new trend Refresh! Thanks for the idea 🙂

I certified my ranking list and feel pretty good about it. Whenever I read something like 25 days til match day or ask Alexa how many days until February 23rd I get this very strange adrenaline rush/butterfly feeling in my stomach. I'm sure it's some kind of confused fight/flight/freeze response. I love the idea of doing 25 meaningful fun/self-care activities between now and then! I've already gotten a facial, two massages, and gotten back in the running routine I abandoned during interviews.

I like this game!

Please share ideas from your lists! Mine is still not complete...though @slaney, my first-time session with an acupressure mat is now on there. 😛

 

[bigdreamer3]

Random question. I e-mailed two of the interns at one of my top sites some follow up questions on Mon 1/22. I have heard nothing...has it been long enough to e-mail again?

 

[slaney]

I certified my ranking list and feel pretty good about it. Whenever I read something like 25 days til match day or ask Alexa how many days until February 23rd I get this very strange adrenaline rush/butterfly feeling in my stomach. I'm sure it's some kind of confused fight/flight/freeze response. I love the idea of doing 25 meaningful fun/self-care activities between now and then! I've already gotten a facial, two massages, and gotten back in the running routine I abandoned during interviews.

I am so inspired by your pampering! Love it! #treatyoself

After discussing my ranking dilemma with supervisors, I am really happy to say that I have it all sorted out! Yay!!

YAYYYYY!!!!! So happy you were able to come up with a list that's right for you! What an awesome feeling

I like this game!

Please share ideas from your lists! Mine is still not complete...though @slaney, my first-time session with an acupressure mat is now on there. 😛

Yes, I agree: this is a great way to encourage healthy(ish) and adaptive(ish) ways to pass the next few weeks! I'm thinking of doing some baking to bring to my lab meeting/prac site (win-win for everyone!). I also wanna get back to a regular exercise routine and keep reading the several novels I started during interviews. Maybe get my hair cut? My friend and I are also planning to get our nails done the night before Match, so that's a fun thing for the night-before. I'm also thinking of squeezing in some quality friend time with the folks I'll be leaving soon. And of course, lots and lots of acupressure mat time!

edit: I also plan to do a shot after I submit my rankings (hence healthy(ish) and adaptive(ish) 😉)

 

[ReallyFutureDrLove]

My fiance of 5 years broke things off the other day out of the blue. We were getting married in June before our plans to move for internship. Wow, I thought life couldn't get any worse...I was very very wrong. Well, now I can move far, far away and have a new start I guess.

 

[OpalinePhoenix]

My fiance of 5 years broke things off the other day out of the blue. We were getting married in June before our plans to move for internship. Wow, I thought life couldn't get any worse...I was very very wrong. Well, now I can move far, far away and have a new start I guess.

Oh god. Sending you ALL the love and support and hugs (or if you don't like physical affection, then something else...). If you want to talk, PM me. I'm so sorry - there are few ways to up the stress more than that, and I'm so impressed that you're even getting through your days.

 

[slaney]

My fiance of 5 years broke things off the other day out of the blue. We were getting married in June before our plans to move for internship. Wow, I thought life couldn't get any worse...I was very very wrong. Well, now I can move far, far away and have a new start I guess.

Oh god. Sending you ALL the love and support and hugs (or if you don't like physical affection, then something else...). If you want to talk, PM me. I'm so sorry - there are few ways to up the stress more than that, and I'm so impressed that you're even getting through your days.

Echoing OpalinePhoenix. I am just so, so sorry. I can't even imagine what you must be feeling. Please let us know if there are ways we can help support you and I'm also available if you want to talk. Wishing you some semblance of peace and comfort, friend. <3

 

[affectiveH3art]

My fiance of 5 years broke things off the other day out of the blue. We were getting married in June before our plans to move for internship. Wow, I thought life couldn't get any worse...I was very very wrong. Well, now I can move far, far away and have a new start I guess.

Wow sorry to hear! And just at an odd time. Take care of yourself! You can PM if you need to vent/process


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[onwardsandup]

My fiance of 5 years broke things off the other day out of the blue. We were getting married in June before our plans to move for internship. Wow, I thought life couldn't get any worse...I was very very wrong. Well, now I can move far, far away and have a new start I guess.

I am so sorry to hear that. Add me to the list of people you can PM to process as well

 

[HappyPhDHopeful]

My fiance of 5 years broke things off the other day out of the blue. We were getting married in June before our plans to move for internship. Wow, I thought life couldn't get any worse...I was very very wrong. Well, now I can move far, far away and have a new start I guess.

I'm so sorry to hear this - as if this process weren't vulnerable enough!

 

[ToneTone]

My fiance of 5 years broke things off the other day out of the blue. We were getting married in June before our plans to move for internship. Wow, I thought life couldn't get any worse...I was very very wrong. Well, now I can move far, far away and have a new start I guess.

Sending you hugs. So sorry. Pm me any time also.

 

[justpeachy_2019]

My fiance of 5 years broke things off the other day out of the blue. We were getting married in June before our plans to move for internship. Wow, I thought life couldn't get any worse...I was very very wrong. Well, now I can move far, far away and have a new start I guess.

To echo others, I am so incredibly sorry. I am also available and happy to talk to you, should you like. Please feel free to PM me. I am sending loving thoughts your way xx

 

[ICantStopHittingRefresh]

My fiance of 5 years broke things off the other day out of the blue. We were getting married in June before our plans to move for internship. Wow, I thought life couldn't get any worse...I was very very wrong. Well, now I can move far, far away and have a new start I guess.

So many hugs and so much support going your way. Words from strangers are inadequate at times like these, yet sometimes more helpful than consolation from those who know us best...my heart goes out to you, in its best inadequacy <insert a sincerely loving heart emoji here>. It's a big heart, @ReallyFutureDrLove. Take care of you in the best ways you know how. Your struggle is unique and it's clear that there are many of us who embrace and value you. As with others, PMing is invited. I went through my own major partnership end during my doc training. It is so incredibly difficult and yet not at all uncommon. You are not alone!!!

 

[Psychchick09]

My fiance of 5 years broke things off the other day out of the blue. We were getting married in June before our plans to move for internship. Wow, I thought life couldn't get any worse...I was very very wrong. Well, now I can move far, far away and have a new start I guess.

I know everyone has already said it, and I am so sorry you’re dealing with this. That person is a douche-canoe for causing you pain at an already vulnerable time. Please feel free to reach out via PM if you want to vent/talk!


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[ay1314]

My fiance of 5 years broke things off the other day out of the blue. We were getting married in June before our plans to move for internship. Wow, I thought life couldn't get any worse...I was very very wrong. Well, now I can move far, far away and have a new start I guess.

Ugh - I'm sorry. Not saying that internship had anything to do with what happened between you two at all, but I would like to add that the whole process has taken a crazy toll on my relationship. Between my anxiety about what the eff is going to happen with my life/internship and my partner's issues and our issues combined we have had so many crazy, embarrassing fights in the last couple of months. I hope you can take good care of yourself and rejoice in whatever match day has to offer you as a real, forced but helpful turning of the page.

 

[FlygirlPhD]

My fiance of 5 years broke things off the other day out of the blue. We were getting married in June before our plans to move for internship. Wow, I thought life couldn't get any worse...I was very very wrong. Well, now I can move far, far away and have a new start I guess.

I am so sorry! How awful! To echo the others, please treat yourself with kindness and let us know if/ how we can support you in this. I know there isn't a 'good' time for this to happen, but this seems like one of the toughest times. Take care.

 

[ReallyFutureDrLove]

I know everyone has already said it, and I am so sorry you’re dealing with this. That person is a douche-canoe for causing you pain at an already vulnerable time. Please feel free to reach out via PM if you want to vent/talk!


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Douche-canoe is a great word. That brought a smile to my face.

 

[White bear suppression]

Did anyone interview at both Salem VA and South Texas VA?

 

[ReallyFutureDrLove]

Thanks everyone. All I can think is that this truly is a blessing in disguise and that he did this now before rankings were due (or being going through with a doomed marrigage and then a nastier divorce), so I can at least rank how I want without his concerns or pressure. I won't be thinking "I should have or could have ranked this or that higher". I look back and realize how bad the relationship was, pretty verbally and emotionally abusive even though he played it off to me and others as him being caring. He could pretend well and go through the motions. I attract all these guys with psychological issues (the past 3 were clearly not good choices), always, so next prospect down the road is getting the PAI, Rorschach, TAT, WAIS (to make sure he isn't a total idiot), also some screeners for other severe pathology, along with my own interview- kidding, but I'll be asking more covert questions from the getgo. I am no longer following the advice to "not diagnose" a partner, I need to notice red flags a lot earlier. Also, he resented me for having education when he had no bachelor's and I know he felt inferior and intimidated. I do excel at what I do and want and he just can't, even when I gave encouragement. So, he was right, I need to find someone on a similar intellectual level who is just better at adjusting to life and change and not afraid of commitment and selflessness, even empathy! I embrace change, my ex did not, along with many other incompatibilities that I will not compromise over ever again in a relationship, if I ever even find someone who is worthy of my time. No more low expectations, I would rather be alone. He gaslighted me into feeling like I was a controlling miserable person, when it was his projections and insecurities that then made me feel like the crazy "bad" one. It seems the reality of me making more money and wanting to move up in life was too much, but I should have seen this coming, so I feel foolish and even used. And I did care about him and we had a lot of years and memories together, so it's still a crappy major loss.

 

[OpalinePhoenix]

Thanks everyone. All I can think is that this truly is a blessing in disguise and that he did this now before rankings were due (or being going through with a doomed marrigage and then a nastier divorce), so I can at least rank how I want without his concerns or pressure. I won't be thinking "I should have or could have ranked this or that higher". I look back and realize how bad the relationship was, pretty verbally and emotionally abusive even though he played it off to me and others as him being caring. He could pretend well and go through the motions. I attract all these guys with psychological issues (the past 3 were clearly not good choices), always, so next prospect down the road is getting the PAI, Rorschach, TAT, WAIS (to make sure he isn't a total idiot), also some screeners for other severe pathology, along with my own interview- kidding, but I'll be asking more covert questions from the getgo. I am no longer following the advice to "not diagnose" a partner, I need to notice red flags a lot earlier. Also, he resented me for having education when he had no bachelor's and I know he felt inferior and intimidated. I do excel at what I do and want and he just can't, even when I gave encouragement. So, he was right, I need to find someone on a similar intellectual level who is just better at adjusting to life and change and not afraid of commitment and selflessness, even empathy! I embrace change, my ex did not, along with many other incompatibilities that I will not compromise over ever again in a relationship, if I ever even find someone who is worthy of my time. No more low expectations, I would rather be alone. He gaslighted me into feeling like I was a controlling miserable person, when it was his projections and insecurities that then made me feel like the crazy "bad" one. It seems the reality of me making more money and wanting to move up in life was too much, but I should have seen this coming, so I feel foolish and even used. And I did care about him and we had a lot of years and memories together, so it's still a crappy major loss.

Totally get this. I wasn't engaged at the time, but the long term relationship I was in with what sounds like very similar dynamics ended when I moved to grad school and my partner chose to not come/break up. I resonate a lot with what you're saying regarding your role and the ones forced onto you. It was awful at the time - but in retrospect, I'm really glad it ended and I got to start over how and when I did. I hope that your fresh start for internship is similarly helpful for moving forward and wiping the slate clean. It sounds like you have some amazing perspective on it already - just be ready for that to crash and burn at various moments as you work through it, and hang in there.

 

[psy2019]

Ugh - I'm sorry. Not saying that internship had anything to do with what happened between you two at all, but I would like to add that the whole process has taken a crazy toll on my relationship. Between my anxiety about what the eff is going to happen with my life/internship and my partner's issues and our issues combined we have had so many crazy, embarrassing fights in the last couple of months. I hope you can take good care of yourself and rejoice in whatever match day has to offer you as a real, forced but helpful turning of the page.

Oh, gosh. I'm so sorry DrLove. I can't imagine what you're going through. Please don't hesitate to reach out if you want to talk. I'm more than happy to be a listening ear.

I also want to empathize with many of the sentiments that have already been expressed, as I know this process has taken a toll on my relationship as well. My partner and I are both going through match . Our stress levels, and the constant travelling, have definitely impacted the strength of our relationship. This process has seemed incredibly isolating, so it provides me comfort to come here and be able to see I'm not alone in many of the experiences I am having.

 

[Mega.N]

Douche-canoe is a great word. That brought a smile to my face.

I'm glad something made you smile. You are loved and appreciated, and you deserve better. If you're looking for random distractions feel free to PM me for doggo pictures and gifs of cats. They always help me when things are not going as well as i'd like them to.

 

[ToneTone]

Thanks everyone. All I can think is that this truly is a blessing in disguise and that he did this now before rankings were due (or being going through with a doomed marrigage and then a nastier divorce), so I can at least rank how I want without his concerns or pressure. I won't be thinking "I should have or could have ranked this or that higher". I look back and realize how bad the relationship was, pretty verbally and emotionally abusive even though he played it off to me and others as him being caring. He could pretend well and go through the motions. I attract all these guys with psychological issues (the past 3 were clearly not good choices), always, so next prospect down the road is getting the PAI, Rorschach, TAT, WAIS (to make sure he isn't a total idiot), also some screeners for other severe pathology, along with my own interview- kidding, but I'll be asking more covert questions from the getgo. I am no longer following the advice to "not diagnose" a partner, I need to notice red flags a lot earlier. Also, he resented me for having education when he had no bachelor's and I know he felt inferior and intimidated. I do excel at what I do and want and he just can't, even when I gave encouragement. So, he was right, I need to find someone on a similar intellectual level who is just better at adjusting to life and change and not afraid of commitment and selflessness, even empathy! I embrace change, my ex did not, along with many other incompatibilities that I will not compromise over ever again in a relationship, if I ever even find someone who is worthy of my time. No more low expectations, I would rather be alone. He gaslighted me into feeling like I was a controlling miserable person, when it was his projections and insecurities that then made me feel like the crazy "bad" one. It seems the reality of me making more money and wanting to move up in life was too much, but I should have seen this coming, so I feel foolish and even used. And I did care about him and we had a lot of years and memories together, so it's still a crappy major loss.

You must have been engaged to my douche-canoe ex., jk. So sorry you’re going through this now, but I def agree with the upsides. As someone who was with someone similar, I am feeling both sad, yet hopeful for you.

 

[affectiveH3art]

Thanks everyone. All I can think is that this truly is a blessing in disguise and that he did this now before rankings were due (or being going through with a doomed marrigage and then a nastier divorce), so I can at least rank how I want without his concerns or pressure. I won't be thinking "I should have or could have ranked this or that higher". I look back and realize how bad the relationship was, pretty verbally and emotionally abusive even though he played it off to me and others as him being caring. He could pretend well and go through the motions. I attract all these guys with psychological issues (the past 3 were clearly not good choices), always, so next prospect down the road is getting the PAI, Rorschach, TAT, WAIS (to make sure he isn't a total idiot), also some screeners for other severe pathology, along with my own interview- kidding, but I'll be asking more covert questions from the getgo. I am no longer following the advice to "not diagnose" a partner, I need to notice red flags a lot earlier. Also, he resented me for having education when he had no bachelor's and I know he felt inferior and intimidated. I do excel at what I do and want and he just can't, even when I gave encouragement. So, he was right, I need to find someone on a similar intellectual level who is just better at adjusting to life and change and not afraid of commitment and selflessness, even empathy! I embrace change, my ex did not, along with many other incompatibilities that I will not compromise over ever again in a relationship, if I ever even find someone who is worthy of my time. No more low expectations, I would rather be alone. He gaslighted me into feeling like I was a controlling miserable person, when it was his projections and insecurities that then made me feel like the crazy "bad" one. It seems the reality of me making more money and wanting to move up in life was too much, but I should have seen this coming, so I feel foolish and even used. And I did care about him and we had a lot of years and memories together, so it's still a crappy major loss.

I soooo get this! I was in a relationship similar to this (chaotic, he had insecurities about his education) and he left me (when engaged) one day after I gave birth to my second little one. So in some way it was good timing as you can now make decisions on your own and not look back regretting your ranking decision. You will get through it, slowly but surely!


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[ilovepsych101]

Hi all,

I'm in anxiety mode right now in light of ranking, and am curious to know how much I should over-analyze the following situation:

I had what I thought was a great interview with my top site, and emailed all of my interviewers to thank them. I only got a response from two (though one was the assistant TD). Should I take this as a bad sign? Trying to do lots of cognitive restructuring about that, but would love others' perspective. Thank you all, and best of luck on the match 🙂.

 

[HappyPhDHopeful]

Hi all,

I'm in anxiety mode right now in light of ranking, and am curious to know how much I should over-analyze the following situation:

I had what I thought was a great interview with my top site, and emailed all of my interviewers to thank them. I only got a response from two (though one was the assistant TD). Should I take this as a bad sign? Trying to do lots of cognitive restructuring about that, but would love others' perspective. Thank you all, and best of luck on the match 🙂.

Not a bad sign at all. Rank away!!!

 

[affectiveH3art]

Hi all,

I'm in anxiety mode right now in light of ranking, and am curious to know how much I should over-analyze the following situation:

I had what I thought was a great interview with my top site, and emailed all of my interviewers to thank them. I only got a response from two (though one was the assistant TD). Should I take this as a bad sign? Trying to do lots of cognitive restructuring about that, but would love others' perspective. Thank you all, and best of luck on the match 🙂.

I wouldn't even consider whether they replied at all! Just rank to your heart's content

 

[LizLemonIsMySpiritAnimal]

Thanks everyone. All I can think is that this truly is a blessing in disguise and that he did this now before rankings were due (or being going through with a doomed marrigage and then a nastier divorce), so I can at least rank how I want without his concerns or pressure. I won't be thinking "I should have or could have ranked this or that higher". I look back and realize how bad the relationship was, pretty verbally and emotionally abusive even though he played it off to me and others as him being caring. He could pretend well and go through the motions. I attract all these guys with psychological issues (the past 3 were clearly not good choices), always, so next prospect down the road is getting the PAI, Rorschach, TAT, WAIS (to make sure he isn't a total idiot), also some screeners for other severe pathology, along with my own interview- kidding, but I'll be asking more covert questions from the getgo. I am no longer following the advice to "not diagnose" a partner, I need to notice red flags a lot earlier. Also, he resented me for having education when he had no bachelor's and I know he felt inferior and intimidated. I do excel at what I do and want and he just can't, even when I gave encouragement. So, he was right, I need to find someone on a similar intellectual level who is just better at adjusting to life and change and not afraid of commitment and selflessness, even empathy! I embrace change, my ex did not, along with many other incompatibilities that I will not compromise over ever again in a relationship, if I ever even find someone who is worthy of my time. No more low expectations, I would rather be alone. He gaslighted me into feeling like I was a controlling miserable person, when it was his projections and insecurities that then made me feel like the crazy "bad" one. It seems the reality of me making more money and wanting to move up in life was too much, but I should have seen this coming, so I feel foolish and even used. And I did care about him and we had a lot of years and memories together, so it's still a crappy major loss.

That is soooo ****ty. You are so strong for even being able to talk about it.. even in a (mostly) anonymous forum. It sounds like you're trying to stay focused on the big picture. Although it sounds invalidating (which isn't my intent), what an opportunity to move, start fresh, and meet new and likely really cool people. Imagine how miserable internship year could've been with a soul-sucking partner. Live. It. Up. You deserve your wandsite and all the good stuff this experience can bring!

 

[LizLemonIsMySpiritAnimal]

That is soooo ****ty. You are so strong for even being able to talk about it.. even in a (mostly) anonymous forum. It sounds like you're trying to stay focused on the big picture. Although it sounds invalidating (which isn't my intent), what an opportunity to move, start fresh, and meet new and likely really cool people. Imagine how miserable internship year could've been with a soul-sucking partner. Live. It. Up. You deserve your wandsite and all the good stuff this experience can bring!

.... I never realized they censored our posts! I did not type ****ty if you catch my drift 😉

 

[OpalinePhoenix]

Hi all,

I'm in anxiety mode right now in light of ranking, and am curious to know how much I should over-analyze the following situation:

I had what I thought was a great interview with my top site, and emailed all of my interviewers to thank them. I only got a response from two (though one was the assistant TD). Should I take this as a bad sign? Trying to do lots of cognitive restructuring about that, but would love others' perspective. Thank you all, and best of luck on the match 🙂.

Nah, my understanding is that most places, people are so busy that they usually don't respond back.

 

[Internship_Journey]

How many times will I review APPIC match statistics...

 

[justpeachy_2019]

How many times will I review APPIC match statistics...

I did that this morning after I had a dream last night that I did not match. I may or may not have also checked again this afternoon. What I am saying is, I think this is normal for us to do 🙂

 

[slaney]

I just wanted to say how proud and inspired I am by everyone in the #forumfam stepping up when one of us was having a tough time. Y'all make me so proud and I can only hope that I end up at the same site as some of you 🙂 🙂 🙂

How many times will I review APPIC match statistics...

Probably the same number of times as I pull myself out of the "you told people your #1 choice, therefore you've jinxed it and won't match there" rabbit hole.

Also, when I started Googling for Match stats earlier today (to see the percentage of students who match with their #1 (52% btw)), the Google suggestion for just "appic match" was "appic match day 2018." AS IF WE DON'T ALREADY KNOW THIS DATE. AS IF IT ISN'T LIKE ENCODED IN OUR DNA AT THIS POINT. 😵😵😵

 

[OpalinePhoenix]

Probably the same number of times as I pull myself out of the "you told people your #1 choice, therefore you've jinxed it and won't match there" rabbit hole.

Totally this. I have become genuinely upset that between my top two sites, I've picked a #1, and therefore have begun to get really excited about it. I keep being like, DON'T DO THAT, IT'S NOT GUARANTEED AND YOU WILL BE SAD AND YOU HAVE JINXED IT. It's not working. The excitement still creeps in like a malicious cookie.

 

[slaney]

Totally this. I have become genuinely upset that between my top two sites, I've picked a #1, and therefore have begun to get really excited about it. I keep being like, DON'T DO THAT, IT'S NOT GUARANTEED AND YOU WILL BE SAD AND YOU HAVE JINXED IT. It's not working. The excitement still creeps in like a malicious cookie.

I wasn't gonna tell anyone (minus my closest friends and Mom haha) what my #1 was, but then I went back to my prac today for the first time since December and saw all of my amazing coworkers and supervisor who asked how my interviews had gone and what my favorite was and I was like "LET ME TELL YOU ALL ABOUT ITTTTTTTT!" I just got so excited to see and talk to them all and then broke my own rule and spent the rest of the day whispering to myself/the Universe "jk, it's not my #1, I actually hate it, it's the actual worst. 😵"

And here I was, thinking rational thought would return after the interview-waiting game and interview process...

 

[ToneTone]

Several years ago, if memory serves me right, my friend in the match found out her results through the site before the email. Is this still true?

 

[PsyGal192]

You guys, I haven’t posted on here too much but the few times I did I received such beautiful and supportive feedback from y’all 🙂 I just wanted to pop in and say we got this - whatever will be, will be! Just based on everyone’s vibes I truly feel like we all will match to wherever makes us most happy and successful ❤️❤️

 

[bigdreamer3]

Several years ago, if memory serves me right, my friend in the match found out her results through the site before the email. Is this still true?

Yes. From my understanding, results are sent out in e-mail waves throughout the morning EST. I'm on the West Coast (PST) and my program said in past years the e-mails have come as early as 5am PST and as late as like 9am PST.

EDIT: I should NOT respond to questions first thing in the morning. I COMPLETELY missed the word "before." It is actually my understanding that sites receive an e-mail list of who they matched with right when we do.

 

[LizLemonIsMySpiritAnimal]

Had a particularly odd match dream.. Dreamt my partner and I were looking for an apartment for me (assuming after I've matched) and the apartment we were looking at was haunted and we couldn't escape. Seems like a good sign. Glad this is the content of my stress dreams 😵

 

[OpalinePhoenix]

Several years ago, if memory serves me right, my friend in the match found out her results through the site before the email. Is this still true?

I think that's not *supposed* to happen, theoretically - in one of Greg's Q&As it says that, "Results of Phase I of the Match are released to applicants and Training Directors. Result information will be distributed by e-mail and will be available online in the NMS Match System beginning at 10:00 a.m. Eastern Time." And, on the Match Policies on the APPIC website it specifies that, "Internship training directors are encouraged to contact matched applicants by telephone as soon as possible after (but not before) 11:00 a.m. Eastern Time on the APPIC Match Day for each Phase of the Match. On each APPIC Match Day, no contact between internship sites and matched applicants should occur prior to 11:00 a.m. Eastern Time."

So, looks like they try to plan it so that you hear via email before you hear from a site, but that it's possible it could happen the other way if your email goes out late for some reason and your site is super on top of their calls.

 

[ReallyFutureDrLove]

Thank you all for your kind words and sentiments. It breaks my heart that others have had similar experiences, especially with children involved. Thank the Lord I did not have children with this man. Yesterday we went to court because I felt unsafe due to a history of verbal and emotional abuse along with a few times where he did physically push me and put his hands around my neck. I should have ended things that time a few years ago. He has angry outbursts and demanded he was coming to my house to get one of the dogs yesterday and then blamed me that all of this is my doing that I never loved him and used him all these years. I can’t even. The emotional abuse is clear now, I still feel guilty like I had a major role in this. The judge also ruled custody of the dogs to me, which I know he is irate about. He lied under oath about thing she’s said or did to me and tried to sweet talk the judge. Why did I waste so much time with this man and that I’m sitting here still feeling like I ruined the relationship? I’ve contacted 6 places for a therapist here and it’s such a long waiting period that I won’t be seeing anyone soon.

Again, I hate to be so down on here. But I know you all have had equally crappy experiences and even the Appic process only is enough. So sincerely, thank you.

 

[member9184]

For the curious. Last year, my match day email came at 6:55 am CST.

 

[WisNeuro]

For the slightly neurotic. Last year, my match day email came at 6:55 am CST.

FTFY 😉